Are Orgasms Ruining Us?

This is sober October. Right. So me and Ari and Bert and Tom, we have this thing. Yeah, oh I know. We do every October. And you're reading a book? It's on right now. Yeah, we read 500 pages. That's good. What are you reading? Bert can't read. Like Bert sitting down with a book. He's not reading. Is so hilarious to me. I don't believe it. See, it's on the honor system, so I think he's probably going to throw an audio book on and just lie. Yeah, you can't. No, I heard you guys talking about that. No audio books. No audio books. It's like listening to a podcast. No, no, no. He's got an eyes to page. Right, and then I want a book report. I haven't even started. I haven't started any books. I'm listening to a bunch of books on tape, which is most of the way I consume books. Can I recommend a book to you? Please. Okay, get ready. I'm ready. It's called Cupid's Poisoned Arrow. And it's about how orgasms are ruining us. And our relationships and our happiness. And it talks about how I'm all for this right now. And it's a wild concept. And I've only read three chapters of this book, so I don't have all the information. But what I do know is that orgasms are this rush of blood to whatever. Your limbic system is all fired up when you have an orgasm. And everything we do in our lives to have stability and kind of lower anxiety and fight depression is about balancing that and not spiking it ever. So orgasms are throwing us off constantly. And we're not supposed to be having this many of them. Men should. Here's the thing, though, about men and orgasms is that they want to run right after they come. It's in your DNA to get the fuck out of there. Because as a caveman, you can't make something pregnant twice. So once you came onto the next teepee to fuck the girl's cousin that you just... It wasn't about you weren't going to stay in cuddle. So that's why men want to fucking run. Let me tell you something as a man. Yeah. That's not really true. What? It's only true if you don't actually like the person. If you only attracted them in horny. If you're only attracted to them in horny, but you don't like them as a person. Yeah. Once you come, you're like, Oh my God, I gotta get out of here. But if you like them as a person, once you come, you're like, that was great. They just want to hang out. Trust me. I am actually a man. I do trust you, but I also think that you would want to hang out even more if you didn't come. That's not true. Really? Yes. Here's my thing though. I've had a lot of instances. This book spoke to me because I cannot trace what happens between a guy liking me and slow fading me, then to an orgasm. You're an intense person. Okay. And you're very smart. You're also very ambitious and without any derogatory intent saying this at all, you're a lot of work. But it doesn't mean you're bad. It just means you're a powerful person. You got a lot going on. You're intense. Yeah. You're thinking all the time. You're questioning things. So much. You question yourself. You question this and that. And you're just, you're a lot of work. Yeah. And some guys just can't fucking deal. And maybe the right guy can. You got to find the right guy. Everybody, this is my theory on human beings. No one is for everybody. There's not one person out there that's the perfect fit for everybody. But if you find someone who has your, the right slots for your hands, like it fits in like this, then you're good. But if it lands like this, where they have two things, like they have big tits and they like to fuck, but afterwards they're annoying and they talk too much. Fuck. It's not going to work. It's not going to work. But the problem is men, look, men are horny all the time. They're attracted to women. Right. And then sometimes that horniness and that attractiveness, you get confused and think you actually like the person and you, it seems like you're a liar, but you're not a liar at the time. No, no. Before you come, you're being earnest. But then once you're spooge, you're like, I got to get the fuck out of here. This is just yappy, yappy, yap, yap, yap. Nonsense talk. I got to get the fuck away. Yeah. And then some people. That's what I feel. Right. But it's you're meeting the wrong people. You should be perfect with the way you talk. I'm so fun and funny. Yes. That's the thing. I'm like, what changed between me, us hanging out, you liked me and then I sucked your dick and now you don't watch my Instagram stories anymore. Okay. You can't ask someone to watch your Instagram stories. No, I'm not. I'm not actually asking that. But it's like that's an indication of someone likes you. Why? Because, I mean, it's just, it just means that they're checking. I don't watch any of my friends. The people I love dearly. I don't watch any of their fucking Instagram stories. Because you're not, you're not dating in on Instagram. So like, you would. No, I wouldn't. Joe. Trust me. Okay. I wouldn't. Maybe you're too busy, but here's, here's my, but if you like, that's how you show you like someone now. No, you call them up. Okay. You call people. Yeah. You hang out with them. You're nice to them. You see them. I don't want to watch you fucking eat cake on Instagram. Watch your fucking boomerangs with a fork full of cake. Yeah, you're right. I'm so not interested in that. I'm busy. Yeah. I got shit to do. And time is super valuable for me. I'm not watching anybody's fucking Instagram stories. Okay. No one. I watch them. If I watch it, it's an accident. That's how I know when someone likes me. If a guy's face keeps popping up underneath my story and I'm like, oh my God, he's watching my stuffs constantly. Is that how it works? I didn't even know that someone can tell that someone's watched your Instagram stories. Yeah. So you can flip up on them and see who's watching. And I'll, I'll speak to your point. While they're watching or have watched them. A lot of times, have watched them. And now if a lot of times a guy will be too busy or I'll be too busy, but I need to let this guy know that I like him. So I'll just flip through them very quick. I won't even watch him, but I want my face to pop up so he knows I'm interested. It's just a way to be like, hey, I'm into you. And it's just a way to indicate now that it happened. It's happened to me with a couple of guys that I've really liked that they're interested. And then after we hook up, no more. And it's not because I wasn't good at what I was doing. I really don't think it's that or like, why do you have an idea of what it was without asking? Um, well, I have asked and a lot of times or one time they've said, and then I think it's actually tells me no, a couple of times actually, I, I get, they're too vulnerable with me. And then I've seen too much in terms of like, they've let me in in a way emotionally that they've never let a woman in before. And then they're like, they're, I remind them of the fact that they might've cried with me or something and then they don't want to be around it anymore. That sounds like what I would say if I'm trying to get rid of somebody. Really? Yeah. I don't think that's true. Oh shit.