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Mark Laita is a photographer, documentarian, and creator of the YouTube channel "Soft White Underbelly." www.youtube.com/c/SoftWhiteUnderbelly www.softwhiteunderbelly.com www.marklaita.com

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0:13Mark Laita on Soft White Underbelly and his path from advertising to documenting society’s margins
10:50Advertising ethics, Skid Row trauma, and the limits of recovery
19:56Homelessness, addiction, mental illness, and the layered causes behind Skid Row

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0:09

Hello, Mark.

0:12

Hey, Joe.

0:13

How do you do what you do and maintain any...

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Mental health?

0:19

Yeah.

0:20

Let's just tell everybody, you have the YouTube show Soft White Underbelly,

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which I found a while back and just watched one video,

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and then I went down the rabbit hole.

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And today I binged a bunch of them preparing for this.

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Dude, it's so sad and so heartbreaking.

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And you interview all kinds of people, addicts, prostitutes, Johns, gang

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members.

0:52

Why Soft White Underbelly?

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Why did you come up with that name?

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You know, I remember my dad when I was in the 60s, 70s, talking on the phone

1:03

with, you know,

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I heard that term being used to, you know, it's like an analogy for the

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vulnerable part of whatever you're talking about.

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I don't hear that term anymore, but I remember it back then.

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And I always thought it was a cool name.

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Blue Easter Cult used it as their original name before Blue Easter Cult.

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So I just, it was a fun name.

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It makes people wonder what the hell it's all about.

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Well, it's very appropriate.

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Yeah, yeah.

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I think it's fitting for what I'm doing.

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Completely.

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How did you get involved in interviewing all of these people that are sort of

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downcast from society?

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So I've been an advertising photographer since I was 14 years old, or after

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high school, really.

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I went to college for it, but I was always into photography.

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And then I got into advertising, and I did that for decades and decades.

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Had a great career.

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And then what happened is, you know, you do it.

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My advertising work was so slick and beautiful and perfect, and everything is

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retouched, so it's better than life.

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And you do that for decades, and you get burnt out.

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And you just get fed up with the perfection and all the aspirational aspects of

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advertising.

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And I just wanted something that was real.

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You know, I recognized that there were things going on in the world that weren't

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so perfect.

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And I just felt like my life was out of balance, because I didn't want to grow

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old and have my kids say, you know, what did your dad do?

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Oh, he shot advertising his whole life.

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I wanted to do something different.

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And I've always done these side projects.

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Even when I was a teenager in Chicago, I was always fascinated with the drunks

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on Madison Avenue on the west side.

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You see these guys sleeping on park benches and just with a paper bag and a

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bottle in their hands.

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It was such an interesting lifestyle to me, because I didn't grow up like that.

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I grew up, you know, in a pretty perfect household.

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Mom and dad, parents loved me.

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It was great.

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But I was fascinated with all that dark stuff.

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And that continued throughout my career.

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I was always, like, doing portraits of people like that.

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And, you know, I didn't really do much with it until about 1999.

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I started working.

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You know, while I was doing advertising, I would sneak away whenever I had a

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hole in my schedule, which wasn't often.

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But, you know, for over nine or ten years, I went to each of the lower 48

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states and started photographing everything that exists in the U.S.

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Cowboys in Wyoming, drunken Indians in New Mexico, ballerinas in New York City,

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repo men in Oklahoma, auto mechanics in Alabama, pedophiles all over the

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country, polygamists in Utah, the Amish in Pennsylvania.

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Just everything, like, everything that kind of fits for, oh, that's

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Pennsylvania.

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They have Amish there.

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So I would pick that and I'd hunt it down and find it.

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So I got really good at finding these subcultures that we've all heard about,

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but you didn't really know if, you know, some of them are easy to find.

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Drug addicts are easy to find.

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But there's other subcultures that I've found that are more difficult to find

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and certainly difficult to photograph and now really difficult to interview.

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So I did that book, came out in 2010, it's called Created Equal, and I was

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really proud of it, put, you know, my heart and soul into it.

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But it didn't really, like, I would sit at a table when somebody's looking at

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it and they would go, oh, what did he sound like?

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What did the cowboy sound like?

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What did he, how did he get like this?

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How did he get this career?

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What was his childhood like?

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All these questions.

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And I honestly didn't know it for each of these 200 portraits in that book.

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And I realized if I'm going to make this really stick the way I wanted it to, I'm

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going to have to do it with an interview as a backstory.

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So it's a portrait and then I would just do these interviews that might just

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exist behind the portrait as you're looking at it.

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And that's how I started.

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And, you know, I always had studios like on Skid Row, like while I was doing

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advertising in L.A.

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at my L.A. studio, I'd have another studio down on Skid Row, which was, you

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know, cheap.

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And, you know, I would just sneak away there on slow days and just photograph

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all the drug addicts, the prostitutes, the transgenders, the mental health, you

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know, the people that are off, the rockers, everything, gang members.

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And I loved doing it, but I never really did anything with that until I started.

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Canon came out with a Canon 5D, which is a still camera that did video.

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And I just was playing around.

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I never shot video in my life.

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And I'm like, let me just put this thing on a tripod and interview somebody.

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And there was this girl, Caroline, who was a heroin addict, prostitute down on

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Skid Row.

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And I was like, hey, I got to know her.

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And I said, hey, would you want to just sit and tell me your life story?

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And she goes, sure, I'll do it.

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So she sat down and did this.

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And it was heartbreaking.

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Like, Jesus, I just hit a grand slam my first time at bat.

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Like, a really horrifying story.

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And she, so I did that.

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And I was like, wow, that was amazing.

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And I started doing a few more.

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And they were all interesting in their own way.

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Every single one was different, you know, very different and interesting.

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And I'm like, maybe there's something here.

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And went through a divorce, went through, you know, my mom, went through a lot

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of stuff.

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My mom died, went through a divorce.

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My advertising industry, you know, advertising industry changed a lot in those

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years.

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Like, this was like seven years ago, seven, eight years ago.

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And I just, I gave up my studio.

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And I just kind of like didn't know what I was doing with my life.

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And I had all these storage units for all my studio equipment and my furniture.

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I was building a house.

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So I had all my furniture in the house.

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Had like four or five different storage units around the city.

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I'm like, let me just consolidate all these into one big space.

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And maybe I'll have room for a studio up front.

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And I'll start doing those portraits and those interviews I was doing on Skid

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Row before.

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And just see if I enjoy doing that.

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Because I didn't know what I want to do with the rest of my life.

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You know, I was like, I wasn't doing advertising anymore.

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And I didn't know what I was.

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You know, I just, I was just drifting.

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And I started doing these.

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And I just loved it.

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Just loved it.

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And I started doing them every day.

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And I've done it pretty much every day for over three years now.

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What you're doing is almost the exact opposite of advertising.

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Almost the, it's a reaction to that slick, aspirational.

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You know, I shot Apple for 10, 12 years and made these products look amazing,

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right?

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They had to be perfect.

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And I'm like, life isn't perfect.

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Life is messy.

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Life can be really messed up.

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And I just, I, I, I've longed for that.

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So that's what this is.

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It's, it's, and I learned, I got all these skills, all these chops of how to

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interact,

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how to find these people, how to interact with them, how to, how to find them,

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how to connect

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with them, how to get their trust from doing Create Equal, where I did that for

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10 years.

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And I was interacting with all kinds of people from Hell's Angels down to from

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pedophiles,

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everything, you name it, everything that exists in the U.S.

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I got, when I first started, I was really shy.

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And this is going to be really hard.

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I decided this is my project.

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This is what I'm going to do.

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But when I first started, it was like, man, this is, this is not my personality

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type to

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go up to strangers and tell them what I, you know, I want to photograph you.

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That was so hard.

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But now I've gotten so good at it that it's, it's a breeze.

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You know, I've, I got to a point.

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I remember early on, I was just like so nervous to do this, to walk up to a

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stranger in a casino

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in Las Vegas and say, Hey, I think you're interesting.

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I'd like to photograph you.

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That was the first one I did.

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And then by the end, I was like, I remember I wanted to photograph the Hell's

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Angels,

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the motorcycle gang up in Oakland is like their main headquarters.

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And I just flew up to Oakland.

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You know, you can't really arrange that.

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You can't call them up on the phone and say, Hey, I want to do it.

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I'm a photographer in LA.

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I want to photograph you guys.

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That's just not going to happen.

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So I, uh, I just flew up there and I, uh, it was a morning and I ring their

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buzzer at

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their headquarters in Oakland and, uh, no answer.

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It's like nine 30 in the morning.

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I ring it again.

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Nobody answers.

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I ring it a third time.

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And somebody comes to this, this junkyard dog of a biker opens the door and

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says, what

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the fuck do you want?

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And I'm like, well, I start telling him, he just slams the door in my face.

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He goes, fuck off.

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He just slams the door.

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Like that didn't go well, but I've done this so much now that I'm so good at it

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that

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I knew to give him some time, allow him to say, no, I'm not going to force.

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I'm not going to pressure him.

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Went across the street.

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There's a Mexican restaurant that was serving breakfast.

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I got breakfast for a bunch of guys and I brought it over and I ring it again.

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He opens the door and I had breakfast for him.

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And, uh, eventually they let me in and we chatted and I eventually photographed,

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uh,

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the, uh, the president, uh, the, uh, the head of that, uh, chapter, uh, Cisco

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Valderrama

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and flash.

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And, uh, this guy's name was, uh, Marvin and it was, it was a great portrait.

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I'm proud of it.

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And it was like, I made that happen because of my ability to just go up to

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anybody, killers,

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anybody, and just walk up to him and say, Hey, this is what I like to do.

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Did you ever read Hunter Thompson's book on the hell's angels?

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No.

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It's really good.

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Not bad.

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That was his breakthrough book.

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And, uh, he was embedded with the hell's angels and hung around with them for

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long periods

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of time.

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No, it's a hell of a lifestyle.

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Yeah.

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And that's sort of where he invented that sort of gonzo journalism aspect.

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No, I, I love, I love that kind of, um, uh, William Volberg is another author.

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That's kind of like that.

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I love Bill Volberg, Volberg's work.

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Um, where it's just like you, you immerse yourself into these really fucked up

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dangerous

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situations.

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Yeah.

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And you come out with gold or you get killed or shot or knifed or whatever.

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That is a fear of yours.

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For sure.

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Yeah.

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I've been robbed so many times on skid row.

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I've had, you know, I came around the corner once and there's a gun to my face

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and it's

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like, fuck.

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But you still do it.

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Yeah.

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I still do it.

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Uh, did, did you feel when you were doing average advertising is so strange,

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right?

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Because it doesn't bother me, you know, and I, I have this sort of relaxed

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attitude

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on certain things like, well, that's not going to trick me.

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You know, some guy's talking about the hollow earth.

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Well, that's not going to trick me.

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That doesn't bother me.

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But when you think about the overall impact of what it's doing, it's giving

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people, it's

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sort of like the, part of the big problem that people have with social media is

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it creates

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these unrealistic expectations.

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And then it also has people comparing their life to what they see in

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advertising.

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Yeah.

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Advertising and social media are kind of following the same.

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Well, this is the main concern with, uh, advertising of pharmaceutical drugs.

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Cause it's all people having the best time, like at a picnic, uh, running

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through a wheat

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field.

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And like you, this could be you.

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Why isn't this you right now?

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This could be you if you just do this thing or take this thing or buy this

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thing.

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That's the manipulation of advertising.

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And what did that feel like when you were a part of that?

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Did you, you were acutely aware of it?

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I'm part of it.

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Yeah.

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I'm part of the, that process.

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And I hated the feeling of that after a while.

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Initially it was great.

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When I first started doing Apple, I was so proud of myself.

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And I'm still proud of my career.

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I love what I did in advertising and I'm, I'm so proud of that work, but I have

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to admit

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as I got older, it started feeling really like I'm tricking people.

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I'm tricking people and I'm not cool with that.

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It just, it didn't sit well with me at the end of the day.

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I'm just like, so that's how I made my money.

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That's, that's how I've, that's how I spent my life on this planet.

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And I just wanted to do something that mattered.

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Do you think that advertising should be regulated or do you think we should

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leave that up to people

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or educate people on the effects of it the same way people are trying to

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educate people

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on the effects of social media and what it, what it does to people's mental

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health.

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When you compare these unrealistic lives to yours.

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I mean, it, it, it comes down to greed.

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It's human greed, corporate greed.

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They want what they want and they're going to get it by creating these ads that

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are just better than life.

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You know, just so amazing.

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Everything's your, your life will be perfect.

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If you drive this car, if you buy this pro, you know, this phone, this, uh,

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take this drug, whatever.

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I even wonder if in this day and age, that's necessary with what I feel like

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today more than ever,

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because of social media, because of like people that actually review things and

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talk about things

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on social media, well, honestly, without, you know, bias and without being paid

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to do so,

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you can do stuff and sell stuff and it just has to be good.

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Like look at Tesla's for instance, they don't even advertise.

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And it's like the number one car in America.

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Yeah.

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It's just cause it's great.

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It's that simple.

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Obviously, there's a lot.

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It's connected to Elon Musk.

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It's this enormous figure, but.

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It's a much smarter way to market a product.

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It's not deceptive.

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Elon could come out with a running shoe or a, anything.

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Yeah.

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A drink and people would drink it.

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When you first started doing these videos, did you have to figure out a way to

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balance

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your own mental health with interviewing these people?

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Because I got to tell you, like I watched a bunch of videos today in the gym

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while I was

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working out.

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I felt like shit and I hope these feel good after I work out.

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I know it affects people in different ways.

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Some people make, oh my God, my problems are not so bad.

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My life is pretty great.

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I've heard that many times.

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I've heard that more often, but I get what you're saying.

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Cause like I'm immersed in it.

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Yeah.

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You know, what you see on my, on my YouTube channel is 1200, maybe 1300 videos

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I've done

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over 5,000 because not, not everything I shoot, like with you, you're shooting,

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you're doing

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interviews with, uh, Elon Musk and Dave Chappelle and you know, Huberman and

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they're, and they're

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great.

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You know, they're going to great.

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They're big.

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You don't need to do eight or 10 in a day.

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Like I do.

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Right.

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Like I'll, I'll do six, seven, eight, nine, 10 in a day, hoping to get one or

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two.

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But even the ones that you have where the people can barely communicate, they,

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they're almost more disturbing.

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Like I watched a couple today of homeless people where, you know, there was

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this one woman,

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she was missing one of her toes and you know, that woman and she's just the

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movement and

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the, the, the mental health, the, the obvious signs that she's very troubled

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and probably on

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some drugs.

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And it's just, do you have children?

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I do.

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I have two daughters, 19 and 22.

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Yeah.

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So that to me was like the, the, hearing the stories of how they were all

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abused sexually

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and physically when they were children and, and seeing what it leads to.

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Right.

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So I'm aware that these things go on.

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Yeah.

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I've been, I've been down on Skid Row for 12 years now, maybe 13 years.

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And so I know what's going on.

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Do you live down there?

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No, no, no, no, no.

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I, I live in Pacific Palisades, which is like the exact opposite.

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Yes.

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I live in Bel Air basically, but then I go down to the worst, I go from the

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worst part of

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town to the best part of town.

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Yeah.

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It's a big, it's a drastic change from one to the other.

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Um, but even when I was doing this before I started Soft White Underbelly, I

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was aware

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that this, this crap is going on to these people when they were kids.

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Yeah.

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And when I decided, you know, I gave up advertising and wanted to do something

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that was meaningful

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to me, I looked around like, that's a problem that needs to be addressed.

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And, you know, people say, oh, your work's exploitive.

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You're exploiting these poor drug addicts.

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Like, I understand there's an exploitive element to, to it.

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All photography has that, you know, element to it.

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But let's say I never did these videos.

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So let's say we just pretend they never, pretend these problems don't exist.

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It's all going to continue.

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And, and Caroline's kids are going to get molested by the babysitter or by the

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uncle or by whoever.

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And it's going to repeat the pattern over and over and over.

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So I figured by putting out these, you know, it's disguised as entertainment,

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but what it

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really is, is if you watch a dozen of them, you're going to learn like, fuck,

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we need to

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protect our kids.

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We need to watch our kids.

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We need to, you know, how many fathers were absent in, in these kids' lives

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that I do?

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Like, like, like 1% of them had fathers that were in their lives.

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Right.

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Like, where are the dads?

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What are they doing?

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That's so important that they can't raise their own kid.

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Well, they're probably fucked up too, which is.

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Well, that's where it goes.

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It's a never ending cycle.

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It's generation, it's cycle after cycle.

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Have you interviewed anyone and then come back years later and they straighten

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their life

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out?

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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That's happened.

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Yeah.

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Who?

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I've done 5,000.

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Right.

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And it's literally like four that I know of.

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And what has that been like?

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Like, can you give me an example?

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Yeah.

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I mean, they, um, and, and even though they've done it doesn't mean they didn't

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break down

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and relapse tomorrow, you know, today, right?

18:10

That happens all the time.

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Yeah.

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Just as they got clean, doesn't mean they're going to stay clean.

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But, um, the, the ones that I believe in the most, you know, cause some people

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told me

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they were clean, but I don't, I don't buy it.

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But the ones that I know are clean, they just, they just did it by themselves.

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They just hold themselves up and they figured out a way to wean themselves and

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change their

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routine and change their environment and eventually broke through.

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But I think you need that self-worth.

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Like you, you and I have the self-worth to go, you know, I deserve better.

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I deserve to drive a nice car.

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I deserve to live in a great house in a great city and have a great job.

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And I deserve all these things and have a great woman in my life and all these

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things.

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If you have the self-worth, you're going to accept and build those things in

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your life.

18:54

These people, especially the ones on Skid Row, the drug addicts, their self-worth

18:59

is broken.

19:00

It's broken.

19:02

And they're, they don't believe they deserve anything better than to live in a

19:04

cardboard box

19:05

or a tent on the sidewalk in the rain, in the winter.

19:09

And they're doing the drug just to escape the pain of what happened to them

19:13

when they were

19:13

seven years old, that their dad or uncle or brother or whoever.

19:18

And it's like, you, you can't fix a childhood.

19:21

How do you fix a childhood?

19:23

When you see a place like Skid Row and you see all these people that you've

19:27

interviewed,

19:29

do you try to formulate some way that these people can be helped?

19:35

Like that we can diminish this problem?

19:38

When I first really got serious, like three and a half years ago is when I

19:42

started really

19:43

just, I was down there every day doing eight, eight interviews a day.

19:47

I would see somebody who was like, oh my God, your life would be great if you

19:52

just got clean.

19:54

I was naive.

19:55

I was naive.

19:56

And, uh, I started helping them and like, we're going to get you to rehab.

20:00

And, you know, I spent so much money, like I've wasted so much money, my own

20:05

hearted money.

20:06

I just like put towards somebody that had no intention of, of really ever doing

20:10

anything.

20:11

Well, it seems like it has to come from the individual.

20:14

It can't come from, that's what I've learned.

20:17

You can't help people by saying, Hey, you got to do this.

20:20

No, I see all these comments on my videos.

20:21

Mark, you didn't help this person.

20:23

I can't change their self-worth.

20:27

You'd have to be with them 24 hours a day.

20:28

You'd have to be with them 24 hours a day.

20:30

You'd have to be spending easy 150,000, at least a year to house them, to feed

20:38

them, to

20:39

transport them, to get them therapy, to, you know, all the drugs, all that

20:42

mental health

20:43

drugs, all the, everything they're going to need, doctors, all that stuff.

20:46

It's a lot of money for one person.

20:47

And it may not, may not even work.

20:49

So I'm, I've got two kids of my own.

20:51

I got my own life.

20:52

I got bills of my own.

20:53

I got, I'm doing a YouTube channel and I'm shooting eight videos a day.

20:57

Like, when am I going to sit there and take somebody under my wing and save

21:00

them?

21:00

Right.

21:01

You know, these people are on their phones, on their sofa, texting, you know,

21:06

sending,

21:07

leaving a comment saying, Mark, you didn't help this person.

21:09

I'm the busiest person I know.

21:11

I'm the, I haven't taken a day off in over three years.

21:14

Christmas, birthday, everything.

21:16

I work every single day, either shooting or editing.

21:19

And, and these people are sitting on their phones telling me what to do.

21:23

They, they, they, they can't get off their ass and maybe, you know, clear out

21:27

their bank

21:27

account to save somebody.

21:28

But even that probably wouldn't do it.

21:31

And still wouldn't work.

21:32

What do you think could be done?

21:35

Well, I mean, it's, it's a, it's such a complicated problem.

21:41

You, you look at homeless, you have the homelessness problem.

21:43

You have it a little bit here in Austin, but in LA, it's really bad.

21:45

Let's explain Skid Row to people.

21:47

Skid Row is a neighborhood.

21:50

It's probably, I don't know how many square blocks, but maybe it's, it goes

21:55

from like roughly

21:57

because it spreads out a lot and it's spread out since I've been there.

22:01

But let's call it like from fourth or fifth street to eighth street.

22:07

Just, it's just east of downtown LA and downtown LA is cool.

22:10

It's nice.

22:11

But just, just east of downtown.

22:13

I know, I know, but it, but it looks like Austin.

22:16

I wouldn't recommend people visit.

22:18

No, no.

22:19

It's not a place.

22:20

No, you wouldn't go to LA.

22:21

You don't go to every other town.

22:23

You go downtown.

22:23

Right.

22:24

Every, every other, I'm from Chicago.

22:25

Every, you're going to say Chicago.

22:27

You spend the whole time.

22:27

If you go to visit Chicago, you spend the whole time downtown.

22:30

In LA, you should not go downtown.

22:31

Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

22:33

That's exactly right.

22:33

But Skid Row is this neighborhood just east of downtown that is the.

22:40

Yeah.

22:41

Jamie's got an image of it.

22:43

Yeah, there it is.

22:43

Let's, let's find some photos of it.

22:46

Cause it's, it's kind of an enormous swath of land that's been completely

22:50

abandoned.

22:51

It seems like.

22:52

But like, like this girl smoking right here.

22:54

Yeah.

22:54

That goes on every block.

22:56

The cops will roll by.

22:57

Nobody's stopping her.

22:59

She's smoking meth.

23:00

She's smoking, uh.

23:01

Something.

23:01

Meth or crack or whatever.

23:02

Fentanyl.

23:04

Yeah.

23:04

And they're, they're living like that.

23:07

Let's find a video of it so you can see this, this scale of it.

23:10

Cause it's pretty, it's pretty intense when you see people, uh, like I found

23:17

out about Skid Row

23:18

when we were filming Fear Factor downtown.

23:20

We filmed a lot of episodes of Fear Factor downtown.

23:22

And, um, I just, and this was early 2000s and it was.

23:29

It was, uh, nothing like it is now.

23:31

I'm sure now it's quite a bit more.

23:32

But even back then it was like, how is this one area isolated?

23:37

Like, how is this one area just filled with homeless people and drug addicts

23:42

and criminals?

23:43

And, uh, I really didn't know until I watched this Netflix series on the Jerome

23:48

Hotel.

23:49

And it was about that woman who died in, um, a water tank.

23:54

Do you, are you aware of that story?

23:55

I don't, but I've heard everything.

23:56

It's a woman who got off her meds and it was, um, there was a video of her in

24:01

an elevator

24:02

and it looked like someone was following her and she was like looking out of

24:05

the elevator.

24:06

And then the woman turned up missing and her family went to look for her.

24:09

And what it turned out was, uh, she, that's a crime scene.

24:12

I'm sorry.

24:14

Did I say the Jerome?

24:14

Cecil.

24:15

Oh, Cecil.

24:15

Where's the Jerome?

24:16

Is that down there too?

24:17

I have no idea.

24:18

I don't know the Jerome, but the Cecil is notorious.

24:20

The Cecil.

24:21

That's the one I met.

24:22

The Cecil is a hotel.

24:23

I've heard so many stories.

24:24

My, my, my favorite or the most horrifying is so many people used to get thrown

24:30

off the

24:30

roof of the Cecil hotel that the little chicken restaurant on the corner used

24:35

to have a, a jar

24:37

where you could put your money in and place bets on what floor the person would

24:41

be, have,

24:43

have been pushed out of.

24:45

Jesus Christ.

24:46

Whether it's the roof, the 13th floor, the 12th floor.

24:48

How many?

24:50

Oh, I, like, I, I've heard, like hundreds, I think.

24:54

I mean, I'm exaggerating, you know, stories get exaggerated over the years, but,

24:58

you know.

24:58

So this documentary was about this woman and she had gotten off her medication

25:02

and at first it was like a crime murder mystery.

25:05

And then as it goes on, you realize, oh, no, this lady had just, uh, escaped

25:10

from her family and got off her meds and she was paranoid schizophrenic.

25:14

And it's always, none of these stories are as simple as, oh, I just got shot or

25:18

I just got stabbed.

25:19

Yeah.

25:19

There's mental health that's mixed in.

25:21

I mean, the whole problem, like, you asked me what the problem is with, with

25:24

all this.

25:25

So you see homelessness, you see all these homeless people on the street in LA

25:28

or in San Francisco or Seattle or Portland or Vancouver or you see it in a lot

25:33

of cities.

25:34

It's really bad in LA and San Francisco and the West Coast for some reason has

25:38

a ton of it.

25:41

So, oh, you just, like what LA is doing, you put them up in housing.

25:44

Problem solved, right?

25:45

And we're done.

25:46

Not really.

25:48

No, because you peel back the layer.

25:49

The first, the top layer of that, the homeless, underneath the homelessness is

25:53

a drug addiction.

25:53

Pretty much a hundred percent across the board.

25:56

None of these, none of these people are down and out and just like, oh my God,

25:58

I'm homeless.

25:59

That doesn't happen.

26:00

They're, they're all drug addicts.

26:01

And even when they tell you they're clean, they're, they're still lying.

26:04

So you peel back the drug addiction layer and what are you going to do?

26:07

You get them, put them all in rehab, which is going to be tremendously

26:09

expensive.

26:09

It's not going to work all the time, but that would be part of the solution,

26:13

but it's not going to be the solution.

26:14

So you peel back the layer of drug addiction, you've got mental health.

26:17

They all have mental health issues and you can't just magically fix their

26:22

mental health.

26:23

You know, the damage was done when they were little kids, when they were five,

26:27

six, seven, eight years old with, with whether it's neglect or abuse, you know,

26:33

physical abuse, sexual abuse.

26:34

Whatever, just, just terrible parenting, terrible role models, terrible, and

26:38

they don't learn this, you know, like let's say you fixed, let's say you got

26:41

them off the streets.

26:43

Let's say you, um, fix the drug addiction, you get them therapy for years and

26:47

you've fixed the mental health issues somewhat, but they still don't know how

26:52

to do all the things that we all know how to do.

26:55

Like build trust in others, gain the trust of others, how to handle money,

27:02

delay gratification.

27:04

Delay gratification.

27:05

They don't, they have no concept of that.

27:07

Everything is just like, how do I make a quick buck right now?

27:10

Yeah.

27:10

That's the only thing they know.

27:12

You know, if they have a job interview on Monday, like if I, if I had something

27:15

like that or a meeting to go to, I would, I would know how to show up and I'm

27:19

going to kick ass on Monday.

27:20

These people don't know how to do anything like that.

27:23

They might, they probably won't even show up.

27:26

They don't know how to be on time.

27:28

They don't know how to do anything in order to like advance their, their lives.

27:32

They, I think it's, it boils down to their self-worth is so broken that they

27:36

don't believe they deserve anything better.

27:39

Yeah.

27:39

So if you don't believe you deserve anything better, you could be handed a

27:42

million dollars.

27:43

Here's a winning lottery ticket.

27:45

Go cash it in.

27:45

You've got a million dollars.

27:46

They're going to fuck it up as fast as you can see it.

27:49

You know, as fast as you can imagine.

27:52

Have you had any drug addicts or, um, like sad stories like that in your own

27:57

friendship circle?

27:59

No, no, no.

28:02

Like all my friends are clean as a whistle.

28:04

I've never smoked pot.

28:05

Really?

28:06

Never smoked pot.

28:07

Nothing, huh?

28:09

Nothing.

28:10

A little alcohol every now and then?

28:11

Yeah, yeah.

28:12

I mean, I haven't lately, but you know, I use, you know, I'm not a drinker.

28:15

I don't have a problem with drinking.

28:16

You know, my dad used to say to me, he still does.

28:19

He goes, you don't drink, you don't smoke, you don't gamble, you don't chase

28:21

women.

28:22

What do you do?

28:22

Everybody does something.

28:23

I'm like, I'm like, I don't know.

28:26

Yeah, I don't know.

28:27

Well, it's a sign of being raised well, maybe.

28:29

Yeah, no, I was raised really well.

28:31

You don't need the escape.

28:32

I mean, the way my mom raised me was like, I can't imagine a better, you know,

28:37

I really

28:38

think the problem, you know, so you go, you start going back to peeling the

28:40

layers back.

28:41

You go back to, um, where did I leave it off?

28:45

So you got the mental health problems.

28:46

You peel back that layer and then you got the broken family, you know, and a

28:50

lot of these stories,

28:51

dad was absent or dad was in prison, mom's on drugs, sister's a hoe, brother

28:57

was in a

28:57

gang.

28:57

What do you think she's going to turn?

28:59

Stepfather was abusive.

29:00

Yeah.

29:00

Boyfriends were abusive.

29:02

So the families are broken.

29:03

Yeah.

29:03

So you peel back that layer and why is the family broken?

29:06

Well, they're growing up in a community that there's no opportunities.

29:10

There's no education.

29:11

There's no role models.

29:12

There's no nothing.

29:13

It's just like, figure out how to survive at 12 years old.

29:16

Yeah.

29:17

And that's what, that's what they, and they're looking around what everyone

29:20

else is doing.

29:21

Everyone else is a con artist or a hustler.

29:23

I got to figure out my hustle.

29:24

And if you're an attractive female, you're going to become a hoe.

29:26

And if you're a dude, you're going to become a drug dealer or a gang member.

29:29

And you're going to rob people or do whatever.

29:31

And that's what happens.

29:32

Those are extremes.

29:33

But to some extent that happens in a lot of communities.

29:37

Growing up in a good childhood, in a good family, and then being exposed to

29:42

these people over

29:44

and over and over again, what kind of an effect has that had on, on you

29:48

personally?

29:49

Initially, I thought I was super resilient.

29:53

Like, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm strong, not, not physically strong, but I'm strong

29:57

mentally.

29:58

Like I can handle anything advertising shop, you know, you know, advertising,

30:02

you know, I

30:02

was, I was playing around with big money and big jobs and big campaigns.

30:06

And it was very, very stressful at times, but I handled it all.

30:08

I was, I was cool with it.

30:09

But when I started doing this project, I recognized that I, you know, I knew

30:15

from Create Equal,

30:16

the book I worked on, what it's like to deal with these kinds of people.

30:20

Cause I interacted with a lot of them.

30:21

So I knew, I knew getting into it, what I was, what I was, I was going to get

30:24

robbed.

30:25

I was going to deal with hustlers and con artists and thieves and liars.

30:28

I knew that, but I dove in and like, you know, that's, that's like a barrier to

30:34

entry.

30:35

Like, like people watch my channel.

30:36

Like, oh, I want to do what Mark's doing.

30:37

Good fucking luck.

30:39

Like every day I want to quit.

30:40

Well, you're really good at it too.

30:42

You, you have a very nonjudgmental way of communicating with people that allows

30:45

them to open up.

30:46

It's very, it's very comforting.

30:49

Yeah.

30:49

Yeah.

30:50

You seem like a very nice guy.

30:51

And when you're talking to these people, you know, you just, you're very flat,

30:56

you know?

30:56

Yeah.

30:56

Yeah.

30:56

I'm like, I can interview the Ku Klux Klan or a pimp or a pedophile.

31:01

Yeah.

31:02

You know, I interviewed a guy named Marshall on my channel.

31:05

He's an older, older guy.

31:07

He's probably in his seventies.

31:09

And he was having intercourse with his daughter from six until 14 and her, and

31:13

her best friend,

31:14

I think.

31:14

And he eventually did prison time for it, but he's free now.

31:18

And he's living in this, you know, he's living in Florida.

31:21

And I interviewed him and I just, I'm talking to him as if I'm talking to you

31:24

right now.

31:25

Like I, I could be interviewing or interacting with, it's not about how I

31:28

interview, it's how

31:29

I interact with others.

31:30

And he was open about this?

31:31

Yeah.

31:32

I've interviewed a bunch of those guys.

31:33

Did, did he have shame?

31:35

He didn't seem to, but he said some of the right words, but it wasn't like he

31:39

broke down.

31:40

Like if, if I had done something like that, I'd be, I'd be crying, man.

31:44

Yeah.

31:45

I wouldn't be, you couldn't.

31:47

Did that happen to him when he was younger?

31:48

I asked him about that and he said, I suspect something might have, and who

31:54

knows if that's

31:54

the truth or what?

31:55

I don't know.

31:55

Probably did.

31:56

He didn't recall anything, but he suspected that something happened.

32:00

But you do see, go ahead.

32:02

But my point is that whether I'm interviewing the queen of England or a

32:06

homeless drug addict

32:07

on Skid Row, I treat them the exact same way.

32:09

Nothing in my behavior would change whether I'm interviewing a, a, a pedophile

32:14

that's having

32:15

sex with his daughter or, or the president.

32:17

Yeah, but it comes across and it, you have a very good way of getting these

32:22

people to relax

32:24

and communicate.

32:25

I realized this, that's when I, before I started this project, I knew that

32:30

because I saw it like during my advertising career, you, you, you do with all

32:33

kinds of

32:34

people.

32:34

And I saw very over, over the course of my life, I've been around now long

32:38

enough to see

32:39

that a lot of people just love to open up with me and tell me, tell me shit

32:44

they shouldn't

32:45

be telling me.

32:46

I'm a stranger.

32:47

I'm a stranger.

32:47

You just met me 20 minutes ago, but you're like, you're telling me all this

32:49

person.

32:50

Like I, there's something about my personality that makes people just relax and

32:54

trust me and

32:56

just tell me all kinds of stuff.

32:57

Yeah.

32:58

I don't even know what it is.

32:59

I'm not, I'm not judgmental.

33:01

I know that.

33:02

Like, like even the pedophiles, like, I don't, I don't condone what he did.

33:06

I don't approve it in any way.

33:08

I think it's horrifying, but, but my job right then is not to condemn him and

33:12

say, you're,

33:13

you're so fucked up.

33:14

Right.

33:14

It's just like, let me just hear your story.

33:16

Cause I'll bet you there's something we can learn from it.

33:18

There's something that we could understand better that maybe we can apply to

33:22

figure out

33:23

how to prevent this in the future.

33:25

Do you think that's possible?

33:27

Like with all the interviews that you've done and this overwhelming number of

33:32

fucked up people

33:33

that you've interacted with, how does like skid row has grown considerably just

33:39

since I've

33:40

been there.

33:41

Like when, when I first went, there was the early 2000s.

33:44

It's much, much bigger now.

33:45

It's a much bigger problem.

33:46

It's all over the city.

33:47

Yeah.

33:47

How does that genie get put back in the bottle?

33:50

I mean, how does one ever, that's why my, my channel is not an intervention

33:55

show where

33:56

I'm trying to fix everybody and patch them up and put them back into the real

33:58

world.

33:59

I can't do that.

34:00

I'm one person.

34:01

Um, I believe, I believe the solution is to, to show people what's I'm, I'm

34:10

putting these

34:11

videos out there so you can, so everyone can see this is not, this is how this

34:14

happens.

34:15

Right.

34:16

Let's not do this anymore.

34:17

Let's figure out another solution.

34:19

Perhaps like if, if dad stayed in the family and the, the, the, the parenting

34:27

was like something

34:29

that would benefit the kid and not cause them trauma.

34:32

Right.

34:32

That would be great.

34:33

But the odds of that happening from one of your videos are very small.

34:36

Very small.

34:37

So does it feel futile sometimes?

34:40

Oh yeah, for sure.

34:40

For sure.

34:41

But I'm, I'm the most, you know, you, it's, it's ironic that I'm doing this

34:44

really, really

34:45

dark project.

34:46

Cause I'm the most positive, hopeful person you'll ever meet.

34:48

I'm like a Polly.

34:49

Still.

34:49

Yeah.

34:50

I'm a Pollyanna.

34:51

I don't think that'll ever change.

34:52

And that hasn't had any effect on your own personal relationships, the way you

34:56

view human beings.

34:59

Uh, I'm, I'm aware of how often people are con artists and hustlers and how

35:02

dishonest

35:03

people can be because I never encountered that to the extent that I do now.

35:07

Whereas I, when I go down to Skid Row, it's like a different, it's a different

35:10

world.

35:11

And literally everybody is trying to get my wallet, trying to get my, trying to

35:17

get whatever

35:18

I've got.

35:18

Right.

35:19

Camera equipment.

35:20

You name it.

35:21

Yeah.

35:21

Everything.

35:22

And it's like to be surrounded by that many hustlers and con artists and

35:27

thieves and it

35:29

wears on you.

35:30

And just recently, I exercise a lot.

35:32

So every morning I'm working out for like an hour and a half, two hours and it

35:36

never wore

35:36

on me.

35:36

You know, I don't get sore.

35:37

I, you know, I'm in great shape.

35:39

Just in the last three to four months, I'm like, God damn, I'm sore.

35:43

Like, what the fuck is going on?

35:46

Like, you know, I, I'm not doing anything different.

35:48

I'm not eating anything different.

35:49

I'm like, what, what is going on that my body is just hurting?

35:51

And I suspect what it is, it's the mental toll after three and a half years of

35:58

doing this.

35:59

It's finally catching up.

36:01

I would imagine.

36:03

I mean, I think it's inescapable.

36:05

Gabor Mate say on your show, was it, I think it was on your show.

36:08

He said, uh, that whatever happens to you mentally manifests physically.

36:14

Yeah.

36:15

And it's like, it makes perfect sense.

36:16

But I mean, mentally, it hasn't really made me crazy.

36:20

I'm not, I'm not, if I'm hanging out with my friends who have nothing to do

36:22

with this

36:23

world that I'm interviewing, the relationships like it always was, you know, I

36:28

just spend

36:29

Thanksgiving with my ex-wife and kids and my best friend.

36:31

And it was just like old times.

36:33

It's like 20 years ago, nothing changed.

36:34

But I think physically, mentally, like somehow it's affecting me now.

36:41

I don't know how it could not.

36:43

Do you wonder how long you can keep doing this?

36:45

Well, I don't really want to like, how many drug addict interviews does the

36:48

world need?

36:48

Right.

36:49

I don't think we need any more.

36:50

Right.

36:51

If you want to watch some, there's probably 500 on my channel.

36:54

Right.

36:55

You can get all you need.

36:56

So I think enough's enough.

36:59

I'll probably phase out of that.

37:00

I'm already starting to do that.

37:01

What are you going to do now?

37:03

Just more, like yesterday, I interviewed a guy, mental health issues are

37:08

interesting, sexual

37:10

fetishes are interesting, sex workers are not as traumatic as, they're not as

37:14

pathetic

37:14

and traumatic as the drug addict stories.

37:18

Yeah.

37:18

The most positive one I saw from you today was a guy who had a foot fetish.

37:21

Yeah.

37:21

Yeah.

37:22

Some of them are lighter.

37:22

It was kind of funny.

37:23

I interviewed a guy here yesterday in Austin who was, he was an oil field

37:28

worker down in

37:29

Odessa, but he moved further north to, he wanted to be a skydiving instructor.

37:35

Young kid, 20, I think he's 28, I think.

37:38

And he was, you know, he's doing his like 25th jump, I think he said.

37:43

And two of his shoes got tangled up.

37:47

You know, you have a backup shoot.

37:48

First one was, didn't open up correctly.

37:51

So he did the second one.

37:52

I think they both opened up at the same time and they got tangled up.

37:58

Held him for a while and then he fell 4,000 feet, hit a cornfield and survived.

38:05

So he survived.

38:07

The parachute slowed him down a little.

38:08

Is that what happened?

38:09

He doesn't remember because he blacked out.

38:11

Oh my God.

38:12

He blacked out and he hit the ground, broke his, everything on the right side

38:15

of his body

38:16

is just, you know, but he's alive.

38:20

And he still wants to jump?

38:22

Yeah.

38:22

He said he still would.

38:23

I asked him at the end, I go, is skydiving, do you regret skydiving?

38:26

He said, no, I'd like to still do it right now.

38:28

They won't let me.

38:28

My friend Brian, his dad worked with this lady who was a skydiver and she was

38:34

always

38:35

trying to get him to go skydiving.

38:36

Let's go skydiving.

38:37

Let's go skydiving.

38:37

And then one day he went to the office and she wasn't there.

38:40

And he found out that she died skydiving.

38:43

I mean, to me, it's such a senseless way to die.

38:46

It's a crazy thing to do.

38:48

No, I mean, he, he, he, he talked about how the, the adrenaline.

38:51

Yeah.

38:52

Uh, he became addicted to the, the adrenaline rush.

38:56

Yeah.

38:56

That's, that's his, that was his, he says it's not a drug addiction.

38:59

It's not a sex addiction.

39:00

It's a, it's a adrenaline addiction.

39:02

Yeah.

39:04

So, so stories like that are what I'm looking to do.

39:06

It's just not, not that, that's pretty.

39:08

How did you find this guy?

39:10

He emailed me.

39:11

See, I get people emailing me.

39:12

I get, I get hundreds of emails a day.

39:13

Right.

39:14

From people who go through them yourself.

39:16

Well, I just hired somebody to help me do that.

39:17

Um, but.

39:20

So you're trying to move away.

39:24

I'm trying to move away from just Skid Row drug addicts.

39:26

It's like, we don't need any more.

39:27

Right.

39:28

It gets stale after a while.

39:29

Yeah.

39:29

I mean, I'll do some once in a while.

39:30

I mean, some of these people are magnificent speakers.

39:33

They're fascinating to listen to.

39:35

Some of them, I found so many just miraculous people down there.

39:39

There's, there's great people down there.

39:41

I mean, there's not like they're, they're all a bunch of drug addicted losers.

39:43

Some of these people are just like you and me.

39:46

They just happened to got caught up in some quicksand that they just cannot get

39:50

out of.

39:50

It's so sad to listen to some of these stories when you see that's a, that's a

39:53

great person.

39:54

Yeah.

39:55

That's they're, they're stuck in quicksand and you can't pull them out.

39:59

Even if you want to, if you had all the money in the world, you could, you

40:03

couldn't pull them out.

40:04

When I was 23.

40:05

You're watching them drown.

40:06

I moved to New York and I started hanging out at this pool hall and, uh, I met

40:11

a lot of drug addicts and I had known a few people with drug problems from my

40:15

hometown.

40:15

A few people with drinking problems that couldn't stop drinking, but I'd never

40:19

been like really close to someone had like a legitimate drug problem.

40:23

And, uh, I had a friend named Johnny and he had a crack problem and, uh, he was

40:29

a great guy, like really intelligent guy.

40:32

I could play musical instruments, could do complex math in his head.

40:36

Like you could say, you could have a calculator and you could say like 500

40:41

times 50 minus 30 divided by three and he could give you the number.

40:45

It was amazing.

40:47

And you could do, you could do it with a calculator in front of him and he

40:50

would be as fast as the calculator.

40:52

He was a brilliant, brilliant guy and he was a pool hustler and, uh, I, I met

40:57

him when he was homeless and he was, you know, sleeping in these 24 hour pool

41:02

halls or he would get a, you know, a bed in these flop houses and he was just

41:07

addicted to drugs.

41:09

And he, you know, he had mental health problems and he would self-medicate and,

41:14

uh, I would, you know, I drove him to get drugs on multiple occasions and I'd

41:19

try to get him to get off of them.

41:21

And, and he would be on this rollercoaster ride where he would smoke crack and

41:25

then he would need to come down.

41:27

So he would get alcohol and he'd go and drink these 40 ounces of old English

41:31

and, and just try to like bring himself down from whatever the fuck he was on.

41:36

And then I moved out here.

41:38

He came out to visit me once and, uh, I thought we're just going to hang out

41:42

and go places and play pool, but he was coming out to try to kick heroin.

41:47

And, uh, when he came out, he just stayed in the bedroom for like a week.

41:52

He was just all fucked up.

41:53

He was just sick for a week.

41:55

And then finally at the end of the week, he came out of it and, you know, he

41:58

hadn't had any heroin in his system in a week and he was starting to come clean

42:01

and feel better.

42:02

And that was the last time I saw him.

42:05

And then the next time I talked to him, I think I saw him one time after that,

42:10

but, you know, he had kind of resumed his, I'd moved to Hollywood and I was on

42:14

a television show and we were still friends.

42:17

But he had kind of resumed his life of being homeless and drug addiction.

42:22

And then I got a call from another friend that he died.

42:25

And, uh, that was around a little bit after 2000.

42:29

And it was, it was so, it was such a helpless feeling because I knew him as a

42:34

human and he was so funny and he's so smart and so interesting.

42:38

No, some of the greatest minds, the greatest, the most charismatic, most

42:42

interesting people ever, super intelligent and talented people are living on

42:47

the streets, addicted to drugs.

42:49

Yeah.

42:49

Because it almost goes hand in hand.

42:51

You get these great minds that are so creative and they're also so self-destructive.

42:58

Yeah.

42:58

I don't know why those two things go together, but so oftentimes creativity

43:02

goes along with drug addiction.

43:04

Look at all the dead people in your lobby, all those pictures.

43:06

Yes.

43:07

Yes.

43:08

Yeah.

43:08

They all died at 27.

43:09

Mug shots of the rock stars and stuff.

43:12

Yeah.

43:12

It's, um, it's very confusing when you don't have that problem.

43:18

When you're like, why don't you just do this?

43:21

I would just do, and at the time when I met him, like now, uh, I like to smoke

43:26

pot.

43:27

I occasionally do mushrooms.

43:29

I, and I don't fuck with anything that's dangerous, you know, but, uh, back

43:34

then I didn't do anything.

43:36

So for me, it was very strange to be like clean and sober and trying to like, I

43:42

was like focused on my life.

43:44

You're not prepared because you don't have the knowledge of what he'll do for

43:48

that drug.

43:49

Also, in my mind, the people that did that were losers and idiots.

43:55

Right.

43:55

And now here's this guy who's clearly brilliant.

43:57

Yeah.

43:57

And a beautiful person.

43:59

I was one of my favorite human beings.

44:01

He was my best friend.

44:02

Yeah.

44:02

And he was homeless.

44:05

And it was, it was so strange for me to have grown up with a nice family in a

44:11

nice place where things weren't bad, you know, middle class, everything was

44:15

nice.

44:16

And then for me to be around a person like that, who, you know, spend his time

44:23

trying to rob people in pool games, pretending that he couldn't play.

44:26

It was like an art form for him.

44:28

He would just pretend he was terrible and he was, he was overweight guy.

44:32

So he looked like a bumbling loser and, you know, he would wind up getting a

44:36

bunch of money from people and then he would spend it on drugs.

44:39

And it was very, it was such a helpless feeling to watch someone who you loved

44:45

and cared about who just couldn't stop.

44:48

They just couldn't get their life in or they kept sabotaging their life.

44:53

Like no matter what happened, like whatever his, his sense of self-worth,

44:58

whatever the thing was inside of him, he just couldn't help himself.

45:03

He just couldn't stop that.

45:05

He would get off of it for a little while, decide he was going to clean up and

45:08

then dive right back into it.

45:10

Yeah.

45:11

It's so heartbreaking to watch.

45:13

And that was, he was the closest that I'd ever been to a person that had,

45:18

everyone else that I knew that had problems was like my friend's cousin or this

45:23

guy that I worked with.

45:25

Or they weren't people that I was really close with and with him, we spent so

45:29

much time together and to watch him just, just could not escape whatever the,

45:34

the gravity, the magnetic pull, the, the addiction, the thing to just like

45:39

constantly trying to get fucked up and, and escape.

45:43

Yeah.

45:44

Usually they're trying to escape something that happened in their childhood or

45:46

some, something, some lack of love.

45:49

Yeah.

45:50

Something.

45:50

Well, there's mental health in his, um, family too.

45:53

That's a big part.

45:54

I suspect, you know, there's a lot of these people that are schizophrenic or

45:57

they have these issues and they have children and it's genetically transferred.

46:01

Absolutely.

46:01

Yeah.

46:02

Yeah.

46:02

And so I think there's nature, there's nurture, there's a lot of things that

46:06

are.

46:06

It's not, not just like, Oh, you, you were molested when you were sick.

46:09

So that's why you're a drug addict.

46:10

It's, it's more complex than that.

46:12

I think.

46:12

Have you met any of these people that have gone through any sort of psychedelic

46:17

therapy?

46:18

Like Gabor Mate is a big, have you?

46:20

I've heard about it, but I've not encountered anyone who's tried that and done

46:23

that.

46:24

It's not really available to these people.

46:26

No, not in Skid Row.

46:26

Yeah.

46:27

And when you're.

46:30

You got to have the motivation.

46:32

Yeah.

46:32

First off to want to get clean and use that as a technique to do it.

46:36

And I, I, I'm, I'm hopeful that somebody, some doctor somewhere, I think

46:40

University of Chicago is doing something with skin grafts that, that help with

46:44

drug addiction, but.

46:45

Skin grafts?

46:45

Yeah.

46:46

How so?

46:46

I don't, I don't know all the details, but you know, it's just like they're

46:49

doing studies right now, I think.

46:51

But I'm hopeful that somebody is going to discover something that will cure

46:57

that drive to, to fix.

46:59

How does skin grafts work?

47:01

I don't know.

47:02

It'll, it'll come on the news if it's successful.

47:03

See if you can find what, yeah, Jamie's on that.

47:05

University of Chicago.

47:06

Skin grafts to cure drug addiction.

47:09

That's a, it is so fast, how fucking smart some people are.

47:14

Science is amazing.

47:15

Some way around it.

47:17

CRISPR modified skin grafts to treat addiction.

47:19

The skin cells are then re-implanted to the patient through a skin graft that

47:23

acts as a so-called bioengine, producing these molecules throughout the life of

47:27

the graft.

47:28

In pre-clinical studies, the engineered skin grafts protected against drug

47:33

addiction and overdose in animal models.

47:35

Whoa.

47:37

Yeah, I think they're doing human studies.

47:38

So it's modified skin grafts.

47:42

Interesting.

47:42

You know, and then there's a, here it is, it's Chicago, genetically altered

47:48

skin grafts hold promises addiction treatment.

47:51

The treatment has been shown to work in mice and the researchers hope to begin

47:55

human trials next year.

47:56

If it proves itself there, be a valuable addition to a growing but still

48:00

inadequate arsenal of addiction treatments.

48:03

I mean, it's one of the biggest problems we have in our culture.

48:05

Oh, it's, I mean, look at our country.

48:07

It's like, it's horrifying.

48:08

Right.

48:09

You come to LA.

48:10

Yeah.

48:10

It's just so embarrassing.

48:12

No, Austin too.

48:13

Austin's cleaned it up quite a bit, but there's still some spots and there's

48:17

plenty of homeless people that are, you know, on 6th Street and down that area.

48:21

It's, it's really, really fucking sad because also like people define

48:26

themselves by their lowest moment often and when you have been a person that

48:31

sleeps on the street, it's that lack of self-worth, this identifying yourself

48:37

as a complete and total failure.

48:39

It's very difficult, difficult to escape that, especially when you compare

48:44

yourself to these people that, you know, they show up for work at their tech

48:48

job and they have this normal existence.

48:50

And they're all looking down on you and treating you with disrespect.

48:53

Right.

48:54

And you're living in the streets.

48:55

It's cold, it's rainy, it's whatever.

48:56

You're obviously worthless.

48:58

Yes.

48:58

There's nobody that's reinforcing the fact that you have any self, any worth at

49:02

all.

49:03

Right.

49:03

It's just going to take you down further.

49:05

And it's probably come from your childhood of being treated as worthless and

49:10

abused and.

49:10

Yeah.

49:11

But you asked me like how I can go down to Skid Row and do this.

49:14

I've done it every day for over three years.

49:15

I think the fact that I, I am not tempted by these things.

49:19

Like you could put crack, fentanyl and crystal meth right here and they, they

49:23

would sit here for three weeks and I wouldn't even touch them.

49:25

What about four weeks?

49:26

Four weeks is when I give in.

49:28

I'm just kidding.

49:30

They'll be gone in the fourth week.

49:32

My fear about all those things, like I've never tried cocaine, I've never tried

49:35

amphetamines.

49:36

And one of the reasons why is it seems like people love them.

49:39

You know, that's, that's part of the problem is I think the, the thrill of

49:43

whatever it is that those things give people.

49:46

I think the reason, one of the reasons my channel is so popular is because

49:49

there are a hell of a lot of people who are using some of these drugs and being

49:52

functional in the real world.

49:54

I think that's true, but I also think it's just fascinating.

49:57

I mean, I don't use those things and I'm fascinated by your channel.

50:01

I mean, it's just the human condition is very fascinating to people because we

50:05

recognize all these elements in ourselves, maybe to a lesser degree, or maybe,

50:10

you know, maybe you only have an addiction to pornography, or maybe you only

50:14

have an addiction to gambling, but you see a person who's hooked on meth.

50:18

They're all the same.

50:19

And it's kind of, there's, there's parallels.

50:21

Absolutely.

50:22

Yeah.

50:22

No, you can, you can, I've, I've, there was one addict in a, a gambler who

50:26

turned into a heroin addict.

50:27

Wow.

50:28

He was a big time gambler, big time in New York City.

50:31

Yeah.

50:32

I forget his name.

50:32

Um, I interviewed him this summer and he, uh, he switched his gambling

50:36

addiction to a heroin addiction.

50:38

It was like, whew, the gambling one, it's wild.

50:42

Gambling is fascinating to me.

50:44

That's another one that I encountered when I was in the pool halls, people that

50:48

were just absolutely in, just captured by gambling.

50:52

And I never thought of gambling as being an addiction.

50:55

I thought of gambling as being just a, a weird weakness that people do to

50:58

escape their life and they just get into it.

51:01

But then I saw the actual like chemical response of these people after winning

51:06

and losing and chasing money.

51:08

And this, this, this constant side, it becomes their whole life is trying to

51:14

win a bet and trying to play and trying to recover from a bad bet.

51:19

And then trying to avoid people they owe money to.

51:21

There's so many addictions out there.

51:23

There's so many.

51:24

Whether it's sex or shopping or gambling or eating or laziness or yeah,

51:30

procrastination, heroin drinking, even exercise, which is a great addiction.

51:34

That's my addiction, but yeah, you know, that's a good one.

51:36

It's not killing me.

51:37

I don't think there's anything wrong with that one.

51:39

That one seems to actually improve the quality of your life, but it has

51:42

characteristics of impulsiveness.

51:44

Yeah, when I go to Gold's gym every morning at 5:30, I'll bet you more than

51:49

half of the people that are there, it's the same crew every morning.

51:52

We all know each other.

51:52

Mm-hmm.

51:53

I'll bet you half of them are former addicts.

51:55

Really?

51:56

Of some sort.

51:57

Well, that's a lot of people that get into like running, marathon runners and

52:02

triathletes and ultra runners.

52:03

They, they substitute this very positive addiction, the addiction of like

52:08

overcoming and just pushing your body.

52:12

Humans are wound up.

52:13

Yeah.

52:14

I know I am.

52:15

And it's like you, you know, I like, I'm never going to run a marathon.

52:18

It's not, it's not my thing, but you see people who are running marathons.

52:21

I'm just like, what?

52:22

Why?

52:22

Right.

52:23

Why?

52:23

Why would you run 26 miles?

52:25

Everything's going to hurt after that.

52:26

Yeah.

52:27

Um, but that's, that's, we have this drive to do something extreme.

52:34

It seems call it self-destruction.

52:36

I don't know what you want to call it.

52:37

So self-sabotage maybe, but so many of them are former alcoholics.

52:43

And they put that aside and they found this new obsession.

52:45

You can't just, you can't just stop drinking and be like, I'm cool now.

52:49

I don't drink anymore.

52:50

Right.

52:50

It's like, you need to find something to replace that.

52:52

Yeah.

52:53

Yeah.

52:53

And that's what people, they, they, they realized that eventually.

52:57

I mean, I know so many people that went to Alcoholics Anonymous and then they

53:00

became

53:00

hooked on coffee and cigarettes and the coffee and cigarettes, they said, this

53:04

is okay.

53:04

Yeah.

53:05

Well, that's not as bad.

53:06

It's not killing me as quickly.

53:07

And it's not forcing me to lose jobs and I can function in society with this.

53:13

And then, you know.

53:13

But my, my mind has opened tremendously from when I started this.

53:17

Like I, I really consider when I started it, maybe, you know, I kind of started

53:20

and I've

53:21

had three studios down on Skid Row, but the, the first one I had for three

53:24

years and I gave it

53:25

up, had to, had to mess up my life with the divorce and other stuff.

53:28

And then I had another one and gave her, got rid of that one.

53:31

But the third one I've had now for almost four years.

53:33

Um, but I had a friend of mine who realized my channel is what I'm doing now.

53:38

And she goes, she's known me for a long time.

53:40

And she goes, I remember driving with you through LA, we're going to a

53:43

restaurant

53:44

and you saw some homeless guy begging on the street corner, hassling you for

53:48

money.

53:48

And you said under your breath, just get a job.

53:51

Oh boy.

53:52

Isn't that crazy?

53:53

Yeah.

53:53

Get a job.

53:54

Do you want some coffee?

53:55

No, I'm good.

53:55

Thank you.

53:56

That used to be me.

53:57

Yeah, no, I think it's a mo, it's a lot of us.

53:59

Yeah.

54:00

I still say it.

54:01

Sometimes these guys come at me and they just, every day of the year, they're

54:04

coming

54:05

at me for free handouts.

54:06

Yeah.

54:07

I mean, I give away, I hate to tell you how much money I give out.

54:10

Every single day of the year, I'm given between two and 3000.

54:14

Really?

54:16

Just giving out money.

54:17

Wow.

54:17

Not like fucking Santa Claus, but like.

54:19

I know what you're saying.

54:19

But like, sometimes it's paying interviewees.

54:22

Sometimes it's paying the person who brought me the interviewees.

54:24

Sometimes it's the people who keep it quiet outside my studio door.

54:27

Sometimes it's, um, you know, I, I'm a, I'm a square white dude.

54:32

I go into South Central to, you know, I interviewed a lot of the prostitutes on

54:36

Figueroa Street,

54:37

which is not Skid Row.

54:38

It's, it's South Central LA, very different neighborhood, but, but equally

54:41

dangerous,

54:41

probably more dangerous.

54:42

In fact, um, I used to go down there and like, I'm worried about getting killed.

54:48

People get killed there every day.

54:49

You know, there's gangs are thick.

54:51

Yeah.

54:52

And they see a white guy.

54:53

I'm either a cop.

54:54

I'm either an undercover cop or I'm a trick.

54:57

Right.

54:57

And if I'm a trick, that means you can rob me.

54:59

Right.

55:00

It's like open season.

55:01

Just come, I got a wallet full of money that I'm looking to spend on a girl,

55:04

but they're going to hustle me or con me or rob me.

55:06

Right.

55:08

And the way that I can continue to do this almost three and a half years now

55:12

and, and,

55:14

you know, do it fairly safely is by spreading so much goodwill.

55:18

Like I'm generous with these people I interview and I'm generous with the pimps

55:22

and I'm generous

55:22

with the, you know, the, the gangs that control the neighborhoods or whatever I

55:27

have to do in order

55:28

to go down there safely and not get hassled.

55:31

Yeah.

55:32

So I've, I've, and especially on Skid Row, I've, I've handed out so much over

55:37

the years that it's like,

55:37

it's just, I'm like, I won't tell you what they call me, but it's a positive

55:44

thing.

55:44

Um, because, because I'm like Santa Claus down there.

55:47

Yeah.

55:47

Yeah.

55:51

You got to get out of this.

55:52

You can't keep doing this.

55:53

No, no, no.

55:54

I think, I mean, the human struggle is fascinating.

55:58

Yes.

55:58

There's not, it's not just drug addicts.

55:59

Part of the reason I'm just doing drug addicts is because I'm in LA and Skid

56:02

Row is right here.

56:03

If I don't think about it, I'll just go to Skid Row and I'll get some

56:06

interviews.

56:06

Yeah.

56:07

So now I'm making a serious effort to not do that.

56:10

Have you thought about escaping LA?

56:12

Oh yeah.

56:13

I've, I've been to, I've been all over the country, you know, for a create

56:16

equal,

56:16

I went to each of the lower 48 states.

56:18

So, I mean, I just came back from New Orleans.

56:19

What has created the book?

56:20

That's the book I did of American portraits.

56:22

It was really the template for soft white underbelly.

56:25

It's out of print now.

56:26

So don't look for it.

56:26

It's really hard to find.

56:27

I think the last time I saw it, it was like a thousand dollars.

56:30

A used copy.

56:31

But maybe somebody will do a reprint of it one day.

56:33

Because God, I get, I get emails every day of the year.

56:35

People wanting to buy that book.

56:37

If it came out tomorrow, it would sell out.

56:39

Yeah.

56:39

Some publisher should do it.

56:40

Um, but I've, I've been to New Orleans.

56:44

I've been to Tampa several times.

56:46

I've been to Kentucky and West Virginia many times.

56:50

The Appalachias?

56:51

Yeah, Appalachia's amazing.

56:52

Coal miners?

56:53

Coal miners and just, I love hillbillies.

56:55

Did you ever see the wild and wonderful whites of West Virginia?

56:57

Oh, yeah, yeah.

56:58

I interviewed Mamie White.

56:59

Did you really?

57:00

Yeah, Jessica's sister.

57:01

Wow.

57:02

Yeah, she's, she's a trip.

57:03

Boy, that whole family's a trip.

57:05

Yeah.

57:05

Yeah, oh, that's right.

57:07

Yeah, I saw that series.

57:09

This is Create Equal.

57:10

Where it's, they're all diptychs.

57:11

They're all pairs of images.

57:12

So I've got a fur trapper and a woman on the Upper East Side of New York

57:16

with her fur coat.

57:17

Wow.

57:17

And they're not meant to be point, you know, they're, they're just

57:20

juxtapositions of interesting.

57:23

Lady with his little dog.

57:24

She's holding up.

57:25

Oh my goodness.

57:25

Wow.

57:27

Wow.

57:29

Find the, uh, the polygamist and the, uh, the polygamists and the pimp.

57:34

That's my favorite.

57:35

There's the clan.

57:39

So.

57:42

Right, right there, top right.

57:43

Oh no, right there, that one.

57:46

These are polygamists in Utah on the left and, uh, a Detroit pimp and his girls.

57:51

What is it like interviewing pimps?

57:56

They're, they're very braggadocious.

57:59

They're very full of themselves that you really won't get the truth.

58:01

You really won't get, like a lot of, a lot of the people I interview, they

58:06

break down and

58:07

they tell me the honest truth of what they're feeling and what they experienced

58:10

as kids.

58:12

These guys are all focused on, I want to look very cool.

58:16

So, so they're kind of very focused on their image.

58:19

Right.

58:20

And how they're coming across.

58:21

How they're coming across.

58:22

Yeah.

58:22

Did you ever watch any of those documentaries on pimps?

58:24

Like pimps up, hose down.

58:25

I know all those guys.

58:26

They went to Kenny Red's birthday party.

58:27

Did you really?

58:28

Yeah.

58:28

I'm like part of the clan.

58:29

Jesus.

58:30

What was that like?

58:31

I mean, they're cool with me.

58:33

They love me.

58:33

Cause I, you know, I treat them nicely and they, I'm like part of the family

58:38

now.

58:38

I'm the square white guy.

58:39

That's like friends with all the pimps.

58:41

Yeah.

58:41

I knew them from Chicago.

58:42

I knew Bishop Don Magic Wand from Chicago.

58:44

Did you really?

58:44

Yeah.

58:44

Yeah.

58:45

Wow.

58:45

I used to see him at the,

58:46

He's probably the most famous pimp ever.

58:47

He's the most famous pimp ever.

58:48

Yeah.

58:49

Well, probably the most famous.

58:51

Cause he's been in movies with, uh, um, Snoop.

58:55

Yeah.

58:55

But, uh, Fillmore, uh, uh, Fillmore Slim.

59:00

Yeah.

59:00

Yeah.

59:01

Fillmore Slim I interviewed.

59:02

I've done almost all of the, the really big name ones, but they, uh, I'm just

59:08

fascinated

59:09

by that lifestyle.

59:09

Not that, not the new, new age pimps.

59:11

Most of the new age pimps are just gang members that are, they found a new

59:14

hustle and they're

59:16

wearing like jeans and t-shirts, but the old school pimps from the seventies

59:20

and eighties

59:20

that are just dressed to kill and driving these custom Cadillacs or Lincolns or

59:24

Rolls Royces.

59:25

And they're all about the show and they've got, they've got three girls, five

59:29

girls in

59:30

fur coats and you know, the girls were sexy.

59:33

They dressed well.

59:34

The dudes were out of this world.

59:36

Yeah.

59:36

I went to the players ball down in Atlanta.

59:38

Oh boy.

59:38

A couple of years ago.

59:39

What is that like?

59:40

It's a lot of people showing off is what it is.

59:44

Yeah.

59:44

Yeah.

59:44

It's not my scene, but that's the culture.

59:46

That's the culture.

59:47

Yeah.

59:47

You got to understand.

59:48

I mean, what people don't understand, but what, what, what white people don't

59:51

understand

59:51

about that whole subculture, they could, you know, they, they, they love

59:55

to hate pimps.

59:55

We all hate pimps.

59:56

We all, no one wants to see a woman taken advantage of.

59:59

Nobody wants that, but except maybe some pimps, but, but what they don't

1:00:05

understand is these

1:00:06

guys, the, the women that they are managing is this, this will get a lot of

1:00:13

negative comments

1:00:14

on your, on YouTube.

1:00:16

But, um, the, the, the, the women are, they're just trying to survive and they

1:00:24

figured out

1:00:24

this is a way that I can make money, but they don't know how to do it.

1:00:27

Well, they don't know how to manage their money.

1:00:29

If they have money, they spend it.

1:00:30

It's all gone.

1:00:31

And they end up broke every night and they're just like, they're, they're

1:00:34

spinning the wheels,

1:00:35

going nowhere.

1:00:36

So a pimp will step in and like, let me handle your money.

1:00:38

You give me all your money and I'm going to take care of you.

1:00:41

We're going to save some for your future and I'm going to keep some of it.

1:00:45

And we're going to live in style and you're going to work for me.

1:00:48

You're going to be one of my stable.

1:00:50

So he, he, he provides some benefits and security and guidance.

1:00:56

But when they break up, it's rare that the girl gets anything.

1:01:00

And it's always a horrible ending.

1:01:02

It's usually a horrible ending.

1:01:03

Yeah.

1:01:03

Yeah.

1:01:04

When the pimp goes to jail sometimes, but the girls never end up with a story

1:01:07

where like,

1:01:07

oh yeah.

1:01:07

And then I got my money and I, I went off to college.

1:01:10

That, that never happens.

1:01:11

Yeah.

1:01:11

But, but the pimp does provide a lifestyle for the time when she is doing that,

1:01:17

that is better than what she was doing without him.

1:01:20

And you, you've interviewed people that have been open about murdering people

1:01:23

too.

1:01:24

Yeah.

1:01:24

I've interviewed a lot of people that have done that.

1:01:25

You know, I, I, I'll interview people.

1:01:28

I mean, I could do a whole YouTube channel on what happens after the interviews

1:01:32

that I do.

1:01:33

Really?

1:01:33

Oh yeah.

1:01:33

There's a lot of people get in trouble.

1:01:35

No, no, no, no, nobody's ever gotten in trouble.

1:01:37

The cops have never come after anybody.

1:01:38

Really?

1:01:39

I've done all these interviews and the cops have never approached me about

1:01:42

anyone I've interviewed.

1:01:43

Isn't that kind of crazy?

1:01:44

It's crazy to me, but I think, you know,

1:01:45

I, I know the cops watch cause they, they'll roll by and say,

1:01:47

Hey, who are you posting today?

1:01:48

So they, they watch all the time.

1:01:50

Yeah.

1:01:50

I think the cops enjoy watching because

1:01:52

the people that they're arresting are always lying to them.

1:01:55

Hmm.

1:01:56

They're never telling the truth.

1:01:57

Yeah.

1:01:57

Oh yeah.

1:01:57

I was robbing that liquor store.

1:01:58

And I'm like, yeah, I'm sorry.

1:01:59

I was guilty.

1:02:00

Right.

1:02:00

They're, they're never getting that.

1:02:02

But when I interviewed people say,

1:02:03

yeah, I robbed a liquor store and I, you know,

1:02:05

I got away with it and I did this and I, you know,

1:02:07

robbed a jewelry store and I shot the guard in the shoulder and I got away with

1:02:10

it.

1:02:11

And you know, like they're getting to hear the story told a very,

1:02:15

very different way than the way they hear it when they book somebody.

1:02:17

Do you interview cops as well?

1:02:19

I would love to, but, uh, um, I've only interviewed a couple of retired cops

1:02:24

and those, they're great stories, great storytellers and great stories.

1:02:28

Perhaps my favorite video on my channel is Mike Dowd.

1:02:30

Who's a,

1:02:30

Yes, I know Mike.

1:02:31

I've had him on the podcast.

1:02:32

Mike's the best.

1:02:33

That documentary.

1:02:34

Fuck.

1:02:36

Yeah.

1:02:36

The seven, what is it?

1:02:37

The seven, five, seven, five.

1:02:39

Yeah.

1:02:39

Is an amazing documentary.

1:02:41

And it's just all about this young idealistic cop who gets.

1:02:46

Tell me that's not a movie.

1:02:48

It's screaming to be made.

1:02:50

Yeah.

1:02:50

I mean, well, the documentary is fantastic, but yeah, an actual movie about it.

1:02:53

He just got indoctrinated into the world of corruption, right from the

1:02:58

beginning.

1:02:59

Yeah.

1:02:59

He witnessed a murder.

1:03:00

He was told to shut the fuck up.

1:03:02

When he came to my studio, he approached me and asked me if I'd be interested

1:03:05

in doing the interview and I said, yeah, sure.

1:03:06

I'd love to.

1:03:07

And we were talking as he was driving up from Orange County to me.

1:03:11

He lives, I think in New York and Florida, but he was in Orange County for

1:03:14

something.

1:03:14

So he's driving up.

1:03:15

We're talking on the phone and I'm listening to the way he talks.

1:03:17

I'm like, Mike, you could, I mean, this is the way I'd love my videos to go.

1:03:22

Like you're a great conversationalist.

1:03:24

You're probably the best conversationalist I've ever heard.

1:03:27

And that's why you're so successful.

1:03:29

One of the, one of the reasons you're so successful, but I'm not, I'm just,

1:03:32

I'm just a photographer.

1:03:33

And all I'm doing with these interviews is trying to give,

1:03:36

provide a little backstory that my photographs can't provide.

1:03:38

So when Mike was driving up, he's, he's talking to me on the phone.

1:03:42

I'm like, he's such a great speaker.

1:03:44

And he's, I love listening to him.

1:03:46

Even when he's just talking about what time he's going to be there,

1:03:49

his voice and the way he talks is great.

1:03:51

So New York.

1:03:52

And I said, Mike, let me run something by you.

1:03:54

And this is what I love to do.

1:03:55

I wish every video on my channel was like this.

1:03:58

I said, could you tell, could you do this whole talk where you tell your entire

1:04:02

story

1:04:02

without me saying a single word?

1:04:03

He goes, oh yeah, no problem.

1:04:05

I could do that.

1:04:06

And I'm like, let's try it.

1:04:08

So he came in and he did the exact, I didn't make a single noise.

1:04:11

I said, thank you at the very end.

1:04:12

And that was it.

1:04:13

And that's the way I love, those are my best interviews where I don't say a

1:04:17

word.

1:04:17

Well, he's a perfect candidate for that.

1:04:19

He's the best.

1:04:20

And I've had some even drug addicts to do it.

1:04:22

And I've had other people do it.

1:04:23

And very often what happens is I'll ask them.

1:04:25

My typical questions are like, where are you from?

1:04:27

What was your family like?

1:04:29

And sometimes they just take the ball and run with it.

1:04:32

And then they do the whole thing on their own.

1:04:33

And I don't say another word.

1:04:34

So that's almost the same thing.

1:04:36

And that's the way I love it.

1:04:37

I'm not looking to have a conversation like you and I are having right now.

1:04:39

Right.

1:04:40

I'm not good at that anyway.

1:04:41

That's not my strength.

1:04:42

My strength is the photograph.

1:04:43

The reason why I asked you about cops is I feel about cops the same way I'm

1:04:49

feeling about

1:04:49

you, but even to more in an extreme, that they're exposed to things they cannot

1:04:55

unsee.

1:04:56

And the pressure and the stress of that is so, so overwhelming.

1:05:00

And also they're thought of as the enemy and they're not appreciated.

1:05:04

And the risks that they take are not taken into consideration and the stress

1:05:08

and the PTSD

1:05:10

that they almost all have.

1:05:11

All.

1:05:11

Every one of those cops has seen videos of a cop pulling someone over for a

1:05:16

routine traffic stop

1:05:17

and getting gunned down.

1:05:19

Yeah.

1:05:19

They've all seen that and they know that that's a possibility.

1:05:21

Every time they pull up to a car that has tinted windows, they have no idea

1:05:25

what's going on.

1:05:26

No, after doing what I'm doing, which is not as dangerous as what the cops are

1:05:29

doing because

1:05:30

they're clearly trying to get somebody and put them in jail or prison.

1:05:33

Yeah.

1:05:34

I'm just trying to give them money for an interview.

1:05:36

So my danger is not as high as theirs, but I can relate to how dangerous their

1:05:41

life is because

1:05:41

every single person they approach is potentially going to shoot them, run, do

1:05:48

something.

1:05:48

Or they're mentally ill and they're going to just do something crazy.

1:05:51

I follow a few police-related Instagram pages that sort of highlight that, that

1:05:58

are really

1:05:58

well done.

1:05:59

One of them is police posts and faces of Rampart is another one.

1:06:04

And it's these cops that post these videos and it's educational.

1:06:10

It just shows people.

1:06:11

First of all, it's educational to other police officers because a lot of them,

1:06:15

they talk about

1:06:16

what went wrong here, situational awareness, why this officer got in trouble,

1:06:22

what you should do,

1:06:23

and how this officer handled this in an incompetent way.

1:06:26

Or you should never allow something to escalate to this place.

1:06:31

But a lot of it is just you are forced to look at what they experience on an

1:06:37

everyday basis

1:06:39

where everyone they're talking to is lying to them.

1:06:43

Everyone they're talking to has a...

1:06:45

And then they also develop this horrible cynicism about human beings and

1:06:50

everyone they pull over.

1:06:51

They just get so overwhelmed from decades of this job.

1:06:55

Yeah.

1:06:55

Cops are so underappreciated, especially right now.

1:07:00

It's terrible.

1:07:01

I say it all the time and people get mad at me all the time.

1:07:03

I'm like, "Listen, man, I know cops."

1:07:05

Because of my martial arts background, I grew up with cops.

1:07:08

I was around cops from the moment I was a young teenager all throughout my

1:07:13

adult life because of

1:07:14

martial arts because so many cops train in martial arts to protect themselves.

1:07:18

And they're good people for the most part, like all people.

1:07:22

Most people are good people for the most part.

1:07:25

But good people that are forced into jobs that have horrific pressures attached

1:07:30

to them.

1:07:30

And horrific consequences if anything goes wrong.

1:07:34

And paid very little.

1:07:35

Yes.

1:07:35

And they're under just unbelievable stress and they make terrible errors

1:07:40

because of that stress.

1:07:41

And then someone gets a cell phone video of that and they post someone planting

1:07:46

a gun or doing this.

1:07:47

And then everyone thinks all cops do that.

1:07:50

No, and you cannot shoot the wrong guy.

1:07:52

Right.

1:07:53

You cannot ever risk doing that.

1:07:56

Yes.

1:07:56

I watched a horrible video the other day.

1:07:58

So they're shooting at you, but you can't really just shoot back because what

1:08:03

if you hit a kid?

1:08:04

What if you...

1:08:05

Right.

1:08:05

Well, that was what I saw.

1:08:06

There was a horrible video of a grandson, this very troubled grandson who

1:08:12

pulled the knife on his grandfather.

1:08:14

And while the cops were there, he went to stab the grandfather and the cops

1:08:18

opened fire on the kid

1:08:19

and shot the grandfather too, killed both of them.

1:08:22

Yeah.

1:08:22

And I'm like, oh, Jesus Christ.

1:08:24

And in the police post, this was all about, you know, understanding about

1:08:27

accuracy and when to shoot

1:08:29

and when to intervene.

1:08:30

And it's sort of a step-by-step breakdown for other officers so they can sort

1:08:36

of look at this.

1:08:37

There's a great video on my channel with a retired cop named Kevin, Kevin

1:08:42

Donaldson.

1:08:43

It's a great story about PTSD of being a cop and what the aftermath of all that

1:08:48

is.

1:08:49

I can't even imagine what their minds must be like when, especially someone who

1:08:55

works in a horrible

1:08:55

neighborhood where you're constantly dealing with that and the things that they

1:08:59

see.

1:09:00

Like they're constantly seeing murder, constantly seeing car accidents,

1:09:04

constantly seeing overdose,

1:09:06

constantly seeing physical abuse, sexual abuse, rape, torture, you name it.

1:09:11

And you're married and you come home to your wife and it's like, how was your

1:09:13

day, honey?

1:09:14

Yeah.

1:09:14

And you're in Simi Valley with your kids, just trying to stay calm.

1:09:17

And then, you know, you hear, fuck the police and you're like, okay.

1:09:20

Yeah.

1:09:20

You know, it's a horrible, horrible job.

1:09:25

It's a, yeah.

1:09:26

And any support for them always gets like shit on.

1:09:30

Uh, but I, I think about them the same way I'm thinking about you.

1:09:34

I think prolonged exposure to the most horrific elements of society is, is God,

1:09:40

we, we, you know,

1:09:42

we sort of formulate our idea what the world is based on what we've encountered.

1:09:47

And, you know, if you've encountered nothing but a beautiful neighborhood and

1:09:50

nice families

1:09:51

and everybody's friendly and you go to the football game and everybody cheers.

1:09:55

Yay.

1:09:55

You know, this is life for you.

1:09:57

But if you're experiencing what you're experiencing, you're talking to people

1:10:00

on skid row

1:10:01

on a day in day out basis.

1:10:02

Like what, what does that affect?

1:10:04

Like how are your dreams?

1:10:05

Do you have nightmares?

1:10:07

I don't remember my dreams.

1:10:08

I sleep really well.

1:10:09

Um, but, but I'll tell you this, my, my,

1:10:12

I've, I've called this project a crash course in empathy because like when I

1:10:18

first started,

1:10:18

like I said, you know, I, I would look at these people like, just get a job.

1:10:21

Right.

1:10:22

A bunch of lazy losers that won't get a job.

1:10:24

Right.

1:10:24

And then after hearing story after story after story, I see like, oh, now I get

1:10:30

it.

1:10:31

People are sort of like, you can't, when, when, when people are developing and

1:10:37

growing,

1:10:37

there's certain things that happen to them that are very hard to unfuck.

1:10:43

And when things go sideways and their life is fucked, like trying to bring them

1:10:47

back to

1:10:47

a place like where you are or a place where I am, where someone who didn't have

1:10:52

those things

1:10:52

happen to them as a child, that is a, an enormous task.

1:10:59

Yeah.

1:10:59

I, I, I almost insurmountable.

1:11:01

I don't think it's even possible.

1:11:02

You can just prop them up a little bit so they're better, but they're never

1:11:06

going to,

1:11:07

I mean, there are some that do it, but those people that have really recovered

1:11:10

and

1:11:10

have gone on to do great things were people who kind of were doing great things

1:11:15

before,

1:11:15

but then they got caught up with cocaine and then they pulled themselves out.

1:11:18

So it seems like to me, and I've talked about this ad nauseam,

1:11:21

is the only way to fix this is to fix the areas in which this is prevalent and

1:11:29

to somehow or another

1:11:31

pump money and resources into community centers and education and giving people

1:11:38

some kind of hope,

1:11:39

giving people some, and then even then you're just going to make less of it.

1:11:43

Yeah.

1:11:43

You're not going to eliminate it entirely.

1:11:45

It's a law, a generational problem that could take decades upon decades to

1:11:51

really put a dent in it,

1:11:53

but it's a task that's worth doing and no one is approaching this.

1:11:57

When politicians are sending billions of dollars overseas and billions of

1:12:01

dollars on projects

1:12:02

that a lot of people don't even agree to, and it's all tax money and nothing is

1:12:06

being spent.

1:12:07

No. If you want to save our country, this is the way to do it.

1:12:10

Yes.

1:12:10

Why are we looking at doing all these crazy things in other countries or going

1:12:15

to the

1:12:15

Mars or wherever we're thinking? How about right here in our own backyard?

1:12:20

Yes. Yeah. How about fixing places like the south side of Chicago and Detroit

1:12:24

and Baltimore?

1:12:25

And the way to do that, I believe, is providing hope for those families.

1:12:28

And it's not going to happen right away. It's not going to happen in a

1:12:30

generation.

1:12:31

Right. Exactly.

1:12:32

And no one's got the patience for it. Because whatever work you're going to put

1:12:34

in,

1:12:34

whatever money you're going to put in and energy and effort, you won't see in

1:12:38

your lifetime.

1:12:39

I had a conversation with some friends about this last night and they were

1:12:42

saying,

1:12:43

but would the country even run the same way if that happened? Because don't you

1:12:49

need all these poor

1:12:50

and disenfranchised people to have the country work the way it works? And I'm

1:12:53

like,

1:12:53

but the country doesn't have to work the way it works. This is just the way it

1:12:56

works right now.

1:12:57

It's not like it wouldn't work another way. Well, you know, what's interesting

1:13:00

is,

1:13:00

you know, the universe, nature, even the human body regulates. That's what it

1:13:06

does. When something's

1:13:08

out of balance, it'll figure out and it'll find a, you know, it's like a seesaw.

1:13:13

It'll eventually

1:13:14

balance out. So we have a preponderance of down and out broken people on the

1:13:22

streets living in boxes

1:13:24

and tents, addicted to drugs. And we've also got this ultra super billionaires

1:13:29

and the multi multi

1:13:31

millionaires. And they're both existing on the two extremes. And good luck

1:13:36

getting the rich to say,

1:13:38

all right, we're going to give away a third of our money so that we can help

1:13:40

these people.

1:13:41

Well, they don't have any faith in it.

1:13:42

Nobody's got it.

1:13:43

They think they also think that, I mean, when I talk to people about this, that

1:13:47

are very wealthy,

1:13:48

they have a problem with charities that most of the money actually winds up

1:13:52

going to administrative costs.

1:13:53

Yeah.

1:13:53

And very little of it actually goes to the people. And then you find out that

1:13:57

people that are working on the homeless situation, I have a friend, Koleon Noir,

1:14:02

who was a lawyer and we, he was in San Francisco and his perspective was,

1:14:09

oh, they're not spending enough money to fix this homeless problem. And then he

1:14:13

talked to someone

1:14:14

who is actually deeply embedded in that situation. He said, no, no, no, no, no,

1:14:18

no.

1:14:19

That's not the problem. They are spending a lot of money on it, but the money

1:14:22

is going to these

1:14:23

people that get high salaries that work on the homeless problem. And he showed

1:14:28

us a spreadsheet

1:14:30

of all these people. And it's six figure salary, some of them $250,000 a year.

1:14:37

And it's a lot of them

1:14:38

that are handling the homeless situation in Los Angeles and the homeless

1:14:41

situation in San Francisco.

1:14:42

And there's no incentive to fix it. The budget goes up every year. The homeless

1:14:49

problem goes up every year.

1:14:50

There's no accountability. There's no, hey, we've spent all this money and the

1:14:54

problem is bigger

1:14:56

and you guys keep getting raises. Like what the fuck is going on here? It

1:14:59

becomes an industry and then

1:15:02

fixing the homeless. Like if you look at the actual budget for dealing with the

1:15:06

home, pull up the budget

1:15:07

for dealing with the homeless in Los Angeles in 2022, because it's bonkers when

1:15:15

you see the sheer

1:15:16

amount of money that's being spent ineffectively. And all anybody seems to care

1:15:23

about is we're working hard

1:15:25

to mitigate the homeless situation. And we're, you know, we, we have upped our

1:15:29

budget and like, oh,

1:15:30

they've upped the budget. This is great. And you think that must be effective.

1:15:34

We're going to fix this,

1:15:35

but nothing gets done. No, it's a big problem. I think the big, the big number

1:15:40

was for California,

1:15:40

not just for Los Angeles. Okay. Let's get the California. 7.2 billion. 7.2

1:15:46

billion just for homeless.

1:15:49

I would think with that, you could clean up Tenderloin in San Francisco and LA.

1:15:53

3.3 billion

1:15:54

general fund in 21, 22 to almost 30 homelessness related programs across the

1:16:00

state.

1:16:00

That is so much money. And yet the problem gets bigger and bigger every year.

1:16:09

Yeah. And I don't, I think the problem when you, I was talking about the layers,

1:16:13

you keep peeling them back. When you peel back the last layer, it's human greed.

1:16:17

Human greed is the problem. But also what can be done? Like what, I mean, when

1:16:24

you think about like,

1:16:24

what are the strategies that these people are employing shelters, food, food

1:16:29

stamps, this and

1:16:30

that, uh, counseling that these are like band-aids on gunshot wounds. It's a

1:16:36

bandaid on cancer.

1:16:37

Yes. Yeah. That's a good, that's all it is.

1:16:39

Description.

1:16:40

No, but I think if we

1:16:43

like, like, like here, just look at what's taught in schools. They're, they're

1:16:49

teaching trigonometry

1:16:50

and algebra and all these things. When everyone's got a cell phone in their

1:16:52

pocket, you don't need

1:16:54

to be learning trigonometry anymore. If you're going to become an engineer,

1:16:57

then, then study

1:16:58

trigonometry in college, but you don't need to be teaching it in high school.

1:17:01

They should be teaching human interaction, how to raise children. Like all

1:17:05

these skills that we're

1:17:06

using on a daily basis. They should talk about empathy too. And how important

1:17:10

it is and kindness

1:17:11

and how it's, it's not just good for the person you're kind to. It's actually

1:17:14

good for you.

1:17:15

Yeah. No, I mean, that's, that's the thing. I mean, that's why I feel okay with

1:17:18

giving away so

1:17:19

much money. Cause I, I know that it benefits me. Yeah. Like, like that, that's

1:17:22

what people don't

1:17:23

understand about hate, whether it's hate on social media or hate in general or

1:17:28

racism or just

1:17:30

all the above, all the above, all the above, any, any form of negativity and

1:17:35

hate and judgment.

1:17:35

What people don't realize about that, if I'm hating you, it hurts me. Yes. It

1:17:42

doesn't hurt you. Right.

1:17:43

You don't give a fuck if I hate you or not. You just, well, it hurts my

1:17:47

feelings if you say it to me,

1:17:49

but mostly you're carrying it around. It's like, it's hurting me. What is that

1:17:53

expression?

1:17:54

My, my blood pressure is up. My peace of mind is gone. I'm sitting around

1:17:58

distracted about how

1:18:00

pissed off I am at you. Yeah. It's like, what a horrible way to go through life.

1:18:03

Yeah. There's a, there's an old expression about hate that it's a poison that

1:18:09

kills the vessel that's

1:18:10

holding it. Yeah. Yeah. That's exactly right. It does. It's, and it's, we're

1:18:14

not told that we're told,

1:18:16

you know, you, you know, revenge is being told. I mean, we were talking about

1:18:20

Marcus Aurelius the

1:18:21

other day that, uh, Marcus Aurelius, who was the emperor of Rome 2000 years ago,

1:18:26

was talking about

1:18:27

empathy and talking about how important it is to forgive people. Like there's

1:18:31

this brilliant stoic

1:18:32

philosopher thousands of years ago when people hacking each other to death with

1:18:36

swords and arrows and

1:18:37

shit. And this guy was trying to see through it as a leader. Yeah. And it's the

1:18:42

rarest of rare of

1:18:43

people that lead like that, that really genuinely have this perspective, like

1:18:48

humanity can do better

1:18:49

and we should strive to do better. And he was striving to do better in his own

1:18:53

personal life.

1:18:54

And that was what meditations was all about his book. Yeah. No, that's, that's

1:18:57

what I try to do

1:18:58

with my videos. My idea was I'm going to present these ideas and I could write

1:19:01

an article saying,

1:19:02

oh, you need to raise our kids better. We need to be better parents, better

1:19:05

role models, and we'll have a

1:19:06

better outcome with these kids. Nobody's going to read that article. Yeah. But

1:19:10

if I put out some entertaining videos

1:19:13

about how many people are watching, um, you'll learn the lesson, which is how

1:19:20

important that childhood

1:19:21

is to provide that kid with unconditional love, not love, not love. Love is

1:19:27

bullshit. Unconditional love.

1:19:28

Everything else is some disguised bullshit because you can have a parent, a

1:19:32

parent who I love you.

1:19:34

If you get good grades, I'll love you. If you stay out of jail, I love you. If

1:19:37

you're not gay,

1:19:38

I'll love you. If you're whatever. Right. Like, like the way my mom loved me,

1:19:42

she passed away a couple of years ago, but

1:19:48

give me a second. Like I could have been gay. I could have been in jail. I

1:19:56

could have been flunking

1:19:57

out of school, could have been mean to her. I could have been anything. And I

1:20:02

know that she would have

1:20:04

loved me the exact same way. Yeah. And because she did. You are the person you

1:20:10

are. I wanted to make

1:20:12

her proud. Yeah. I still do. I think, I think this project is just an homage to

1:20:16

her. Well, you're

1:20:20

very fortunate. Oh yeah. Yeah. I don't know anybody that had a mom like mine.

1:20:25

And my dad was great too.

1:20:27

Not as great, but my dad was really great. My dad came from absolute shit. Well,

1:20:31

all of our parents

1:20:32

came from a different era too. We have to take that into consideration. That's

1:20:36

a great point. I mean,

1:20:37

look at how so many people in this new generation are looking for the easy lick,

1:20:40

the shortcut, the hack,

1:20:42

the easy way to get rich or do whatever. They want the fast buck. Right. Look

1:20:46

at anybody who's done

1:20:48

anything great in our world in the 1900s and the 1800s and the 17th from, from

1:20:52

the beginning of time,

1:20:54

every one of those persons, every one of those people have a story of

1:20:58

overcoming great adversity

1:21:00

and, and working harder than you can even imagine. They're, they're amazing

1:21:05

stories of perseverance,

1:21:06

of courage, of all these things that nobody seems to want to do now. Yeah. Well,

1:21:12

they're not taught

1:21:13

that that's something you should strive for. And when there are these options

1:21:17

that are available,

1:21:18

like becoming a tick tock star or becoming, you know, there's these things that

1:21:21

are available that

1:21:22

are so simple that you see 17 year olds making millions of dollars and you're

1:21:25

like, well, that's

1:21:26

what I want to do. Yeah. I don't want, I don't want to struggle. That's more

1:21:29

attractive. Yeah. And

1:21:30

there's not enough, there's not enough emphasis on the fact that in doing

1:21:37

difficult things,

1:21:38

you learn about yourself. And then this thing that you can create, that's hard

1:21:42

to create,

1:21:43

that takes a long time is immensely satisfying as opposed to winning the

1:21:48

lottery, which is what

1:21:49

everybody wants to do, which is just for the most part, when it happens to

1:21:53

people, it kind of upturns

1:21:55

their life. Well, I mean, you win the lottery, most of these people that are

1:21:59

not willing to work for it,

1:22:01

haven't put in the work for it. If they actually came upon $3 million, they

1:22:07

would it off. Yes,

1:22:09

they would it off because they deep, deep down subconsciously, they know they

1:22:12

don't deserve it.

1:22:13

Which is so strange that we have this sort of watermark in our mind of what

1:22:20

what our value is.

1:22:21

And anything that goes above that, we try to bring that water back down to

1:22:24

where it was. Absolutely.

1:22:26

No, like when two people are romantically involved, and you know, two people, a

1:22:30

guy and a girl meet,

1:22:31

or whatever, two people meet. If they're self, if you rated self-worth on a

1:22:36

scale from one to 10,

1:22:38

if one of them's an eight and the other one's a five, there's no chance in hell

1:22:43

it'll ever work out.

1:22:44

Right. Unless that five gets their shit together.

1:22:47

Yeah, but that's so hard to do. It's so hard to do. It's so hard to do. Yeah.

1:22:50

Generally,

1:22:51

like two fives can become an eight. If they grow together. But they have to

1:22:56

like really love each

1:22:57

other and be friends. They can have their bipolar heaven or whatever. Well, I've

1:23:02

seen a lot of

1:23:03

really successful couples that like lose hundreds of pounds together. And there's

1:23:08

a lot of that on social

1:23:09

media that I think is very inspiring when people do get their life in order. No,

1:23:13

and that would bond

1:23:14

people better than anything. Yes. Yes. And it seems to do that, you know. But

1:23:18

one of the things that I've

1:23:19

noticed on your channel is there's a lot of couples that are addicted together.

1:23:23

Yeah. You have these

1:23:24

fentanyl addict couples, which is so heartbreaking. I just did one earlier this

1:23:31

week, Mike and Stephanie,

1:23:31

and they were talking about how when they get apart from each other, they can

1:23:34

kind of get clean and

1:23:36

do fine. But then they love each other and they get back together and they self-destruct.

1:23:39

It's so strange.

1:23:41

They love each other and then they kill each other. Yeah. Yeah. It's just the

1:23:45

programming of the human

1:23:46

mind and the fact that we don't really have tools to fix that. Like, if you

1:23:51

have a fucked up computer,

1:23:53

you can bring it to a repair shop and they can go, oh, you've got a fucking

1:23:57

virus on your hard drive and

1:23:59

it's infected this and that. And you know, you're fucking your hard drive is

1:24:03

broken and we can fix that

1:24:04

and replace that and reformat yourself. We can't do that to mine. No, you said

1:24:08

something on the

1:24:09

Gabor Mate interview you did recently where you said, it's like we're

1:24:15

these living life forms without an instruction manual. Yes. That was great.

1:24:22

Yeah. That's what we are.

1:24:23

Yeah. We're these highly evolved living creatures and you don't know how to

1:24:29

operate it. Yes. So, we're just

1:24:31

going through school and we all hate school and we get out and we just screw up

1:24:35

and if they were teaching

1:24:36

Gabor Mate's work in schools, oh my God, we'd be a different society. Yeah.

1:24:41

Yeah. They, yeah,

1:24:45

we would be a different society. And just a few classes like that could shift

1:24:50

the mindset of so many

1:24:51

people. It's so easy to fall back into your old ways of thinking and behaving.

1:24:56

But if we did that a lot

1:24:59

in high school and expose people to that, we genuinely could fix a lot of the

1:25:04

problems that we see or at

1:25:05

least make some strides. Absolutely. I think that would make more of a

1:25:10

difference in the world than

1:25:11

anything else we've talked about. Yeah. And just so many people have never

1:25:15

encountered an environment

1:25:17

where people are supportive. You know, for me, it was martial arts. When I was

1:25:21

a young boy,

1:25:22

when I found martial arts, I was immediately, um, brought into this world of

1:25:28

discipline where

1:25:29

discipline was, uh, it was celebrated and it was admired and, and then also

1:25:36

love of your fellow

1:25:38

practitioners and it was a community. And it was the first time I'd ever been

1:25:43

around like a really

1:25:45

positive community of people who valued hard work and, and also valued people

1:25:52

who excelled at that

1:25:53

hard work and it, and really admired them and really use them as examples. And,

1:25:58

and those people went

1:25:59

on to become instructors and it really profoundly affected the way I look at

1:26:04

the world and profoundly

1:26:06

affected the way I look at the value of other people and their hard work. Their

1:26:10

esteem building acts.

1:26:11

Yes. Yeah. And most people, I mean, I, you know, I found martial arts when I

1:26:17

was a kid because I was

1:26:18

small and I was always with, and I was scared of everybody. And, uh, I had one

1:26:23

pivotal day. I had sort of

1:26:25

dabbled in martial arts. And then one day where I walked into this one school

1:26:30

in Boston, which was the

1:26:33

J. Hun Kim Taekwondo Institute. And from that one day, it changed my whole life.

1:26:38

And I'm so fortunate that that happened to me. And I often wonder what would I

1:26:44

be like if I didn't

1:26:45

live in a nice neighborhood with nice people and didn't expose myself to that

1:26:50

and didn't engross myself

1:26:51

in that world of people that wanted to excel. I would not, there's no, not a

1:26:55

chance in hell.

1:26:56

No, that's a kid in South Central doesn't have any of those. Exactly. A kid

1:26:59

whose mother is on Skid Row.

1:27:02

A kid who's, I mean, what do you do? How do you get there? You're, you're

1:27:07

fucked from birth.

1:27:08

You're, you're being raised by a grandparent if you're lucky. If you're lucky.

1:27:11

Maybe the foster

1:27:11

system. And you don't have access to martial arts or ballet classes or music

1:27:18

classes or

1:27:19

nothing. Even, even good education, I don't think. Right. No opportunities.

1:27:24

Right. No role models.

1:27:25

Nothing. And this is what I think couldn't be, that could be mitigated with

1:27:29

money. With if you,

1:27:32

if we allocated money, the way we allocate money to these overseas issues and

1:27:37

you know, the way we just

1:27:39

throw money around at the military industrial complex. And if we allocated that

1:27:43

kind of money to try to

1:27:45

take a comprehensive approach to shifting this, this play, like if we had this

1:27:52

guy on who was a cop in

1:27:54

Baltimore and, um, I guess it was like the early two thousands, he was there

1:28:01

and he found a piece of

1:28:03

paper that was an arrest report from the 1970s. And it was the same arrests in

1:28:09

the same neighborhoods

1:28:11

for the same crimes. And it was overwhelming to him. He was like, oh my God,

1:28:16

this is like, this is just

1:28:18

corruption and systemic racism. And you're not going to fix this with just

1:28:23

policing. You're not going to

1:28:25

just arrest your way out of this. No, you need, I think you need to change the

1:28:30

mindset of these

1:28:30

young, these, this younger generation, like, like what's become very cool to be

1:28:37

bad. Oh,

1:28:38

if you're bad, you're cool. That has to change. Yeah. That has to change. I

1:28:42

remember back in the six,

1:28:42

you're not old enough. I'm just, I'm, I was born in the sixties, like being a

1:28:47

good person was cool.

1:28:50

Right. It was for a while in front of your face. You got it by your neck now. I'm

1:28:54

sorry. It's okay.

1:28:55

Being, being a, being a good person was what people aspired to. Yes. And, uh,

1:29:00

now it's like to be a bad person is what people, well, that's a culture.

1:29:06

Unfortunately, there's a lot

1:29:08

of culture that has, uh, emphasized that and it's, you know, a lot of rap music

1:29:12

and a lot of things

1:29:13

celebrate that sort of bad-ass lifestyle. And, you know, and when you come from

1:29:18

nothing that looks

1:29:19

incredibly attractive, like here's a guy flashing money. He's wearing expensive

1:29:23

sneakers. You don't

1:29:24

know any better. Right. And those are all things that people aspire to that are

1:29:28

very difficult to

1:29:29

achieve. So you look at that instead of like having a balanced life and a

1:29:34

loving family and being a

1:29:36

pillar of the community, you aspire instead to being this thing that's very

1:29:40

difficult to become,

1:29:42

which is the guy who has the big house and the, the fancy clothes and the, the

1:29:46

money you're

1:29:46

flashing around. And so it's just a, you're chasing the wrong carrot.

1:29:50

Yeah. Now that's it. Yeah. We're a broken country. And it's like, if you want

1:29:55

to,

1:29:55

if you're, if you really love your country and you want to fix it, that, that

1:29:59

would be the area to,

1:30:00

those would be the areas to attack. Yeah. And I don't see any effort at all.

1:30:06

Find me a politician. That's like really going to do that.

1:30:08

Well, they don't even talk about it. They don't even talk about it.

1:30:11

I mean, they'll, they'll talk about, uh, social safety nets, which I think are

1:30:15

also very important

1:30:16

welfare and, and, and, and, and, you know, things for, for poor people that are

1:30:21

genuinely just

1:30:22

struggling because they're down on their luck and that we should treat them as

1:30:26

members of our community

1:30:28

and try to help them because we can. And that that's a sign of a good, strong,

1:30:31

healthy community that we do look out for people that are less fortunate than

1:30:35

us. But there's more

1:30:36

that has to be taken into consideration and much, much more that has to be done.

1:30:40

Like you have to

1:30:41

figure out like, how is this continuing to happen in these same places over and

1:30:45

over and over again?

1:30:46

And how is there no effort to try to mitigate that? Because it's a long term

1:30:51

thing. Like this expression,

1:30:52

you got to get better the same way you got sick and this country got sick

1:30:56

slowly.

1:30:57

You're very much on the pulse of what's going on in the world and the country

1:31:00

and technology and

1:31:01

everything, right? Society, culture, everything. Um, do you think we are,

1:31:06

you're, what you're watching is a, is a society in downfall, like spiraling

1:31:10

down?

1:31:11

There's a lot of us. There's a lot of our society that is in downfall. There's

1:31:15

a lot of our society

1:31:16

that is spiraling. There's a lot of the way we think about things that is fruitless

1:31:21

and pointless and

1:31:22

ultimately negative. But I think there's a lot of people also that are aware of

1:31:27

that. And there's

1:31:28

also a distribution of information today and the way people are having

1:31:32

conversations today that's

1:31:33

totally unavailable before. Your channel is part of that. This podcast is part

1:31:39

of that. The multitude

1:31:40

of podcasts that are out there where intelligent, kind, compassionate people

1:31:45

are thinking and talking

1:31:47

about things, talking about the way you approach other human beings and talk to

1:31:50

people, the way you

1:31:51

live your life, the way you, you, you can put pleasure and immediate gratification

1:31:58

aside and, and seek

1:32:01

discipline and hard work and the value and the benefit of that, the value and

1:32:05

the benefit of treating people

1:32:06

with kindness and, and, and, and, and developing a good core group of friends

1:32:10

and treating each other.

1:32:12

Well, I think that's spreading. I think that's helping, but I think we are

1:32:17

constantly in this yin-yang

1:32:20

battle as human beings. And I don't think you have darkness without light. And

1:32:24

I don't think you have

1:32:25

light without darkness. I think we're always going to be where this bizarre,

1:32:30

flawed, intelligent,

1:32:33

calculating entity that is trying to figure out its existence, which is

1:32:37

ultimately finite in nature

1:32:39

anyway. And our goals and our aspirations and our dreams, there's so much of

1:32:44

our society that's,

1:32:46

that's based around chasing objects, which ultimately you can't keep. And then

1:32:55

also,

1:32:56

if you do give them to your kids, you're probably them up. It's very, very few

1:33:01

people that I've met that

1:33:02

come from wealthy families, aren't fucked up, or at least I have friends that

1:33:08

grew up very wealthy

1:33:09

and their family's wealthy and they're wealthy now. And they know that they got

1:33:13

there because of their

1:33:14

family. And there's a thing about them. That's always insecure. So they have to

1:33:18

kind of brag a

1:33:19

little and tell you a little of this. They've done a little of that they've

1:33:21

done. And I know what

1:33:23

they're doing and they're not bad people. They're just trying to establish that

1:33:26

they're valuable.

1:33:27

No, imagine if your dad was an Elon Musk or somebody who's so wildly successful

1:33:32

that you can never,

1:33:33

in your wildest dreams, you're never going to outdo your father.

1:33:37

Right.

1:33:37

What's the motivation?

1:33:39

This is an old expression. Show me the son of a great man who's also a great

1:33:44

man. It's very rare.

1:33:47

It's for men to aspire to be like their father. If your father was some like

1:33:53

super conqueror type

1:33:55

character who just is a great man is a vague term. I mean, it is a great term,

1:34:00

vague term, vague term,

1:34:01

because it could be just my dad, my dad was a great man, but he was not a

1:34:05

multimillionaire.

1:34:07

Right. But the thing is like what our society values in terms of when we look

1:34:10

at someone who's

1:34:11

great, we look at a Bill Gates or we look at a, you know, someone who's amassed

1:34:15

insurmountable wealth.

1:34:17

And that's, if you're a son and you're born in that also, you don't have to

1:34:23

work hard because

1:34:25

you're kind of always going to be okay. You have an endowment, you have a fund,

1:34:29

you have this or that.

1:34:30

And how do you, if you're, if you're that wealthy and successful as I guess you

1:34:35

and I probably are,

1:34:37

what, how do you protect your kids from that? How do you?

1:34:40

Yeah. I'm not going to give you anything. So now you're a selfish, selfish

1:34:44

bastard.

1:34:44

Right. Right. And if you do, you're damned if you do.

1:34:47

Well, I, I try to instill in my kids the value of hard work, but also sometimes

1:34:52

kids don't want to

1:34:53

hear it from you. No, they don't. Kids won't do what you say. They'll do what

1:34:56

you do.

1:34:56

Right. Like I turned into my dad. I just kind of blended a bit of my mom in as

1:35:02

well. So I'm an

1:35:02

artist, but I work my ass off. Yeah. And that combination makes me a successful

1:35:08

artist.

1:35:08

And I remember watching my dad, my dad never came home from work saying, Oh, I

1:35:14

worked my ass off this

1:35:15

week and I traveled all over the Midwest and I did this. And I did, I grew up

1:35:18

in Chicago and Detroit.

1:35:20

Um, he never talked about how hard he worked. He just did it. He just shut up

1:35:25

and did it.

1:35:26

Yeah. He never bragged about it. He never complained about it. It's just what

1:35:30

he did.

1:35:30

Yeah. And I, my, my best friend, uh, Bob and I, we joke about how we had the

1:35:35

same dad,

1:35:36

you know, different dads, of course, different families, but our dads are

1:35:40

almost the same

1:35:41

type of person. Just shut up and worked and brought home the bread to support

1:35:46

the family.

1:35:46

Yeah. If you grow up in that, I was very fortunate to grow up in the Northeast.

1:35:51

And stayed married forever. Yeah. Forever.

1:35:54

The people that grow up in hardworking environments tend to value hard work.

1:36:00

Yeah. I've heard you talk about that too. Yeah.

1:36:02

You know, growing up in the Midwest or the Northeast, you learn that life is

1:36:09

tough.

1:36:09

Yeah.

1:36:10

Tough. When your car breaks down and it's February and it's dark and it's, it's

1:36:15

11:30 at night and you're,

1:36:17

you got to figure it out. Yeah. That's real. Yeah. And there's a value that you

1:36:21

get from that.

1:36:21

That's really unavailable. Any other way place in life. No, you're not going to

1:36:24

learn that in

1:36:25

California. Right. No, you're not. And that's, I always say that one of the

1:36:29

problems in California,

1:36:30

it's also like being a trust fund baby in terms of like the weather.

1:36:33

Yeah. It makes you soft. Yeah. You're just always sunny.

1:36:36

Like I still see myself to this day. I've been in California,

1:36:39

shit, 20, 30, three decades. I don't know. Long time. And I still think of

1:36:47

myself as a Chicagoan

1:36:48

who's just, I'm just doing this in LA for a while. Yeah.

1:36:51

I'm still a Chicagoan in my mind. All my friends from Boston feel that way too.

1:36:55

Yeah. They're Boston guys.

1:36:56

I mean, I look like, I look like a California boy, but I am a Chicagoan through

1:36:59

and through.

1:37:00

Yeah. And a Detroiter too.

1:37:01

Well, you know, LA is such a strange place because it's a place where people go

1:37:07

to become somebody.

1:37:09

And that's, that's always. No, I saw that when I moved there. Like I moved with

1:37:13

my best friend who

1:37:14

I went to high school with in Chicago and we had each other to stabilize each

1:37:17

other and we kept each

1:37:18

other on track. That was, that was very helpful. But I saw so many people that

1:37:23

I'd be friends with

1:37:24

and like, man, they're just lost. Yeah. Like you're getting into what? You're

1:37:28

going to what event?

1:37:30

What club? Like, right. And they eventually self-destruct and move back to

1:37:34

their small towns.

1:37:35

Yeah. It becomes a thing of like finding the social circle that's popular. And

1:37:41

now it's about

1:37:42

photographing yourself with those people. Right. Right. It's hard to make

1:37:45

friends in LA.

1:37:45

Yeah. Well, it's even weirder now, I think with social media because social

1:37:49

media,

1:37:50

it's so Hollywood's always been kind of like, it's all about the image and this,

1:37:55

this, the red carpet,

1:37:57

which is like the most bullshit thing in the world. Like where in life are you

1:38:01

standing there? And

1:38:02

there's a hundred cameras pointing at you and you're posing and looking around

1:38:06

and they'll like,

1:38:07

Mark over here, over here, over here. And you're smiling and, but they live for

1:38:11

that moment.

1:38:11

Yeah. Yeah. I have more great friends in New York than I do in LA. I've lived

1:38:15

in LA forever.

1:38:16

There's great people in LA, but I know there are, yeah, but in spite of LA,

1:38:19

that's right. That's true.

1:38:21

Yeah. That's true. But that environment, it's also, you have all these people

1:38:26

that are,

1:38:27

even if they have no aspirations to show business, they're still flavored by

1:38:32

that show business. And

1:38:34

now it's even more fucked because you have these Instagram and social media

1:38:37

influencers who are

1:38:39

almost all full of shit and like, it's all nonsense and it's all image and it's

1:38:44

all fake. It's all fake.

1:38:47

And this is what they're selling and pushing and promoting. And that's what the

1:38:51

young people are

1:38:52

aspiring to. And they realize that there's a value in it that you could

1:38:55

actually achieve like social

1:38:58

success and numbers on your Instagram page and numbers in your tick tock and

1:39:02

numbers on your YouTube.

1:39:03

And that I think that's the most valued commodity now. Yes. To be a, what do

1:39:09

you call it? Influencer

1:39:11

or whatever? Yeah. A YouTuber or whatever the hell. Yeah. I mean, I, I'm horrified

1:39:16

that I'm

1:39:16

probably one of those, but not really. I mean, yeah, I guess I am too. Right.

1:39:21

But what are you doing?

1:39:22

Like what you're, you're doing something that's very different than just like

1:39:26

tick talking, you know,

1:39:27

or just, I mean, I, I, I, I tell people who are like, like agents and managers

1:39:35

that I'm working

1:39:36

with that the number one thing that's important to me is my integrity and how I'm

1:39:41

perceived.

1:39:41

Like, I don't give a fuck if I make money or not. I don't need to make money

1:39:44

from this channel.

1:39:45

The way YouTube demonetizes it, it's like, I don't even. Does YouTube demonetize

1:39:51

a lot of your videos?

1:39:52

A lot. But what is their, their rationalization for demonetizing what you do? I

1:39:56

think they were

1:39:58

good to me for a while. They were promoting my stuff and they were monetizing

1:40:01

it for a while.

1:40:01

But then like, if you look at the top 10 videos, I've got some videos that have

1:40:05

a lot of views,

1:40:06

like 15 million, 30 million, 33 million. Uh, six of the top 10 have been demonetized

1:40:14

or deleted.

1:40:14

Deleted? Deleted. Which ones got deleted? Uh, video of Lynn. She was, uh,

1:40:20

she had like some mental issues and she was a crystal meth addict. It was a

1:40:24

very popular video

1:40:26

because she was just so many people connected with her. And, uh, she actually

1:40:30

passed away, uh,

1:40:31

earlier this year, I think. Why did they delete it? She talked about suicide.

1:40:36

That's it? I, I, I assume that's why. Because, because YouTube sent me a, a

1:40:41

notice,

1:40:41

they emailed me a notice saying, are you considering suicide? You know, like

1:40:44

this form,

1:40:45

document that they send out whenever there's a suicide mention or whatever. So

1:40:49

they,

1:40:49

there was a video where she mentioned suicide. So somebody reported it and it

1:40:53

got deleted.

1:40:54

And then that was, that would have been a moneymaker. Did you try to respond to

1:40:58

that or appeal it?

1:41:00

Talking to YouTube is like talking to a wall. I have a partner manager, but

1:41:06

nothing's really good.

1:41:07

There's such a danger in that kind of censorship. Like anything to do with sex

1:41:11

now,

1:41:12

pretty much every video that has anything to do with sex gets demonetized.

1:41:16

Even the foot fetish guy?

1:41:18

No. If it's a male, here's what, here's what's interesting about it. If it's a

1:41:22

male talking about

1:41:23

sex or sex work or sex being a trick or whatever, or a pimp, that's okay. If it's

1:41:29

a female, demonetize.

1:41:31

Is it because they think it's exploitation in some way? Like, is there a

1:41:35

rationalization or is it just

1:41:37

completely subjective?

1:41:38

No, I think it's because, oh, here's a poor vulnerable female who is talking

1:41:42

about how she

1:41:43

got into sex work. We can't have that on, you know, we can't, uh, allow

1:41:46

advertising on that.

1:41:48

So I can post it, but I can't make money off of it.

1:41:51

It's so unfortunate because, well, and also not necessarily post it, right?

1:41:55

Because you said the

1:41:56

other one was deleted because of suicide.

1:41:57

Yeah. Sometimes they delete them.

1:41:58

It's just what, I think what you're doing is very valuable. It's uncomfortable,

1:42:02

but it's very valuable.

1:42:03

And the idea that someone at YouTube wouldn't recognize that and understand

1:42:07

that it's, it's,

1:42:09

it's very disheartening for me.

1:42:11

No, I mean, it's pathetic that you have a channel that has 4 million views. The

1:42:16

spirit of it is to help

1:42:17

society and you can't make money with it. What I make on YouTube, I spend in

1:42:22

the first two weeks of

1:42:22

every month.

1:42:23

So that money, the additional money comes from, I mean, really what's, what's,

1:42:30

what's,

1:42:30

you have a subscription model.

1:42:32

I have a subscription channel too, and that's, that's starting to take off.

1:42:34

And when did you start doing that?

1:42:36

About a year ago.

1:42:37

And was that in response to the demonetization?

1:42:39

That's exactly why I did it.

1:42:40

Censorship.

1:42:41

That's exactly why I did it.

1:42:42

And this subscription model, is that also on YouTube or is that on your website?

1:42:45

No, no, it's on my softwhiteunderbelly.com.

1:42:48

And that, that's really the, the state of the art of my channel.

1:42:51

That's where every video lives, deleted, uncensored.

1:42:55

So they can find that one that was deleted from Instagram?

1:42:57

Yeah, yeah.

1:42:58

The original Lynn video is there.

1:42:59

There's a bunch of others.

1:42:59

Or on YouTube rather.

1:43:00

Yeah, there's some others that were deleted.

1:43:01

All the demonetized ones.

1:43:04

There's a lot of nudity that's not on YouTube.

1:43:07

There's a lot of videos that are not, there's like 150 videos that are not on

1:43:10

YouTube.

1:43:10

It's really, that, that to me is like, the reason I wanted to, another reason I

1:43:15

wanted to do it, other than to try to make money with this project that I

1:43:19

worked so hard at, is I figured one day I'm going to post something that's

1:43:23

going to get my whole channel taken down.

1:43:26

Hmm.

1:43:27

I figured eventually that's going to happen.

1:43:29

I'll do something that just pisses somebody off and the whole channel will be

1:43:32

gone, disappeared.

1:43:33

See you later.

1:43:35

It's just terrifying that that's an option today, especially with someone who's

1:43:39

doing the kind of work that you're doing.

1:43:40

Yeah, but there's rap videos that are 10 times raunchier than what I'm doing.

1:43:45

And the spirit behind it is that this is cool.

1:43:48

Whereas the spirit of mine is like, I just want to create awareness so that

1:43:51

maybe people will learn to avoid it.

1:43:53

No, it's not rational.

1:43:55

But the, but they're monetized.

1:43:56

Yeah.

1:43:56

The rap videos all have ads on them.

1:43:58

Yeah.

1:43:58

And my stuff does not.

1:44:00

No, it's not.

1:44:00

There's not, it's not logical.

1:44:03

No.

1:44:03

And it's a big, it's a big corporation.

1:44:05

Good luck trying to have a logical conversation.

1:44:09

It's a big corporation that's also under the spell of an ideology.

1:44:12

And this, the, the woke ideology of today is like trying to find like, who are

1:44:20

the victims and who's the perpetrator

1:44:22

and who's the, the, and what should you be allowed to talk about?

1:44:25

What are you not allowed to talk about?

1:44:27

Yeah.

1:44:27

And what narrow confines of conversations are you allowed to exist in?

1:44:31

And what topics are you just not allowed to approach?

1:44:34

And YouTube has been horrible with that in a lot of ways.

1:44:37

Yeah.

1:44:38

Just recently.

1:44:38

Yeah.

1:44:39

Well, it's like, it's accelerating, it seems.

1:44:41

And it seems like that's one of the things that does happen with censorship

1:44:44

that people don't

1:44:45

seem to understand when, when you want things censored that you don't agree

1:44:50

with, what you,

1:44:51

you have to understand is that that you're setting in motion something that

1:44:55

will look for more things

1:44:58

that are offensive, more things that are, that, that are not allowed and will

1:45:04

decide even further and

1:45:06

further to push this until it's trying to control the way you think and the way

1:45:10

you process information

1:45:11

and what you're exposed to.

1:45:13

Yeah.

1:45:13

And somehow or another, they think that that's a net positive or they think

1:45:17

that it's positive

1:45:18

for advertising revenue and that the advertisers think it's positive.

1:45:21

I mean, but it's preposterous to me that someone would not want to advertise.

1:45:26

There's certain things that they could advertise on your channel.

1:45:29

And particularly if they were thinking about it and strategizing, that would

1:45:33

maybe be beneficial

1:45:34

to some of the people that are looking at those things, you know?

1:45:37

I mean, the best example is like when a gang member or a prostitute video gets

1:45:42

demonetized,

1:45:43

which really means I can't make money on it, which really means I should put it

1:45:46

on my subscription

1:45:47

channel and not even put it on YouTube. I'm doing that as a favor to my

1:45:50

audience, but

1:45:50

eventually that's where it would lead when you demonetize something.

1:45:55

The problem with or they put an age restriction of 18 on it.

1:45:58

Yeah.

1:45:59

So you can't be under 18 watching this.

1:46:01

Look at the age that all these prostitutes and gang members were when they

1:46:04

joined it.

1:46:05

Right.

1:46:05

They were 13.

1:46:06

They were 14.

1:46:07

Yeah.

1:46:08

So, so the people who are joining these subcultures can't watch these videos

1:46:13

that are giving you

1:46:13

a clear picture of what the, what your future is going to be.

1:46:16

You can't watch them.

1:46:18

Yeah.

1:46:19

My videos are clean.

1:46:20

You know, the exotic video.

1:46:21

This is this very attractive, uh, prostitute from South central LA from Figueroa

1:46:27

street.

1:46:27

She has tattoos all over her face from pimps.

1:46:30

And, uh, the video has like, I don't know how many views, like 14 million, 50

1:46:36

million.

1:46:36

So it's got millions of views.

1:46:38

It's the second most popular video on my channel.

1:46:40

It got demonetized.

1:46:41

Like for what, she doesn't swear once.

1:46:44

She doesn't talk about any sexual acts.

1:46:46

All she talks about is how difficult that lifestyle is and how tough her life

1:46:50

is.

1:46:50

She mentions that she's smokes crystal meth, but that's it.

1:46:53

And it's, it, it is in a way it's educational.

1:46:58

It's educational as, as anything.

1:47:00

Cause I could put videos out of some girl saying, I was once a prostitute and

1:47:04

it's

1:47:05

a bad lifestyle and you shouldn't do it.

1:47:07

All young girls make sure you don't do this.

1:47:09

Nobody's going to watch that.

1:47:11

Who the fuck is going to watch that?

1:47:13

But if you put a beautiful girl like exotic out there and she tells you her

1:47:16

whole life story,

1:47:19

it's heartbreaking and a young kid will listen to that and go, fuck.

1:47:23

Yeah.

1:47:23

I had no idea it could lead to that.

1:47:26

Well, most people don't know anyone like that.

1:47:28

So that's one of the things about your interviews would say like some of these

1:47:32

homeless people,

1:47:33

like there was one, there was this woman who'd never looked at the camera once.

1:47:36

Um, and she was like gyrating and these weird ways of like looking at the sky

1:47:43

and,

1:47:43

and you know, you look at that and me as a father, I'd like, that's, that was

1:47:47

someone's baby.

1:47:48

At one point in time, that was a little child that could grow up to be anything.

1:47:53

Yeah.

1:47:53

Could grow up to be an artist, could grow up to be, you know, whatever.

1:47:56

All of these people, all these people, they're all just human beings.

1:47:59

They're all, we're all just humans.

1:48:00

Just a bundle of potential and they just got fucked.

1:48:04

They just got a terrible roll of the dice, terrible hand of cards, terrible

1:48:08

circumstances,

1:48:09

terrible experiences, terrible abuse.

1:48:12

Sometimes, sometimes I, sometimes I, you look at nature.

1:48:15

The lion eats the antelope.

1:48:18

That's just the way, that's the way it happened that day.

1:48:21

The antelope loses, the lion wins.

1:48:24

And it's like, that's the nature of our universe or of our, of our world.

1:48:30

Who's to say that humans are exempt from that?

1:48:32

Well, we certainly aren't.

1:48:34

Some of us are going to be winners and drive fancy cars and live in nice houses

1:48:38

and be,

1:48:39

have, have great lives and great vacations and raise their kids well.

1:48:43

And other ones are going to live on the street.

1:48:44

And you know, you, I'm not saying that's what I believe.

1:48:47

I'm just saying that's the reality.

1:48:49

Well, I mean, look, it's what happened.

1:48:51

Look at what's happening.

1:48:51

And I think about this all the time.

1:48:53

Like, should every kid get a, should every swimmer get a trophy?

1:48:56

No.

1:48:57

Just the winners.

1:48:58

Yeah.

1:48:59

So the winners get to win and the losers suffer the loss.

1:49:03

Well, it's supposed to inspire people who are also trying to become winners,

1:49:09

to feel the pain of loss, which makes you more disciplined.

1:49:13

It makes you work harder because you want to try to figure out a way to win.

1:49:17

And that's supposed to be like a net benefit.

1:49:21

And to also enforce the value of hard work and discipline.

1:49:25

If you see that person who wins all the time and they're at the pool before

1:49:28

anybody

1:49:29

and they're eating healthy and they're stretching and doing all the right

1:49:32

things.

1:49:32

And you're like, I want to be like that person.

1:49:35

Yeah.

1:49:35

Listen to anybody who's done like, like Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant.

1:49:38

Yeah.

1:49:39

Jerry West, all these guys, they lost and lost and lost and lost.

1:49:43

And then they learned how to win.

1:49:44

Yes.

1:49:45

And then they became, they're only perceived as winners now.

1:49:47

Yes.

1:49:48

But there was a time where they were like, Kobe sat on the bench for first few

1:49:51

seasons.

1:49:52

That's how you become that person.

1:49:54

Yeah.

1:49:55

You don't, you don't become that person through like extraordinary gifts from

1:49:59

the moment you're

1:49:59

a child and nothing but great positive things happening.

1:50:02

Yeah.

1:50:03

It comes from discipline and hard work.

1:50:04

And that's what's not being enforced by the social media, TikTok sort of

1:50:11

generation of kids looking

1:50:13

for this immediate gratification and also looking to be rewarded for just

1:50:18

existing.

1:50:19

Right.

1:50:20

You know?

1:50:21

No, look at it.

1:50:21

Look at like all these people I just mentioned, Michael and Kobe, for example.

1:50:25

They're angry.

1:50:26

They were, they were driven.

1:50:29

Michael Jordan's the best example of anything.

1:50:31

If you ever watch his Hall of Fame acceptance speech.

1:50:33

Yes.

1:50:34

It's magnificent.

1:50:35

A magnificent example of how angry a champion is.

1:50:39

Yes.

1:50:40

It was, that was, I love that speech.

1:50:42

Yeah.

1:50:42

Because like Michael was always this like, you know, I'm from Chicago.

1:50:46

Michael was this, he, they call him the black Jesus.

1:50:49

He was just like better than anybody.

1:50:51

Right.

1:50:51

There was no question who the greatest basketball player of all time was.

1:50:54

It's Michael, Michael Jordan.

1:50:55

Watch the highlights and you'll, you'll say, I love Kobe more than anybody.

1:50:58

But Michael was the best there ever was.

1:51:00

Probably ever will be.

1:51:02

Psychotically driven.

1:51:03

Fuck.

1:51:04

Everybody was horrified in the whole theater when he's accepted, getting his

1:51:09

Hall of Fame.

1:51:10

Because he was angry at.

1:51:12

Angry at everybody.

1:51:13

Yeah.

1:51:14

And that's what.

1:51:14

All the people that doubted him.

1:51:15

All the people that doubted him.

1:51:16

All the people that disrespected him.

1:51:18

He just, he listed them all.

1:51:19

Like he, like he had them on a sheet, but he had them in his brain.

1:51:23

And it's amazing because you're like, why are you even thinking about those

1:51:26

people?

1:51:26

You're Michael Jordan.

1:51:27

You're the fucking man.

1:51:29

He's the greatest.

1:51:29

He's name an athlete who is more influential than Michael Jordan.

1:51:33

None.

1:51:34

In their sport.

1:51:35

None.

1:51:35

I mean, look at Jordan's.

1:51:37

They're still the number one sneaker in the world.

1:51:39

They should be.

1:51:39

He's magnificent.

1:51:42

And that comes from that.

1:51:44

Yeah.

1:51:46

Fire.

1:51:46

Yeah.

1:51:47

I mean, I'm angry.

1:51:48

You know, my dad treated me like, my dad, my sister's like,

1:51:53

my sister's one of my favorite people.

1:51:54

She's, she's five years older, but she's about eight years older in terms of

1:51:57

maturity.

1:51:57

Cause I matured very slowly and she matured very quick.

1:51:59

She got out of, I think she went through grade school a year early.

1:52:02

She got through high school in three years.

1:52:03

She went through college in three years.

1:52:04

And she was trying to get into dental school at like 20 years old or 21 years

1:52:08

old.

1:52:08

And didn't get accepted for a while.

1:52:10

Worked in a motel for a while.

1:52:12

Cause she couldn't do anything.

1:52:13

She just had to get a job.

1:52:14

So she, and my dad, my dad was hard on us.

1:52:16

My dad was hard on us and said things to her and me.

1:52:20

I was not a straight A student.

1:52:22

My sister doesn't know any other letter than A, you know, on a report card.

1:52:26

But I remember him saying to us, if you're so smart, how come you can't get

1:52:30

into dental school?

1:52:31

That's harsh.

1:52:33

That's harsh.

1:52:34

I mean, you got nothing but A's.

1:52:35

Yeah.

1:52:36

And the only reason you couldn't get in is because she was too young.

1:52:38

No dental school wanted to take her because she was a teenager, basically.

1:52:42

Yeah.

1:52:42

You know, she had to, she had to age a couple of years and then she got in.

1:52:45

Now she's a dentist.

1:52:46

But my dad used to tell me that kind of stuff all the time.

1:52:50

And it put a fire on, I mean, it would either break you and you start smoking

1:52:55

dope and you

1:52:55

spiral downward or you silently get angry.

1:53:00

And my sister and I joke about it all the time now.

1:53:03

The reason we both became successful was just to prove our dad wrong.

1:53:06

And, and, you know, I talked to him about it.

1:53:08

And he says, yeah, I was just trying to put a fire under your ass.

1:53:10

And I'm like, well, it worked.

1:53:12

It worked.

1:53:13

It's hard because you're still going to resent that person for being cruel when

1:53:16

you're younger.

1:53:17

No, but I mean, to me, the reason I do these videos, the reason I love to learn.

1:53:22

You do too.

1:53:23

I mean, like, look at what you're doing.

1:53:25

You love to learn.

1:53:26

And I love to understand.

1:53:27

The wanting to understand why we self-destruct, why we self-sabotage, why the

1:53:33

society is broken,

1:53:33

why all these things that are topics on my channel is what drives me to do them.

1:53:38

And I, and I, I want to know why.

1:53:41

Uh, I forget.

1:53:43

I lost my train of thought there, but.

1:53:45

Your dad being hard on you.

1:53:47

Yeah.

1:53:48

But I, I, I just want to know what, what, I lost my.

1:53:54

But I know what you're saying.

1:53:55

Like, what is missing in these people?

1:53:58

What, what, what are the factors that lead people to become downcast and downtrodden

1:54:06

of society?

1:54:06

Yeah.

1:54:06

And what are the factors that lead people to become healthy, functional,

1:54:10

successful humans?

1:54:11

Yeah.

1:54:12

I, I, I, for me, it was a combination of the, of the unconditional love I got

1:54:16

from my mom that kind of kept me on track and made me believe in myself.

1:54:19

Tremendous.

1:54:22

I, I, I believe, like, everything I do turns to gold.

1:54:25

It's a, it's a magic, it's a magical gift.

1:54:28

I love it.

1:54:28

It's, it's the, like, artistically, I believe my work is the best.

1:54:33

I'm sure it isn't, but, but I believe it is.

1:54:36

So that just gives me the confidence to proceed and, and do more.

1:54:39

And, and like, oh my God, this is so much fun.

1:54:41

I get to create, I, I'm laying golden eggs every day.

1:54:44

That's how I, that's how I look at it.

1:54:46

Um, but it could also have gone where, like, let's say I didn't get that

1:54:51

unconditional love from my mom.

1:54:52

And my dad was giving me a hard time saying, you know, you, you know, that

1:54:55

conditional love saying you, you, you, you got to be successful in order to.

1:54:58

Oh, so I, I guess where I was going with that is my dad used to give me this

1:55:01

hard time all the time.

1:55:03

And it drove me to succeed.

1:55:04

And I, I didn't get good grades in school.

1:55:06

But when I got out of school, in my mind, I'm like, now I'm going to prove him

1:55:10

wrong.

1:55:10

I'm going to prove everybody wrong.

1:55:12

I'm going to show everybody what I can do.

1:55:14

And it took years, took a lot of years.

1:55:17

But I eventually just became so wildly successful.

1:55:20

I would send my dad, I would mail him my, uh, this is before cell phones.

1:55:24

I would, I would mail him my, uh, bank statements.

1:55:29

I had a million dollars in the bank.

1:55:31

Really?

1:55:31

I had a million dollars in the bank of America checking account, getting like

1:55:34

minimal interest.

1:55:34

And even the tellers would be like, why, why do you have this much money in a

1:55:38

checking account?

1:55:39

Like, cause I'm working so goddamn much.

1:55:41

I don't have time to invest it.

1:55:44

I literally, literally was.

1:55:45

When I was doing advertising, I worked so much all the time.

1:55:48

But you wanted him to know.

1:55:50

Oh yeah.

1:55:51

I was, I was shoving his nose in the shit.

1:55:54

How did he respond to that?

1:55:55

He was so proud of me.

1:55:57

Oh, that's good.

1:55:57

So proud of me.

1:55:59

He talks about that to this day.

1:56:00

Well, that's great.

1:56:01

Oh yeah.

1:56:02

No, I mean.

1:56:03

So it was effective.

1:56:04

Yeah, it worked.

1:56:05

It worked.

1:56:05

It worked for my sister too.

1:56:07

We both laugh about it now.

1:56:08

That it sucked, but it worked.

1:56:10

It sucked, but it works.

1:56:11

Yeah.

1:56:11

Yeah.

1:56:12

I mean, I w I wouldn't, I try to raise my kids differently.

1:56:15

Why?

1:56:16

Like you, you could, we could talk here for hours about whether that is the

1:56:23

healthy

1:56:23

way to raise a child.

1:56:24

Right.

1:56:24

I could make a strong argument for why it is.

1:56:26

And there were generations that raised their kids that way.

1:56:29

But I, I tend to love more like my mom did.

1:56:33

With women in my life, with my friends, with, I am, I'm basically kind.

1:56:41

I'm not, I'm, I'm not a hard driving, you know.

1:56:44

Has this project and doing all these videos made you more empathetic?

1:56:49

Oh, fuck yeah.

1:56:50

I mean, I always was soft and nice and loving, but now I think I'm more than

1:56:55

ever.

1:56:55

Yeah.

1:56:56

I'm much more understanding because, because the key to, the key to empathy,

1:57:00

the key to

1:57:01

forgiveness, which is really my, my biggest thing is forgiveness is, uh, is

1:57:05

understanding.

1:57:06

Because if you understand why somebody is behaving the way they are, you'll

1:57:11

forgive them.

1:57:13

And you don't even need to know all the details.

1:57:15

You just need to have, if you've, if you've learned enough stories, you

1:57:18

eventually will

1:57:19

gain the understanding that even though I don't know your story, I'll bet you

1:57:25

it's similar to

1:57:26

his story and her story, which I've already heard. And they're horrifying. And

1:57:31

I understand why they're

1:57:32

in the situation that's similar to yours. So you, you, you, you, you may not

1:57:36

know the details, but you

1:57:38

have gained the empathy and the compassion and the understanding to forgive.

1:57:42

And so the overwhelming volume of these people that you've interacted with as

1:57:51

it has to have like

1:57:53

shifted your just idea of what it means to be a person.

1:57:57

Yeah, for sure. No, I, I, I've, I've matured tremendously in the last three

1:58:04

years from doing this.

1:58:05

Just, I mean, I started this just as like, let me, let me just do this crazy

1:58:11

project. I didn't

1:58:12

think it was going to become a success on YouTube, but I knew that I was going

1:58:15

to learn a lot

1:58:16

about, about people, about why we self-destruct, about why we self-sabotage,

1:58:22

about why we

1:58:23

get in our own way. I mean, why would, I mean, why would you drink like that to

1:58:28

destroy your

1:58:29

relationship with your wife, to, to, to, to lose your kids, lose your job, lose

1:58:33

your finances,

1:58:33

lose everything. You're, you're now a drunk living on the street. Why would you

1:58:37

do that? Makes no sense. But if you

1:58:41

hear the whole story and what they went through and how they weren't loved as a

1:58:44

child and how their dad

1:58:45

never neglected them or abused them or whatever, all the pieces start to fit.

1:58:49

And then it, then you,

1:58:51

you gain some empathy and compassion.

1:58:53

When you move on from doing this, like you're going to just interview

1:58:58

interesting people that are doing

1:59:01

different kinds of things.

1:59:03

I mean, like I did, I did a really great interview with a girl named Kate down

1:59:05

in New Orleans. She is a,

1:59:07

uh, obsessive compulsive disorder sufferer. And, uh, that was a great interview.

1:59:14

So many people liked it

1:59:16

because it was just like, Oh my God, that's me. I saw so many comments saying

1:59:18

that's, that's what I have.

1:59:20

I didn't even realize it because that that's my story, you know, and I see that

1:59:23

in so many of my

1:59:23

videos, like this is my story. So I like the mental health stories. The sex

1:59:27

stories are always fun.

1:59:29

You know, I, I find sex interesting, even though I don't make money on YouTube,

1:59:33

I'll still do them.

1:59:34

Um, and I'll put them on my subscription channel sometimes too. But, uh, and

1:59:39

then this guy, like the

1:59:40

skydiver I mentioned, that's an interesting story because you know, what's

1:59:43

interesting about his story

1:59:44

is not that they had this crazy one in a million event happened in his life. Tragic

1:59:49

is how he views

1:59:52

life now. That's, that's, that's what the second half of our talk is all about

1:59:56

is how he views

1:59:57

life and values what, where he's at in life. I mean, he's, he doesn't really

2:00:03

have

2:00:04

his body to use like he once did. Maybe he'll gain it back. Hopefully.

2:00:10

How long ago was his accent? Three months. Geez. Three months. He just emailed

2:00:15

me before I came

2:00:16

down here and I'm like, this is great timing. Can he walk? He walks with a cane.

2:00:21

He can't,

2:00:22

I don't think he can use his right leg. He fell on his right side. So his right

2:00:25

leg,

2:00:25

his right arm is right. Everything is he bit his tongue, bit his tongue off, I

2:00:30

think. Yeah.

2:00:33

Hemorrhage. So he said his, his, his, his, uh, testicles turned like the cantaloupe.

2:00:38

Oh Jesus.

2:00:39

I mean, you, you fall 4,000 feet under a cornfield, some bad shit's going to

2:00:45

happen.

2:00:46

So from now on, like the, this new, uh, direction that you want to take things

2:00:50

to,

2:00:51

what, how do you seek out people? Do you just like, when you get emailed, like

2:00:55

this seems interesting?

2:00:56

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, uh, I'll, I'll probably post a video on my channel. Sure. I've

2:01:00

been thinking about

2:01:01

doing it. I just haven't done it yet. Cause I just hired somebody new and I

2:01:03

want to get her like

2:01:05

up to speed on everything, but we, we've put out little, little ads on, uh,

2:01:08

Instagram and Tik Tok and

2:01:11

not Tik Tok, um, Craigslist and things like that. And we're getting some

2:01:14

response to that. And that's

2:01:15

been great. That's how I found him. But, um, I've, I've always gotten lots of

2:01:20

emails from people that

2:01:22

like my channel. Oh, I want to be on your channel. And, but if they don't send

2:01:24

a video, I can't,

2:01:26

I won't even consider it because everyone says they have a great story, but I

2:01:29

need to see how

2:01:29

you speak. Right. Yeah. That's, that's a problem that I've had where we're

2:01:33

interviewing people who've

2:01:35

written books. Some of them are not terrible speakers. Yeah. And sometimes they

2:01:39

talk the way they

2:01:40

write, like pause, um, pause, um, right, click, click, click. Cause that's how

2:01:46

they think.

2:01:47

See what I do with everybody. I won't even consider you unless you've sent me a,

2:01:50

just a 15 or 30 second video of you. Just tell me your name and where you're

2:01:54

from.

2:01:55

Hmm. Yeah. It's just a basic. So I can hear your voice,

2:01:57

see what you look like, see how you speak. Cause if you're,

2:01:59

you know, some people are more, they're just better. They're more charismatic

2:02:03

speakers than others.

2:02:05

And, and, um, you know, this, what I'm doing is like, you know, maybe some

2:02:08

people look at it as,

2:02:09

oh, you're doing this good deed for society. And maybe there is some of that,

2:02:12

but there's also,

2:02:12

this is entertainment as well. Yeah. And I'm from advertising. I'm slick. I

2:02:17

mean, I'm,

2:02:18

you know, I still have that in my, in, in me, you know, I don't look like a

2:02:23

homeless,

2:02:23

disheveled dude. I'm, I know how to put myself together. So my art tends to

2:02:28

have that,

2:02:29

some of that quality too. So I want it to look and sound good. Yeah. Not

2:02:33

technically,

2:02:34

but in terms of how you speak, how you tell the story, I'm looking for great

2:02:38

storytelling is what

2:02:39

I'm looking for. I tell people all the time, rather than telling me the most

2:02:42

horrific story

2:02:43

that's ever been told, I would rather have you tell a boring story about crack

2:02:46

cocaine,

2:02:47

but you're a great speaker. I had a, I had a guy, uh, had a couple of the crack

2:02:52

addicts

2:02:53

and crystal meth addicts just recently. I just interviewed on Skid Row and they're

2:02:55

just great

2:02:56

storytellers. Yeah. And I love that, but their story wasn't the most horrific

2:03:00

ever, but it's,

2:03:01

it's a great storytelling and it's fun to listen to. Yeah. And I love that.

2:03:06

How often do you consume these videos? I mean, are you watching them all day

2:03:10

long? No,

2:03:11

no. Do you purposely go out of your way? Your very first question when we

2:03:16

started,

2:03:17

uh, I never answered, which is like, how does it affect me? Yeah. You have to

2:03:21

understand,

2:03:21

like you have a crew and you have cameras all set. Everything's set. I'm using

2:03:26

natural light. So the sun

2:03:28

is going behind the clouds. The sun is moving throughout an interview. There's

2:03:33

noise going

2:03:34

outside. I have to, I'm doing this all by myself. I'm operating two cameras. I

2:03:37

have to make sure the

2:03:39

mic, you know, I don't use headphones and a mic like this. I'm using, uh, uh, a

2:03:43

lab of their mic that

2:03:44

they clip on. So I have to make sure that's not getting bumped or knocked off

2:03:48

or whatever.

2:03:50

I'm like a one man band. I'm trying to do two things. You know, I'm doing all

2:03:54

these things at

2:03:54

the same time. Oh, and I'm also doing an interview. Let me ask you a question.

2:03:57

Let me ask you this

2:03:58

question. And I'm doing like six or eight of these a day. So I have to remember,

2:04:02

like, were you molested

2:04:03

by your uncle or your dad? I can't remember. I can't remember. And I've made

2:04:07

this mistake. People tell me,

2:04:08

so I've got kids and all this. And then later on the interview, I asked them if

2:04:11

they have kids.

2:04:12

Right. It's not because I'm an idiot. It's because I'm doing so much at once

2:04:17

that I can't possibly

2:04:18

absorb everything I'm being told. Got it. Yeah. And I'm, I'm also interviewing

2:04:23

at least on Skid Row,

2:04:24

especially so many, like the force that comes at me of, of, of bullshit and

2:04:31

hustling and conning

2:04:32

and lying and thievery and all that crap. It's a lot. So they recognize you now

2:04:38

when you show up?

2:04:38

Who's that? People in Skid Row. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. I'm like a fixture there. So

2:04:44

you're that guy. I'm

2:04:45

the guy that does those interviews and they, you know, a lot of people will

2:04:47

bring me somebody that

2:04:48

they know or whatever. Yeah. That happens a lot. And you pay those people and I

2:04:53

pay the people that

2:04:54

bring them. I pay the people I interview. I pay some people that I've

2:04:57

interviewed in the past and

2:04:58

I'm helping them out with motel rooms or how did you find one of the most

2:05:02

compelling and fascinating

2:05:04

videos that I watched was those mountain people. Oh, the Whitaker family. Yeah.

2:05:09

In, uh,

2:05:09

West Virginia. Yeah. How'd you find them? Um, that was during create equal the

2:05:15

book that I mentioned.

2:05:15

He, uh, uh, I was, you know, I was going to each of the lower 48 States and we

2:05:21

were in West Virginia,

2:05:22

just driving around Axel, my assistant and I, he's, he's worked with me for

2:05:25

decades and we're just

2:05:27

driving around looking for anybody interesting to photograph. You know, it's

2:05:29

like, I was just,

2:05:30

it was just like, let's just see what we can find. And we're in a, like a truck

2:05:35

stop,

2:05:36

convenience store, gas station thing. And, uh, I'm inside and there's a cop in

2:05:40

there and cops

2:05:41

always know everybody in their, in their County or whatever. This is a Raleigh

2:05:45

County cop. And I,

2:05:47

uh, I went up to him, told him what I'm doing. And he goes, Oh yeah, I know all

2:05:50

kinds of people.

2:05:51

I'm like, I bet you do. He goes, I get off at two o'clock and I go, I'll meet

2:05:55

you here too. So we did.

2:05:56

I've had people like this before who have helped me. This guy was probably the

2:06:01

best I've ever had.

2:06:03

He's, he took me to pure gold over and over and over all these interesting

2:06:07

people who I photographed

2:06:08

for create equal. Just, he knew exactly what I'm looking for. He showed me the

2:06:13

best of the best of

2:06:13

Raleigh County. It was, it was great. I'm sure there's more. I know there's

2:06:16

more, but the ones he

2:06:17

showed me were so great. And the first day we did this, uh, we shot this person,

2:06:22

we shot that, we shot

2:06:23

a third and then it started raining. And my strobe equipment, I always use strobe

2:06:27

equipment, um,

2:06:29

for my photograph. This is photographs only at the time. This is for a photo

2:06:32

book, um, got rained on.

2:06:34

And so we had to pack up and leave. Can't rent photo gear in West Virginia. So

2:06:38

we just had to go

2:06:39

back to LA and I told him, we'll be back in two weeks. So we come back and he

2:06:43

says, when you come

2:06:44

back, make sure you bring video cameras. I'm like, yeah, yeah. I don't do video.

2:06:49

So I didn't say anything.

2:06:50

But two weeks later we come back and, um, he, uh, he meets us and he goes, did

2:06:57

you bring video cameras?

2:06:58

I'm like, no, I don't do video. He got really pissed. He's like, you're going

2:07:03

to want video.

2:07:04

I'm like, I don't do video. I'm sorry. Just photos. So we follow him. He's in

2:07:09

one car,

2:07:09

not, not, not a cop car, but his own private car. And we're following him in

2:07:13

our rental and

2:07:14

we're going off the highway. Then we go off to this mountain road and it's

2:07:17

winding through the

2:07:18

mountains. Beautiful country, Appalachia that Western West Virginia and Eastern

2:07:23

Kentucky is

2:07:24

it's right near the border of Kentucky. It's so beautiful. It's one of the most

2:07:27

beautiful parts

2:07:27

of the U S. Um, and this, this windy road turns into like a gravel road and

2:07:33

then turns into a dirt

2:07:34

road and there's shacks every once in a while you see a house and like somebody

2:07:37

lives there.

2:07:38

Like you can't believe people live there, but, and we're going very poor. I

2:07:42

mean,

2:07:42

the poverty in that part of the West Virginia is like these people are making,

2:07:46

I think an average of

2:07:46

12,000 a month, that's what they live on. So we're going down this dirt road

2:07:52

and then we come around

2:07:53

this bend and we're going really slow. 12,000 a month, 12,000. I'm sorry. 12,000

2:07:59

a year. Yeah.

2:08:00

$12,000 a year. How do they live on 12,000 a month? I was like, that's actually

2:08:04

no, no,

2:08:04

no. I'm sorry. 12,000 a year. Yeah. 12,000 a year. Can you imagine that? No,

2:08:09

that's crazy. Um,

2:08:11

that's, that's like parts of Kentucky and West Virginia are like that. So poor.

2:08:14

So we're driving

2:08:15

down this dirt road. We come around this bend. There's a shack on the left and

2:08:20

there's a trailer

2:08:21

on the right, small trailer. And there's about 10 or 12 people just walking

2:08:26

around

2:08:27

and we're going really slow. So they're, they're not used to cars coming by at

2:08:31

all,

2:08:32

but going that slow, they definitely, we got their attention. And it's like,

2:08:37

everyone you look at,

2:08:38

it's like their eyeballs are going this way and a single tooth among them, not

2:08:43

a single tooth in

2:08:44

any of their heads. And they look at us and we look at them and they started

2:08:48

yep and screaming and

2:08:49

barking. And yeah, some of them are just staring at us and drooling. And it was

2:08:52

like, yeah, these

2:08:53

people, this was the video, the inbred family, the Whitakers. Yeah. Let's play

2:08:59

some of this because

2:09:01

so what are your names? I'm sorry. Who's this? His name's Ray. Ray. I remember

2:09:12

Ray. I photographed

2:09:13

you right here. Do you remember? Years ago. So that, that sound is this man

2:09:18

barking. Lorraine. Lorraine.

2:09:20

And Timmy. Yeah. None of them speak. No, you guys grew up here in, uh, in odd,

2:09:26

West Virginia.

2:09:26

How many years have you lived here?

2:09:31

Well, you guys, I mean, did you go to school?

2:09:39

You did? Some of your, some of your brothers and sisters probably didn't go to

2:09:46

school or

2:09:47

how much schooling did they get? These are all brothers and sisters.

2:09:49

They didn't, they didn't go wrong, but they graduated.

2:09:53

You graduated from what?

2:09:55

Well, they were from high school.

2:09:57

You went to high school, Timmy? Yeah, he went to high school. High school out

2:10:01

in there.

2:10:01

Timmy graduated high school. Doesn't, doesn't speak a word.

2:10:04

How about you, Lorraine?

2:10:05

He's actually Lorraine's daughter. And, uh. Son.

2:10:09

Come right out.

2:10:13

And that's a man barking for people just listening to this. That's all he.

2:10:20

So they live with a bunch of dogs and he's adopted their way of communicating.

2:10:25

I don't, I don't know about that, but he does sound like a dog when he speaks.

2:10:28

Yeah, here he is right here.

2:10:31

It's a Ray.

2:10:38

So some of it's a dog, some of it is him.

2:10:45

They sound very similar.

2:10:47

Yeah, that's a dog barking.

2:10:48

And that's him.

2:10:51

Now, what is the story of this family?

2:10:55

So it's Ray on the left, Timmy in the center, Lorraine's son, not daughter.

2:11:01

And that's Freddie on the right. Freddie has passed away recently.

2:11:05

So the way, so let me tell the story about how we met.

2:11:11

So we pull up and these people are just staring at us.

2:11:13

And it's something that, like, it's the craziest thing I've ever seen in my

2:11:18

life.

2:11:19

I will never, I'm certain I will never see anything crazier than this.

2:11:25

And I, you know, we pull the cars over and me and the cop get out.

2:11:29

And the cop comes up to me, says, I told you should have brought a video camera.

2:11:32

I'm like, yeah, you're right.

2:11:34

So I walk over to the house to ask them if I could photograph them.

2:11:42

And she, I think one of the sisters just points to the trailer home across the

2:11:48

road.

2:11:49

So I go to the trailer home and there's a man sitting on a couch with two women.

2:11:55

And I poked my head in, the door was open.

2:11:58

So I poked my head in and I said, my name's Mark.

2:12:00

I'm a photographer from California.

2:12:01

I just started giving my spiel and he interrupts me.

2:12:02

He says, sorry, sir, we had death in the family.

2:12:06

We're mourning.

2:12:07

We're not interested at this time.

2:12:09

And I'm just like, fuck, came all the way out here.

2:12:14

And I gotta, I gotta be respectful.

2:12:17

Somebody died.

2:12:19

So I just like, okay, I'll check in with you later.

2:12:25

And I left.

2:12:25

I go back to the cop and Axel and I'm talking to him like, fuck, we came at the

2:12:30

wrong time.

2:12:30

But then I started thinking, you know, I'm fast on my feet thinking.

2:12:37

I'm shooting eight by 10 film and eight by 10 Polaroids.

2:12:42

So you get an instant Polaroid.

2:12:45

So I have the ability to take pictures of the family.

2:12:48

And I thought maybe that might be nice to give them eight by 10 prints,

2:12:51

these instant Polaroids of their family.

2:12:54

And they can include that in the casket of, uh, I think it was their,

2:12:59

there's a sister-in-law who passed away.

2:13:01

And, uh, you could leave, you could put the prints in the casket,

2:13:05

take the family with her or some symbolic gesture like that.

2:13:09

And he, I, I, uh,

2:13:13

so I asked Kenneth, who's one of the brothers who speaks if I could take his

2:13:16

photo.

2:13:16

And he was very, he's always been friendly.

2:13:18

And he said, yeah, sure.

2:13:18

No problem.

2:13:19

So we set up on the side of the house and I got my backdrop and the light and

2:13:23

the camera.

2:13:24

And, you know, it's a, it's a, it's a, a bit of a production.

2:13:26

Clearly something unusual is going on here.

2:13:29

And some pickup truck comes running down the road,

2:13:31

sees what's going on, slams on his brake.

2:13:34

And this, this dude gets out of the car angry as fuck.

2:13:40

It looks like he wants to kill me.

2:13:41

He's just, he's marching over to me.

2:13:42

I'm like, oh God, this is not going to be pretty.

2:13:44

And I'm like, he goes, what the fuck are you doing?

2:13:47

And I'm like, let me explain what I'm doing.

2:13:50

I grabbed my book and I show him the samples of other portraits I've done.

2:13:53

And they're all respectful.

2:13:54

They're beautiful portraits.

2:13:55

And I explained that there was a death in the family and I'm going to take

2:13:58

photos of the family.

2:13:59

And they're going to include it in the casket.

2:14:00

And I'm also going to pay these people for letting me take their photos.

2:14:03

And I calmed him down and eventually he let me be.

2:14:07

And I took the photo.

2:14:08

Who was that gentleman?

2:14:09

He was just one of the neighbors, I think.

2:14:10

And I was protecting those people.

2:14:12

He was protecting them.

2:14:13

Yeah.

2:14:13

Because a lot of the, a lot of people in that area know about them and like to

2:14:16

drive

2:14:16

by and throw eggs and make fun of them and stuff like that.

2:14:19

So he thought I was doing something like that.

2:14:22

So I got him off my back and I'm taking a photo of Kenneth.

2:14:26

I think I took a photo of Lorraine and her sister, Barbara.

2:14:30

And Lorraine's holding a nephew or something.

2:14:33

So I had a couple of prints already.

2:14:35

And I go over to Larry, who was one of the other brothers who was in that

2:14:39

trailer.

2:14:39

And I showed him the prints and I said, you know, I have an idea.

2:14:43

What if I took photos of the family and I gave it to you guys?

2:14:45

You could include it in the casket with your sister-in-law.

2:14:48

Would you like me to do that?

2:14:50

He goes, well, that's fine about me.

2:14:52

If they want to do it, it's up to them.

2:14:54

So that gave me the green light to go ahead and do this.

2:14:56

And I went back and I tried to get that photo that you just saw of Ray on the

2:15:01

left,

2:15:01

Timmy in the center, and then Freddie on the right.

2:15:03

Timmy and Freddie were cool.

2:15:06

They'll stand there for as long as I want.

2:15:07

Freddie was like Ray is now.

2:15:10

But Ray, this is 2004.

2:15:13

So it's about 16 years ago, 18 years ago.

2:15:18

Ray was so uncontrollable.

2:15:22

Like, so I have Freddie and Timmy standing there and I'd go find Ray and I

2:15:26

asked him,

2:15:26

Ray, could I ask you to come over here and I'll take your photo with your

2:15:29

brothers?

2:15:30

And he would come over and he would stand right next to my camera, like right

2:15:35

next to it,

2:15:36

two inches away from the lens.

2:15:37

And I'm like, no, no, no, I need you to stand with your brothers.

2:15:39

And he would get, as soon as I corrected him, he would just flip out and go

2:15:43

screaming, running off.

2:15:45

Pants would fall around his ankles, no belt, and he's wearing jeans that are

2:15:47

too big.

2:15:48

So his pants fall around his ankles and he runs off and goes to kick a metal

2:15:51

garbage can.

2:15:53

Screaming.

2:15:53

And this would happen over and over and over.

2:15:56

I spent like an hour, probably an hour and a half trying to get him to stand

2:16:01

for a portrait.

2:16:02

Eventually, I tried this over and over again.

2:16:05

Eventually, I got it to happen.

2:16:07

And we pack up and we leave and I gave them the prints and I gave them some

2:16:09

money as well.

2:16:10

We're driving away and Axel, before he got on the highway again, I said, dude,

2:16:18

you just got to pull over the car.

2:16:19

I just need to soak in with what just happened.

2:16:22

That was the craziest shit I've ever seen.

2:16:24

I've never seen human beings like that.

2:16:27

That's like being on another planet.

2:16:28

That was the craziest thing ever.

2:16:30

And over the years, I kind of maintained a relationship.

2:16:36

So those photos came in that were put out in my first book, Created Equal,

2:16:39

which I mentioned earlier.

2:16:40

So, you know, years go by.

2:16:43

I popped there again and visited them once or twice over the years when I was

2:16:47

doing some other projects for advertising or something in the area.

2:16:51

So I kind of stayed in touch with them a little bit.

2:16:53

But then when I started doing Self-White Underbelly, I love Appalachia.

2:16:57

I love going there for content.

2:17:00

And I find the people just so beautiful and interesting.

2:17:02

It's a shame that there's drugs there.

2:17:04

I went there to avoid the drugs, to get away from it.

2:17:06

But the drug problem there is worse than L.A.

2:17:08

But there's other people who have not touched drugs and they're my favorites.

2:17:13

Just the Backwoods Hillbillies are my favorite.

2:17:17

They're so beautiful.

2:17:20

So we're back in West Virginia.

2:17:22

I'm like, hey, we're close to the Whitaker's.

2:17:23

Let's go drive by.

2:17:24

So we drive by their house.

2:17:27

And I'm not thinking of doing an interview with them.

2:17:30

You can't because I have these rules that I set for my project for Self-White

2:17:34

Underbelly where I kind of do it in a studio.

2:17:36

I try to.

2:17:37

And it's an interview where I'm asking questions and these people can barely

2:17:41

answer anything.

2:17:42

They just bark or they stare at you or whatever.

2:17:44

So I didn't see this as being for my channel.

2:17:48

I just was going to say hi to them.

2:17:50

And we pull up and I'm like, you know, life is different now.

2:17:54

I have a video camera in my pocket.

2:17:55

Let me just shoot a video of this as I'm saying hi to them.

2:17:59

And I'll show it to my friends back home who have been here before.

2:18:01

I've seen them about, you know, I've heard about them before.

2:18:03

So I'm shooting a video as I'm talking to them.

2:18:06

And as I'm shooting, I'm realizing this is kind of interesting.

2:18:10

I wonder if, if I stretch this out, maybe it could be a video somehow and I

2:18:16

could use the portrait from Create Equal because I always include a portrait in

2:18:20

all my videos.

2:18:20

If it doesn't have a portrait, I don't use it.

2:18:22

So, you know, I kind of think I could use it.

2:18:27

But then I just proceeded.

2:18:29

I made it as long as I could.

2:18:29

I asked them the same question over again.

2:18:31

They couldn't answer them because they don't really communicate so well.

2:18:34

But that video ended up, I ended up editing it and putting it together.

2:18:37

And I put it on my channel.

2:18:38

And now it's got 33 million views.

2:18:40

33 million.

2:18:42

It's crazy.

2:18:42

What is the story with that family?

2:18:44

The parents were double, I think their parents were double first cousins.

2:18:53

But in addition to being double first cousins.

2:18:57

What is double first cousins?

2:18:58

I don't even know.

2:18:59

But in addition to that, their fathers, on both the mother and the father side,

2:19:06

were twins, identical twins.

2:19:10

So it's like the same person birthed the mom and dad, even though they were

2:19:18

different people, but they're identical twins.

2:19:20

And then the parents were cousins on top of it.

2:19:25

Oh.

2:19:26

Yeah.

2:19:27

And then who knows what other environmental issues there are.

2:19:29

What is a double cousin?

2:19:31

Double cousins, first cousins, but twice.

2:19:33

They share both sets of grandparents.

2:19:35

It can happen in both parents of one double first cousin or also the siblings

2:19:40

of parents of another double first cousin.

2:19:43

This is like a puzzle to do for a test.

2:19:45

I don't explain it.

2:19:46

I don't understand it.

2:19:46

It can happen when two siblings meet and have offsprings for two other siblings.

2:19:51

Oh, Jesus Christ.

2:19:53

I don't understand it.

2:19:54

I don't understand it.

2:19:55

But there's a guy who did all the genetic mapping of this.

2:19:58

And he just showed me.

2:19:59

He posted a video on YouTube.

2:20:01

Jesus.

2:20:02

Yeah.

2:20:02

So he explains the whole genealogy of this.

2:20:04

So that is this family.

2:20:06

First double cousins share all four grandparents.

2:20:10

Okay.

2:20:10

So this family was deeply inbred.

2:20:14

Yeah.

2:20:15

And as poor as can be.

2:20:17

Poorer than poor.

2:20:19

I mean, the conditions under which they live are like unbelievable.

2:20:23

Like the house is so filthy.

2:20:25

How do they get any money?

2:20:27

I'm sure they get some support from the state or something.

2:20:30

But when I did that video, I just felt like the right thing to do is to help

2:20:37

them financially.

2:20:39

You know, because even though YouTube demonetized that video, eventually I

2:20:42

fought YouTube on it and they eventually monetized it.

2:20:46

I don't know why they would demonetize it because there was no swearing, no

2:20:49

nothing.

2:20:49

It's just a poor family.

2:20:50

But that's YouTube.

2:20:52

But eventually I'm making money on that video.

2:20:55

So I just feel like I'll share it with them.

2:20:57

And then I got so many people requesting, oh my, how do I help this family?

2:21:01

So I put up a GoFundMe that's just for them and people donate to it and I give

2:21:05

them money.

2:21:06

And I've given them lots of money now.

2:21:08

And you can see in the more recent, there's I think four videos with that

2:21:11

family.

2:21:11

Their living conditions have improved quite a bit.

2:21:14

So was the entire family inbred?

2:21:18

The woman who's talking, is she just like a lesser?

2:21:20

They're all brothers and sisters.

2:21:22

Except for Timmy, who is Lorraine's.

2:21:25

The family tree is someone put together.

2:21:29

Yeah, yeah.

2:21:29

Did you put this together?

2:21:31

No, I did not.

2:21:31

This video is four days old.

2:21:33

Oh, yeah, yeah.

2:21:33

This is the one I told you about.

2:21:35

So the father of John Emery Whitaker and Gracie Whitaker are identical twins.

2:21:42

There you go.

2:21:44

Maybe the twins born March 1st, 1882.

2:21:46

Yeah, so Henry Wade Whitaker and John Whitaker.

2:21:49

So the children of identical twins then had sex.

2:21:53

Who are also cousins.

2:21:55

Oh, Jesus.

2:21:57

Yeah.

2:21:58

So I posted that video.

2:22:04

They've become so popular.

2:22:05

People want more videos from them all the time, but I don't want to just turn

2:22:09

them into a circus act.

2:22:09

But now their living conditions have improved.

2:22:11

Yeah, because of my whatever, because of meeting me, I'm not saying I did any

2:22:19

great thing.

2:22:20

All I'm just saying is I've helped them out.

2:22:23

But I'm not going to milk this and turn it into a regular thing.

2:22:26

People want to see them weekly.

2:22:27

I'm not going to do that.

2:22:28

Is that the most bizarre of all the people that you've encountered?

2:22:32

Oh, no.

2:22:33

I mean, yeah, probably the most.

2:22:35

But, man, I've heard so many stories.

2:22:37

So many women that got pregnant by their dads at 10 years old.

2:22:44

So many women that have been through some of the most horrific men, too.

2:22:50

I mean, I could say some things here, but this video would get demonetized.

2:22:56

Well, we're on Spotify.

2:22:58

That's not going to happen.

2:22:59

Okay, so Latoya, who's this black girl.

2:23:03

She's on Skid Row to this day.

2:23:04

I still see her.

2:23:04

I help her out when I see her sometimes.

2:23:06

She was getting fucked in the ass by her dad and tore the area between the

2:23:15

vagina and the asshole.

2:23:19

She said, like, 27 stitches to fix that.

2:23:25

I mean, how that happens and the dad doesn't get, somebody doesn't get

2:23:27

investigated, I don't know.

2:23:28

But that was a different time, maybe.

2:23:30

Or somebody's just afraid to, who's going to make that call?

2:23:36

Who's going to do something?

2:23:37

So do you, when you, this new project, are you going to do this independently

2:23:41

of Soft White Underbelly?

2:23:43

No, no, no.

2:23:44

No, it's not a new project.

2:23:45

It'd just be a slightly.

2:23:46

A different direction.

2:23:47

A different direction.

2:23:47

Because I can't, how many drug addict stories do we need?

2:23:49

Right, of course.

2:23:50

I mean, I'll do them once in a while still, because a lot of my audience likes

2:23:53

that.

2:23:53

But, you know, it's interesting.

2:23:55

Because, like, I'll put up gang member videos, and some of the audience are

2:23:57

like, oh, I hate these gang members.

2:23:59

They're too violent.

2:23:59

But there's similar lessons.

2:24:02

I watched one of the gang member videos today, and it's, you know,

2:24:06

he was just talking about how no one ever encouraged him in any way when he was

2:24:11

growing up.

2:24:12

He was never worth shit, and the only sort of value that he found ever was

2:24:17

being a part of the gang.

2:24:18

Yeah, that's the story.

2:24:19

That's what happens to these guys.

2:24:21

And then, you know, I put the Appalachian videos up, and some people think they're

2:24:25

boring,

2:24:26

and other people love them, and that's, you know, they want more.

2:24:28

So I do a mixed bag of all kinds of stuff.

2:24:30

Eventually, I'd like to go to every state and just do interesting stories from

2:24:33

all over.

2:24:35

If someone has, and they're listening to this, and they have an interesting

2:24:38

story,

2:24:39

they should contact you on softwhiteunderbelly.com?

2:24:42

No.

2:24:42

There's a website that's in the about, in the header of the YouTube channel.

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There's an about section up at the top of the screen, I think, or near the top

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with my email address.

2:24:52

Okay.

2:24:52

Which is soft underscore white underscore underbelly at yahoo.com.

2:24:56

There you go.

2:24:56

Yeah.

2:24:56

Jamie's good.

2:24:57

And so, good luck sorting through all those.

2:25:01

No kidding.

2:25:02

Yeah.

2:25:02

After this.

2:25:03

After this, yeah.

2:25:04

Yeah, but listen, what you've done is very fascinating and very disturbing, but

2:25:09

I think ultimately educational.

2:25:11

And if anything, I think it will bring a sense of understanding of what these

2:25:18

people have been through.

2:25:19

That, you know, you can't just say, hey, you're lazy.

2:25:22

Go get a job.

2:25:23

It's, there's a lot going on and it's horrible and it, and it's, you know, it's

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showing the flaws in this culture.

2:25:35

It's showing the massive problems that we have in raising human beings in these

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gigantic cities.

2:25:44

It's hard to believe this is the greatest country in the world.

2:25:46

Yeah.

2:25:47

With these stories.

2:25:47

Right.

2:25:48

How could that be the greatest country in the world?

2:25:49

Yeah, how could it be?

2:25:51

But it is.

2:25:51

Yeah.

2:25:51

That's what's even more fucked, right?

2:25:53

Yeah.

2:25:53

Well, thank you.

2:25:55

Thanks for being here.

2:25:56

I really appreciate it.

2:25:57

Thank you, Jeff.

2:25:57

Thanks for doing what you do.

2:25:58

It's, uh, it's been very, very disturbing, but ultimately very educational.

2:26:03

Well, you do a great job too.

2:26:04

Thank you very much.

2:26:05

Appreciate you.

2:26:05

All right.

2:26:06

Bye, everybody.