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Rachel Wilson is a writer, cultural commentator, and media personality. She is the author of “Occult Feminism: The Secret History of Women’s Liberation.”www.linktr.ee/RachelLWilson

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0:00Rachel Wilson’s background and path to writing 'Occult Feminism'
9:59Education vs intelligence; rejecting the degree/career script and the pressures on mothers
20:10Economic and cultural impacts of feminism: two-income trap, labor force expansion, and rewritten suffrage history

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So when your husband Andrew came in here he told me about your book

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and then I talked to you and you seemed very interesting and you gave me a

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little brief synopsis of it and so then I listened to it on audio tape and it's

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fucking crazy and it is the occult feminism the secret history of women's

0:33

liberation you know I didn't really have much of an opinion on feminism I my

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opinion was you know unfortunately you run into some feminist that just seemed

0:45

to not like men for whatever reason and you know there's a lot of people in

0:48

this

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world that aren't happy with their position or station in life but I didn't

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really think too much into how this all got started until I listened to your

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book and I'm like this is kind of bonkers so before we get into your book like

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how

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did you decide to write about this like what what was your little journey oh or

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big journey yeah it's kind of a big journey so when I was growing up I was

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like a in all the advanced kid classes and from the time I was in like

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kindergarten it was just pounded into my head like you're going to college you're

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going to have a career and you know you're smart and you have to do something

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with that it was like the only option that was put before me and so I followed

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that path like all the way through school and by the time I got done with 12

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years of regular school I realized a couple things one is school is not where

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you go to learn things school isn't nest public school is not so great for

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smart

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people for the most part and that I really didn't like like another four years

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of

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school just sounded like hell to me and I really just wanted to get married and

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have kids that's kind of what I always wanted to do much to the horror of my

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Marxist feminist mother did not like an early age well she tried but I was the

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why kid I was the kid that's just like why why yeah but why and I had like a

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Rush Limbaugh dad Wow they got divorced shocker who could have seen it coming

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so

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they got divorced when I was like nine and I had so I grew up in like two

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worlds I

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had like Republican business owner Rush Limbaugh dad and I had Marxist

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feminist crazy mom was the mom always Marxist feminist and was the the the dad

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always like a Rush Limbaugh Republican yep how did they fall in love I was an

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accident oh so they just fall in lust I was like an oops baby and my dad said

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that when he saw me he was like well I don't want anybody else right like this

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is

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the only thing that matters to me so I'm gonna make this work and he tried his

2:53

best how did they even hook up with such radically different ideologies I don't

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think they were talking about that sort of thing when they got together they

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were probably hanging out at a bar oh so they didn't really know each other

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very

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well not really no they were kind of like they worked in the same place and met

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at

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work and then had like a fling and then I was born yeah yeah so I had divorced

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parents yeah it was it was really rough because my mother like hated my

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dad she could never tell you anything he did wrong yeah it was just like he's a

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evil

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white patriarchist bad bad Republican man one of my earliest memories is them

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fighting over the Bush Dukakis election in 88 and like threatening to lock each

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other in the house so that the one couldn't cancel the other one's vote yeah

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I know it was fun was this before after Kitty Dukakis drank mouthwash or what

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did she

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drink she drank something like that aftershave or mouthwash to try to get drunk

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yeah she would the

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pressure of the election must have been so insane and this is pre-social media

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right and this lady was already struggling with like alcoholism and I think she

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was

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hospitalized for drinking something that was not a drink well can you find out

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what

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that was it was really crazy right remember do you remember that I just

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remember that whole election being pretty nuts like as far as like the

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Democrats

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versus Republic and this was when Democrats were more like how Republicans are

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right now they weren't right in a tank to make everybody think he was like a

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pro

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war tough guy remember that yeah yeah and I remember read my lips no new taxes

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and

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all that stuff so like I had this going on like as a kid so I think my brain

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was

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already thinking about this sort of stuff from the time I was little rubbing

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alcohol oh that's crazy nail polish remover oh my god she drank nail polish

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remover holy shit she couldn't just huff paint like normal person

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very open about her struggles with alcohol and addiction to amphetamines to

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reduce the stigma

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surrounding these issues later detailing these experiences in her books huh

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okay yeah so my

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parents were like ready to kill each other over that and so they divorced right

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right after that

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they divorced and so I'd spend time with dad and I'd spend time with mom and I

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had two

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completely different realities and worldviews and I think growing up like that

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you're trying to sort

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out what's true you're trying to figure out like is there any merit to what mom's

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saying the world

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is or any merit to what dad saying the world is and I think dad was more persuasive

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and and better

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at pulling me his direction because I never really absorbed like I always

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thought Marxism was you know

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faking gay and stupid I just never bought into it at all why at an early age

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did you think that

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uh because I already had seen that you know we're not all born equal with equal

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things and some people

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work much harder some people have natural gifts and talents and to think that

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because my mother would

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literally say stuff in the house like from you know from each person according

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to their ability

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to each person according to their need and I was like even when I do that in

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class like if there's a group

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project everybody wants me on their team because I'm the smart kid who's going

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to do the homework

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I end up doing everything and everybody else gets the A even though I did

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everything so those are the

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people that are really into socialism people that have fast stuff yes yeah and

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so like from being a

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little kid I even noticed like no things aren't equal and things aren't always

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fair and it depends on

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you know your natural skills and abilities and then what you do with those

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things because there's lots

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of people like my mother was super talented really intelligent person but she

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was so like emotionally

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chaotic she never applied them to anything she never really got anywhere did

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anything she had big

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dreams of what she thought she should have and and never really got there

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because she was so like

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emotionally unregulated and kind of chaotic so I just kind of saw that no there's

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not this like thing

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where you can just even the playing field and make it all equal for everyone

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that's not how it works

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There's also a thing that if you're locked up in something like Marxism you if

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that's your ideology

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you're in this constant struggle with the rest of the world all the time where

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you want to bend it to

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your ideology you want to change it and so even if you're a very intelligent

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person

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your daily mindset is struggle your daily mindset is conflict and existential

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crisis

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like you know that is exactly that was that was the picture that was laid in

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front of me

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yeah it's such a go to dad's house and he's like he started a business after

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the divorce and he's like

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hustling he's working 12 to 14 hour days he's doing everything he can to make

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it work he's not

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complaining he's just like this is what you got to do if you want to make it if

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you want to you know do your own

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thing and prove that you know you're good at what you do you have to compete

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you have to get out there

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you have to work hard why complain about it and then my mom's whole world was

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she ended up being

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very bitter and resentful because it was like this view of but i deserved this

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that should have been

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me i got robbed of it because whatever reason and often it was like if i was

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more attractive you know

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the men at work would have given me a raise if i looked like the other woman in

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the office or

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something you know so it was like this bitter resentful she was kind of like at

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war with the world

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so seeing those two things neither of my parents are perfect who is who has

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perfect parents but

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it was kind of like i'd rather play over here where there's a purpose for me

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working hard and giving

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it my best shot and trying in life and figuring out what's important to me and

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then tailoring you

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know all my efforts toward that and i just thought that um having a family was

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so cool and i wanted to

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have the family i didn't have so uh i i had this dream of like getting married

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having kids having an

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intact family and making it like a place where kids can grow up without all the

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screaming and yelling

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and chaos that i had and that a lot of kids have nowadays so um didn't go to

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college i had a full ride

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scholarship and i didn't go which everybody thought was the end of the world it

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was like how could you do

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that your life is over you'll never be anything and i was kind of like we'll

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see you know it is very

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weird that we're convinced that the only way to get educated is by an official

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institution with all

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the information that's available now i mean even back then like that's the

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whole premise of goodwill

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hunting like you can get very smart from a public library you really don't need

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it's just the books are

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available for everyone the information is available for everyone if you chase

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it down it's not like the only

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people that get any information are the ones who go to these colleges one of

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the biggest lies that

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education like we can just educate everyone the problem is we're not educated

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enough and if everyone

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had enough access to education everyone would be intelligent everyone would be

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thriving it's like

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the internet's kind of proved this i had a teacher it's not an information

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problem right

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i had a teacher in high school that said something i don't know if this is his

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quote or he was quoting

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someone else but he said education is something that allows you to get along

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without intelligence

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and intelligence is something that allows you to get along without education i

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like that that's

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pretty good i was like oh i get it there's there's certain people that are just

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dumb at certain

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things like i remember being around intelligent people that had no knowledge of

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how a car worked

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of any of the workings of a car you would tell well this back in like spark

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plug days you could explain

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to them like oh one of the cables for your spark plug got loose you're only

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firing on five cylinders

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the six the whole six is not that's why it's like shaking like that who like if

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that if it was

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anything else if you're talking about the economy if you're talking about the

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political process

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that guy would think the other guy was a moron but now this guy thinks he's

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more i remember

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like being like auto shop class going there's a lot of different kinds of

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intelligence we've just

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done this weird thing where we've categorized like you have to go to specific

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schools you have to go to

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the you got to get a degree everybody wanted to go to ivy league schools i

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lived in boston

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it was like very important did you get a higher education you go on to make

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everybody proud and they

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were all miserable well my dad said this to me he was the only person that when

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i graduated i said i

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don't think i want to go to college for this i don't think that's what i want

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to do like any of the

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things i'm looking at when i think about like having a career in in that thing

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i'm not very excited about

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it i don't i don't get like oh hyped up to go do this i was like i really just

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kind of want to you

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know maybe someday but i would love to have a bunch of kids and stuff and my

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dad was like you know

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a lot of the people in my office have degrees and you know they have careers

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and some of them are

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very miserable people so if you don't want to do that he's like you could

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always decide to go later

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so i was like i'll i kind of like bargained with everyone i was like i'm just

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going to give it a year

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you know yeah and if it you know if i feel like i want to go to college after a

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year of no high

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school um then i'll go you know i could still do it but i ended up having a

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baby at 20 which again was

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the end of the world oh my god rachel your life is over you'll never be

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anything you'll never do

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anything it's over for you it's such a tragedy it was like treated like this

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horrible thing and i

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thought it was great and when i had her the job that i had did not matter to me

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anymore at all

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it seemed so stupid it was like anybody can go i was a hairstylist at the time

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anybody can go do

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haircuts someone else can cut debbie's hair but only i can be her mom i want to

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do that and everybody

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was telling me you have to go back to work you have to go back to work that's

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what we do now two weeks

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after the baby's born you got to go back to work you need the money you need

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the security you need

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the income and i looked around and thought this is insane like who came up with

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this system because

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i am going to go drop her off at two weeks old and let some lady who doesn't

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know or care about

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or love my baby the way that i do take care of her all day long you know if you

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factor in the commute

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it's like nine nine and a half hours that i'm away from her by the time i get

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home

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and feed her and give her a bath it'll be bedtime and that'll be it i'll get

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like maybe two hours

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with my baby all day you know um and i get to pay half of what i make to this

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other random person

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to raise my child who came up with this this is stupid and i have to pay taxes

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you know and i have

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to have a second vehicle and insurance and a work wardrobe and i just thought

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this is the most inefficient

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stupid system and everyone around me is like this is this is good this is what

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we all need to do even

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like christian conservative women that were friends and family members were

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like well you don't want

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to depend on a man because then you're going to get abused they they fear-mongered

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me to death about

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staying home with my kids and at the time uh this was my high school boyfriend

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who i had my first child

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with um because i was kind of a libertarian at this stage and both my parents

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at this point my parents

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have multiple divorces between the two of them and i always i know i always

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heard oh marriage is just a

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piece of paper what really matters is that you love each other and that sort of

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thing and i'd known this

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guy since we were kids we we'd known each other forever we'd been together for

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a long time so i thought

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this was great and my goal was let's get us to the point where i can stay home

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and be like a full-time

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mom and he had stuff going on it did not work out he took off devastating

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horrible terrible for me

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no big fights no cheating nothing like that um you know he's a private person

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so i don't want to tell

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his business but he had his own personal things going on and left and it was

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back to you know i had to work

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and be a working mom and i didn't like that and i still thought that there was

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something wrong here

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but i hadn't really like looked into where do we get this idea that women must

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be working like

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my grandma didn't work bless her soul by the way she is going to be turning 100

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april 1st my grandma

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who's still with us and she's probably my ace in the hole and the reason i kind

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of turned out normal

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despite my chaotic family upbringing because she was super grounded nice christian

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lady

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only in eighth grade education but she knew how to do everything she'd go back

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and like pluck a chicken

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cook it up for dinner can everything in the garden preserve all the food and

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she had more done

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by 8 a.m than most human beings on earth so i had like grandma as a pillar to

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really help me through

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this stuff so shout out grandma uh which is work yeah it's housework yeah yeah

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which is like really

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important like it has to get done yeah and most people think someone else

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should do that yeah i need

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to be in an office yeah this is for uh wages like low low paid wagey people to

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do i need to be doing

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something important but i always thought she was really important she was super

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important to me because

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when you know my parents were off doing whatever they were doing i'd always get

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dumped at grandma's

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so i spent a ton of time with her growing up and she was full of wisdom and

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like i said she knew how

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to do everything like her practical skills were crazy she can cook anything she

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can clean anything she can

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can and preserve food she grew up during the great depression she was born in

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1928 oh wow yeah and

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she's she had been through some stuff like she lost her husband to cancer she

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lost her daughter to kidney

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disease like she had been through it so she had a lot of like good advice and

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wisdom and she'd always

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say i wish i was smart like you i wish i was smart like you and i could go to

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school and stuff like

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that but i thought grandma you're the only person that knows what the hell they're

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doing you're the

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only person in my world who well the grass seems to know what they're doing

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yeah the grass is always

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greener you know when you're looking at a woman that's entering into the

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workforce who's really

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intelligent you start thinking oh she's gonna have a career yeah she's gonna be

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a ceo someday and

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everyone's gonna respect her and well that person's on pills and suicidal and

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can't sleep and well we

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we're gonna get into that we're gonna get into i'm sure like how it's turned

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out for women yeah pushing

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them into the workforce telling them they can have it all and how they're

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dealing with that but i didn't

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i didn't deal with it well when i was at work i felt like i should be at home

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and i was missing my

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kids and like i was really failing on the home front and when i was at home i

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felt like i should

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be giving more to work and i felt constantly torn and that's something i hear

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from pretty much every

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woman i talk to who has kids and a job yeah that it's really tough that you

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always feel like

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you're not able to give enough to each thing you just can't spread yourself

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that thin all the time

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and i think it's bad advice i think we give women backwards advice i think we

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tell them spend all your

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fertile years all your youth building a career going to school and building a

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career then by the time

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you're like 30 35 and you're you've got all that established then you can think

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about getting married

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and having kids well by then you better find somebody quick and get on it

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because you got a

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handful of years left yeah you know and you might need ivf and all these other

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things and a lot of women

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struggle and it's one of the it's actually nobody wants to talk about this this

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is the conversation

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no one's ready for women's access to higher education is the number one

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correlate around the

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world regardless of economics race culture status anything to falling birth

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rates wow so it turns out

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that when you push young women that it's education career education career

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because why why do we tell

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them that otherwise you're at the mercy of a man and he'll abuse you he'll take

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advantage he knows that

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of people to get by on one income yes it is but have you ever asked why that is

20:28

uh i have but i'd love

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to talk about it so prior to the 1970s we had five percent of mothers with

20:37

school-aged kids working

20:39

outside the home and for all of human history even during the industrial

20:43

revolution you know 17 18 1900s

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like you said in the 40s and 50s you could be a janitor and support a family

20:51

and have four kids

20:53

on one income and something shifted in the 1970s and it's never shifted back so

20:58

it can't be like

20:59

how the stock market's doing it can't really be like all these other

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independent economic factors

21:04

that have shifted and changed and been so different over the course of the last

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50 years

21:08

the one big thing that we changed is we pushed women into college and into the

21:14

workforce and by the

21:15

1980s they were on par with men in workforce workforce participation so in the

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span of about 20

21:23

years we almost doubled the labor force by pushing all the women in and men's

21:28

wages have never recovered

21:30

so now you are stuck in a two-income trap where even women who want to stay

21:35

home and even dads who

21:36

would love to have their wife home with their kids it's really tough so what

21:40

why did women entering

21:41

the workforce keep men's wages stable or keep them from going up along with the

21:46

in with the inflation

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it really fundamentally changed the economy i have a friend named aaron clary

21:52

who wrote a book about

21:53

the about this it's an analysis of what he calls a female-based economy where

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it's more consumer driven

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women are like responsible for 80 percent of consumer spending and now that

22:05

they're all educated and in the job

22:06

market we have a lot more of things like hr departments psychology sociology

22:12

like um the economy

22:14

shifted away from being like manufacturing and production and more male

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dominated things to we

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have all these women coming out of university and you know they what do they

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get degrees in

22:24

i think 80 percent of psychology degrees are earned by women and then despite

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all our efforts to push

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women into stem they're still like maybe 20 percent of stem degrees so we have

22:36

all these very educated women

22:38

and we have a lot of kind of fluffy jobs like office jobs hr jobs social media

22:43

managers

22:44

and mostly women do a lot of the same things they used to do in the home so

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they're nurses they're early

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childhood educators they're retail workers they're cooks they're um they're

22:56

housekeepers they're doing

22:57

a lot of the stuff they used to do which uh the marxist feminists called unpaid

23:03

labor right this is

23:04

the myth of women's unpaid labor so instead of cleaning your own house

23:08

educating your own children cooking

23:10

meals for your family maybe for your your parents or grandparents who can't

23:14

cook for themselves all the

23:15

things we used to do for our own family clerical work bookkeeping for your

23:19

husband's business things like that

23:20

we're doing those things for corporations

23:23

so that and and this was kind of by design uh a lot of the book is about the

23:29

fact that

23:29

there were people who pushed feminism and it wasn't because

23:33

women were oppressed and they cared about the position of women necessarily it's

23:37

because the same

23:38

people who pushed you know the 19th amendment and pushed progressivism and

23:43

feminism

23:44

were the same people who drafted the federal reserve legislation came up with

23:48

the income tax came up

23:50

with the compulsory education system and especially on the marxist side they

23:56

they pushed feminism

23:57

because they said if we can push mothers and women into the workforce and we

24:01

double the workforce

24:02

workers of the world unite you know what i'm saying so it's like we have this

24:06

huge workforce and

24:07

through the university systems we can kind of propagandize the young women to

24:12

be socialists and to be

24:13

marxist because they kind of tend that way anyway the way that women's brains

24:17

work is very like

24:18

communitarian for a reason we're moms you know so it's very easy to radicalize

24:23

and this isn't my

24:24

opinion like i go over in the book how you can just read the writings of these

24:28

people and they tell you

24:29

august babel alexander colontai margaret fuller like all these early 1800s

24:34

writers were saying

24:36

we need to get women away from the home and away from being mothers and push

24:40

them into the workplace

24:42

because then we can politicize them we can motivate them into becoming

24:46

revolutionaries

24:47

and that's how we'll get the numbers to make this work wow yeah so now instead

24:54

of staying home with

24:55

your kids and doing all these things for your family for your community you're

25:00

doing them for a

25:00

corporation and you're paying income tax you're paying all the other taxes

25:05

associated with having

25:06

to work outside the home gas tax because you're driving back and forth to work

25:09

um payroll taxes

25:11

all that kind of stuff and you are away from your kids all day where do they go

25:17

they go to public

25:18

schools where the public school system then can dictate to them what the values

25:23

should be uh how you

25:25

know what the world view should be instead of the parents

25:28

yeah it just makes you wonder like there there's all these giant shifts in

25:37

culture and it makes

25:38

you wonder what what would we look like if that had never taken place well that's

25:43

so you asked like

25:44

how why did i start writing about this that's why because i had like an aha

25:48

moment where i realized

25:50

feminism is far and away like it's not even close it's the biggest social

25:55

revolution in all of human

25:57

history and it happened in one century we took the whole social order that was

26:03

in every culture

26:04

around the world for all of the rest of time that's recorded and we flipped it

26:09

upside down and completely

26:11

changed it in one century everything about your life is different now because

26:11

of feminism in ways that you

26:17

don't even think about you know the way that you act in the workplace the the

26:23

way that legislation works

26:25

the way that school systems work like every single thing about life has changed

26:30

as a downstream result

26:32

of feminism and pushing this model of women's equality which it's really not it's

26:37

really not about

26:38

equality and all you have to do is read all the first everybody thinks first

26:41

wave was just oh they just

26:43

wanted rights they just wanted a few rights that was good you know and the

26:47

average person would say yeah

26:48

i think that that was good but that's because they don't know the real history

26:52

and the reason they

26:53

don't know the real history is because when they invented gender studies and

26:57

women's studies which were

26:59

created by the ford foundation with some help from the rockefellers and the

27:02

carnegies uh in the late 60s

27:06

they literally rewrote the history of how women's suffrage happened so there's

27:10

a professor named joseph

27:12

miller who did an examination of 12 the main 12 textbooks that are most

27:17

commonly used in all the

27:18

western universities to teach women's history and he's not even like a right winger

27:23

he's like a liberal

27:25

college professor but when he looked and examined those 12 textbooks and

27:29

compared them to the actual

27:31

writings uh you know newspaper articles writings of feminists themselves public

27:35

debates held between

27:37

suffragists and anti-suffragists all of the writings of anti-suffragist groups

27:41

which far outnumbered

27:43

pro-suffragist groups he found that they left out huge chunks of what really

27:48

happened or intentionally

27:50

misrepresented what actually happened on purpose to kind of sell feminism as

27:57

something different than what it

27:59

what it really was so what did they leave out so the most important thing they

28:02

left out was that women

28:04

did not want women's liberation they were yes everybody assumes and believes

28:10

that it was a

28:11

grassroots thing that women kind of looked around in the 19th century and they

28:15

went you know we're

28:17

oppressed we don't have any rights i wish i could work i wish i could get away

28:21

from my bastard husband

28:23

who drinks me drinks and beats me i need i need rights i need a bank account i

28:28

need credit cards i

28:29

want to go to university and and they marched and they picketed until they had

28:33

voting rights and and

28:35

equality in the workplace that's the story everyone's heard and it's not

28:40

correct at all it's it's in in

28:42

fact it's the opposite so this is hilarious when the so we had this big fight

28:47

in the late 1800s between pro-suffrage

28:50

groups and anti-suffrage groups most women in the united states and england if

28:57

they were a member of

28:58

either they far outnumbered by joining the anti-suffrage groups they were very

29:02

much against it it was only

29:04

a small minority of women who were pro-suffrage and these groups would debate

29:09

publicly they would

29:11

write pamphlets they would write tracts we have a really good written

29:14

historical record of what actually

29:16

happened and women didn't want it they thought they thought they had a lot of

29:22

great things going on

29:24

already that were going to get ruined by suffrage for example here's some let's

29:27

do a little myth busting

29:29

people have this idea that prior to the 19th amendment women were denied an

29:33

education completely

29:35

untrue some of the first universities in the united states were exclusively

29:39

female universities and seminaries

29:41

and secondary schools more women actually probably had the opportunity to go

29:46

than men because men always

29:47

had to work in the fields in the mines go to war build the infrastructure of

29:51

the nation work on railroads

29:53

you know um so women were seen as like well you're going to be teaching the

29:57

kids so you should probably

29:59

do a little extra education whereas jimmy and billy they need to work the farm

30:04

with dad

30:05

you know so there was never any law that prohibited women from higher education

30:10

what happens what feminists

30:12

do they rely on framing so they'll say because there weren't co-ed universities

30:17

because it was women's

30:18

universities and then men had separate ones it was mostly um segregated they'll

30:23

say women didn't have

30:25

equal access to education were the better schools men's schools no in fact i'd

30:30

say

30:31

so i guess you could say some there were a handful of ivy league institutions

30:36

that didn't let women into

30:37

certain programs um but it was mostly like medical stuff things like that and

30:43

that had already changed

30:45

before the passage of the 19th amendment women were already being led into ivy

30:49

league education being

30:50

allowed to do biology and and become doctors many of the women in my book who

30:55

were first wave suffragists

30:57

had degrees had educations um the other one is like women weren't allowed to

31:01

like leave the house they

31:03

weren't allowed to you know sex out of wedlock or children out of wedlock oh my

31:07

gosh it was so terrible

31:08

but most of the women in my book who were traveling the world promoting women's

31:13

suffrage had children out

31:15

of wedlock had extramarital affairs or multiple sex partners or were even lesbians

31:23

open lesbians touring the world making money giving speeches writing pamphlets

31:27

and tracks raising money

31:29

for the suffrage movement nobody put them in jail nobody whipped them was there

31:33

some stigma sure but

31:35

i don't think that you can argue that stigma against those sort of things equates

31:42

to oppression of women

31:44

by the patriarchy it's always framed that way but that's not true so what year

31:48

did they pass the 19th

31:50

amendment and the 19th amendment is what that gave women the right to vote

31:54

right so there were women

31:55

that said i don't want the right to vote yes in fact when they why why wouldn't

31:59

you just want the

32:00

right to vote even keeping a traditional household like the right to have a say

32:05

if it's about the world

32:07

it's about the united states it's about our laws and how we're going to govern

32:10

yeah so i'll tell you what

32:12

their reasoning was they said um we're going to lose a lot of the protection

32:16

and provision that we

32:18

currently enjoy so for example in the state of new york in the 1800s as a woman

32:22

entering a marriage

32:23

if you had money if you had an inheritance that came with you when you got

32:26

married if your husband

32:29

cheated on you or left or divorced you um you he couldn't take any of that your

32:34

inheritance was

32:36

protected from you know your husband leaving and taking it um and only men

32:40

could be held responsible for

32:42

for debt and there was something called breadwinner laws that the courts it was

32:48

like a systemic law

32:49

it wasn't like one specific law it was like a whole legal framework that said

32:54

look women have to raise

32:55

kids and be pregnant and have babies so we have to hold men responsible for

32:59

financially taking care of

33:01

women and children so women couldn't be thrown into a debtor's prison they

33:04

couldn't be held legally liable

33:06

for repaying a loan or anything like that they could own property people don't

33:10

believe that either people

33:11

believe women couldn't own anything and the reason they say that is because

33:15

once you were married you

33:16

were considered one legal entity but even then a married man in the state of

33:22

new york in 1800 couldn't

33:24

sell a property that was owned after he was married without his wife's written

33:29

consent and the court had to be

33:31

assured that she was not being like coerced into it so there were already like

33:36

the anti-suffragists

33:37

themselves argued we kind of have everything we want you know we we have like

33:43

most of the benefits

33:44

of this you know they didn't call it a patriarchy but what we would call a

33:48

patriarchy they said

33:49

we're the primary beneficiaries of this system we have a lot of protections and

33:53

if you make us equal

33:55

we're going to lose those like what if we get drafted what if we have to go do

33:58

jury duty and hear like

33:59

the gruesome details of like murders and rapes and things like that it's going

34:04

to pit the family

34:05

against each other just with the right to vote yeah why just with the right to

34:09

vote because so why

34:11

couldn't you keep all those things and just be able to participate well

34:14

unfortunately they were right

34:16

so one really good example is the women's temperance movement you guys remember

34:20

prohibition that was

34:22

primarily women who pushed for prohibition it was the women's temperance union

34:26

it was like a christian

34:28

movement to ban alcohol and women didn't have the right to vote but they got

34:32

prohibition passed which

34:34

was huge like it was one of those things that nobody thought was even going to

34:37

happen and it happened

34:38

largely because of their political motivation and the reason that it worked is

34:43

because they could go to

34:45

congress or they could go to the senate and say we're not a political voting

34:49

bloc we have a moral high

34:50

ground from which to ask for these things because you can't buy our vote you

34:54

can't you know um like

34:58

offer us things and kind of seduce us into voting for you based on promising us

35:02

things that we want

35:04

and they didn't want to lose that because they felt like they had a lot of

35:07

influence and the things they

35:09

predicted would happen they the anti-suffragists said you're going to see a lot

35:14

of divorce you're going to

35:15

see broken up families because it's going to pit husband and wife against each

35:18

other just like it

35:19

did with my parents where you've got you know mom wants to vote for the

35:22

democrat dad wants to vote

35:23

for the republican or vice versa now they're fighting about it they want to

35:27

split they have separate

35:29

world views um and political interests will be used to drive a wedge between

35:33

men and women

35:34

and break up families and then we're all going to be a bunch of single moms we're

35:38

all going to have to work

35:39

like they they literally predicted this stuff it's in one whole chapter of the

35:42

book is dedicated to

35:44

their arguments how they have such amazing foresight i mean i just would uh

35:49

ignorantly i would think

35:51

okay well i think women should have the right to vote they're human beings they

35:54

live here there's

35:55

there's laws that are being called why would that well i think uh one of the

35:59

problems we have when we

36:00

look back at history is the fallacy of presentism we're looking at it through

36:04

like our eyes now with

36:06

the right with all of the presuppositions that we have about the world kind of

36:09

baked in and at this

36:11

time so in 1920 people don't realize that men had only universally gotten the

36:17

right to vote very

36:18

shortly before women got it so in the uk uh most men couldn't vote until about

36:23

10 years before women

36:25

got the vote in the uk there was all kinds of restrictions on voting in the

36:29

united states for men

36:30

you may have to pay a poll tax you might have to take um a test like a literacy

36:36

test or a political

36:37

literacy test there might be a religious requirement of some kind there might

36:42

be a racial requirement of

36:44

some kind there could be um all different kinds of restrictions on men voting

36:48

you might have to be a

36:49

property owner you might have to be a certain age so there was a lot of men it

36:53

wasn't like all men could

36:55

always vote and no women could ever vote and at the time of trying to pass suffrage

37:01

there were already a

37:02

few states in the west that had granted women's suffrage like utah and wyoming

37:08

and in utah is a fun

37:09

case because it was mostly settled by mormons at the time and they were mostly

37:13

polygamists and there was

37:14

this big fight between the feds and the state of utah because the feds did not

37:18

they were like this

37:19

polygamy thing is getting really popular out there and it's going to cause us

37:22

some problems

37:23

and uh they want to give women the right to vote and the mormons thought if we

37:28

give women the right

37:29

to vote we can keep polygamy because they're going to vote for it because it's

37:32

beneficial to them in

37:33

whatever ways that the lds church thought it was the feds were betting on the

37:38

fact that nah i think

37:39

if we give women the right to vote they're going to say no more of this polygamy

37:42

so let them have it

37:43

just let them have it well the feds lost the bet and the mormon wives kept

37:48

voting for the polygamy stuff

37:50

the feds didn't like it so what they did there was also a little bit of stuff

37:55

going on with the

37:55

finances of the lds church that was a little sus they passed an amendment or

38:00

yeah law through congress

38:02

in uh 1878 i think i could be wrong on the date to take away women's suffrage

38:08

they took the vote back

38:09

from them they said no more voting for you can't do that because you're voting

38:13

for polygamy yeah and so

38:16

women in utah had suffrage granted and then had it removed for 50 years it was

38:22

from i think it was

38:23

about 1870 to 1920 that they didn't have the right to vote and the anti-suffragists

38:30

this was a big deal

38:31

so pro-suffrage women would go to utah and anti-suffrage women would go to utah

38:35

and they'd talk to the

38:36

women and try to because everyone's trying to get them on their side and they

38:40

kind of found that like

38:41

women really didn't want to be involved in politics they felt like we have so

38:45

much going on at home

38:46

they were the community organizers we don't have this anymore by the way i'm

38:49

taking care of my

38:50

grandparents i'm taking care of my uncle who you know has a disease and is infirmed

38:55

i've got seven

38:56

kids and so does my cousin and so does my sister and we all raise them kind of

39:00

together we're very busy

39:01

we're doing all the church stuff we're teaching the kids together politics is

39:06

just like you have

39:07

to know so much about it and you have to be so informed and we just we don't

39:11

have time and we

39:12

really don't have interest most of them were really indifferent but more were

39:16

either indifferent or

39:17

against it than were for it by such a margin so this is the test they let them

39:22

vote on whether they

39:23

wanted the vote in a huge the biggest referendum was in massachusetts so they

39:29

let women vote on whether

39:31

they wanted to vote in a referendum of the women that showed up not a lot of

39:34

them showed up it was a

39:36

fairly smallish number but of the thousands that showed up to vote only four

39:40

percent wanted suffrage on

39:43

the ballot that's crazy only four percent so guess what elizabeth katie stanton

39:48

and susan b anthony did

39:50

after that all the pro-suffrage leaders they banned women from voting on

39:55

whether they wanted to vote

39:57

isn't that crazy how did susie b susan b anthony get involved in all this

40:03

because she was one of those

40:06

people that was like what was she on the two dollar bill or something yeah yeah

40:08

and she was one of those

40:09

people that was always held up as this like amazing woman and then i started

40:14

listening to your book and

40:15

i was like wait what yeah a lot of these women like her and elizabeth katie stanton

40:20

were kind of the two

40:22

big figureheads in america there were a lot of other important people but those

40:25

are the two most people

40:26

have heard of they're the ones who wrote the history of women's suffrage which

40:30

is this giant like

40:31

multi-volume history that they wrote now they wrote it from a very biased

40:35

perspective to make themselves the

40:37

rock stars of this movement they wanted to be remembered in the history books

40:42

as being these

40:42

awesome badass kind of revolutionary strong independent women they in fact came

40:47

up with the strong

40:48

independent woman narrative um that women were victims who needed to be unvictimized

40:54

they had other

40:55

suffragists that they were trying to cut out of the history when they were

40:58

putting together this

40:59

history of women's suffrage lucy stone was one that said wait a minute you guys

41:03

are leaving out huge chunks

41:05

of important information like the fact that our main support comes from men

41:10

progressive men and socialist

41:13

men and polygamist men like why are you guys leaving this out if you do it like

41:18

everyone's gonna know you

41:20

just didn't mention any of that because at the time it was like super well

41:24

known they had a lot of pr

41:26

problems in the suffrage movement because it was known as something that prostitutes

41:31

socialists marxists

41:33

polygamists and revolutionaries were into and she was like you can't leave that

41:39

out it's like a main

41:41

point maybe you don't like how it portrays us but you got to include it so they

41:45

like reluctantly did

41:47

include some of that but they were going to try to leave it out all together

41:50

and frame it as we know it

41:52

now as a fight of women against men this fight of oppressed women against the

41:57

oppressive patriarchy

41:59

that was systemically trying to keep a boot on women's necks and even their own

42:03

colleagues were

42:04

like that ain't how it happened it's crazy that progressive men were a problem

42:09

even back

42:11

these the simp problem is ass men have always been a problem they're a giant

42:17

problem

42:18

and that's one thing that feminism does it gives them a way to be like i always

42:24

call them like vampire

42:25

familiars yes like they never really get to be a vampire but they do all the

42:28

deeds for the vampires

42:29

and the vampire loves them and they they hang around the vampire and they you

42:33

know it's the sneaky

42:34

fucker mating strategy yes yes what is that cuttlefish yeah yeah cuttlefish do

42:39

that like sneaky

42:41

bitch-ass cuttlefish pretend they're females so they can hang around the

42:45

females yep and that's

42:46

exactly what was happening there were other motivations too like uh victoria

42:50

woodhull was a famous feminist

42:52

she was the first one to have like a big newspaper she was known as mrs satan

42:56

because she was into free

42:58

love she wanted to make prostitution legal she said that marriage was just a

43:03

legal form of prostitution

43:04

she saw it to be no different than regular old run-of-the-mill prostitution she

43:08

was like really

43:09

radical she was also a scam artist like the thing i found when i was looking

43:12

into the histories of all

43:14

these women they were into the occult or very anti-christian because they saw

43:18

it as patriarchal and

43:19

oppressive they were usually con artists or scammers so spiritualism and snake

43:25

oil salesman was like really

43:27

big and popular at the time this lady sold fake cancer cures she was wanted in

43:32

like four different

43:33

states for selling fake cancer cures to dying people and scamming them out of

43:37

their money

43:38

and by pushing suffrage she got a lot of people to fund her and give her money

43:43

and one of them was

43:44

cornelius vanderbilt and she would pretend to be able to contact the dead she

43:49

would say she could

43:50

contact like ancient greeks and and all these spirits like the spirit of abraham

43:54

lincoln was coming to

43:55

her in dreams and stuff i don't think cornelius believed that at all but what

43:59

he did know about

44:00

her was that she did run a prostitution ring and all her friends were hookers

44:05

who worked the wall

44:07

street gentlemen and so she basically had a spy network of prostitutes who

44:11

would give her insider

44:12

trading information he used that to game the stock market on the first black friday

44:18

i think it was like

44:19

1889 for today's equivalent of 26 million dollars according to the new york

44:26

times and when the new

44:27

york times interviewed him and said how did you do how did you come out 26

44:33

million at the time it was 1.3

44:35

but today's money 26 million how did you pull this off when everybody else has

44:39

just lost their ass and

44:40

he said do as i do consult the spirits so he said that this woman had contacted

44:46

the dead and given him

44:48

the tip that way but it was really just she had a prostitution ring so these

44:54

were the

44:54

these were the people involved okay and this is what they were really doing but

44:59

when gender studies

45:00

departments got a hold of this history they're not going to tell you any of

45:04

this their job was to

45:06

become the pr branch in the universities to sell marxism and feminism to young

45:12

women to revolutionize

45:14

and radicalize and they had helped doing that from the cia yeah at the same

45:18

time because we were in the

45:19

midst of a cold war and i'm not saying communism is good i'm definitely not but

45:25

according to the cia at

45:27

the time they were trying to push western liberalism as being superior to

45:31

communism in russia and the

45:33

eastern bloc so they thought feminism was good for that purpose so they helped

45:38

fund the beginning of

45:39

ms magazine they granted scholarships they made up like fake scholarships one

45:44

of which was given to

45:45

gloria steinem you know and then they had her employed for years um going

45:49

around the world pushing

45:51

feminism so it was it was never that the average woman was like i want to vote

45:57

i want to listen to

45:58

political debates i want to learn about economics and foreign policy i'm really

46:03

concerned about these

46:04

things and i want to know and i want to vote women were concerned about things

46:09

like having clean

46:10

drinking water clean milk safe parks um you know less crime all those sort of

46:17

things and one of the other

46:18

things they predicted would happen they said if you give women the vote and you

46:23

politicize us like this

46:24

it's all going to be it's not going to be about the welfare of our children and

46:29

communities anymore

46:30

it's going to be about things like abortion and birth control and what are the

46:33

only women's

46:34

issues that you ever hear about anymore in politics the right to abortion and

46:39

things like access to birth

46:42

control access to abortion it's like the only thing you hear now where are all

46:46

the women even on the

46:47

right like fighting for the things they were fighting for 150 years ago nowhere

46:52

it's all about

46:53

you know uh like even trump trump frustrates me on this because he wants he's

46:58

like we got to have

46:59

more programs to get all the moms back to work and i'm like why why do you want

47:03

to do that why do you

47:05

want to push all the moms back to work that's a terrible idea why do you think

47:09

he's saying that

47:10

he's a liberal and he's a feminist he loves hiring women it's probably his

47:14

biggest achilles heel if he

47:15

would stop hiring women and get rid of a lot of his problems but he loves

47:20

hiring women and he's very

47:22

pro-working woman he like his first wife one of the things he loved about her

47:25

was she was very like

47:27

successful in business and and things like that ivanka same thing and yes they

47:32

have kids but they

47:33

have nannies and they have all the money in the world to like support them

47:36

while they're off doing

47:38

this sort of thing but what happens to the average woman the promise of

47:42

feminism looks something like

47:43

you're going to have the corner office it looks like sex in the city you're

47:45

going to have the corner

47:46

office and you're going to be in paris over brunch having champagne and you

47:52

know assigning the ink on

47:54

the next deal and you're going to be doing all this exciting boss babe stuff

47:57

and then you can also have

47:59

a kid and you know the nanny will take care of the kid while you're doing all

48:01

this important stuff at

48:02

work and it's just going to be amazing the average woman like me ends up

48:07

working a basic like i'm a

48:09

retail manager i'm a waitress you know um i'm a school teacher i work a nursing

48:15

a 12-hour nursing shift

48:17

four nights a week and i have to come home and take care of my kids and my

48:21

family and

48:22

i feel like i can't do it all it's too much so a lot of women just aren't even

48:27

having kids anymore

48:28

i don't i'm sure you've looked at birth rates yeah it's kind of bad there it's

48:32

weird that no one's

48:33

talking about it and there's there was always this narrative about overpopulation

48:36

yes and it's only

48:37

been over the last decade or so that people start talking about population

48:41

collapse and the catastrophic

48:43

impacts of that particularly on some foreign countries like south korea japan

48:48

they do not have a

48:49

replacement rate right they're gonna be there won't be a south korea in the

48:54

near future if something

48:55

radical doesn't happen over there but this is uh there's a whole other chapter

48:59

in the book dedicated

49:00

to this whole thing and where this came from the malthusian population agenda

49:06

margaret sanger gave me

49:08

nightmares writing the chapter about her i literally had nightmares about her

49:11

because she was so evil

49:14

it's hard to everybody's heard what she said about black people by now most

49:17

people have heard oh that

49:19

they're the lowest of the low and we just need to get rid of them that it would

49:23

be best for humanity

49:24

if we could just convince all of the lower races to just stop breeding so they

49:28

planned parenthood on

49:29

purpose focused on african-american and indigenous communities and poor whites

49:35

too but um she was part of the

49:38

rockefeller bureau for social hygiene it was a eugenics program and planned

49:43

parenthood was a eugenics

49:44

program and she was so anti-natalist you can find clips of her on the internet

49:49

now where they would

49:51

interview her on the radio and she'd say if we're up to me nobody would ever

49:54

have babies anymore

49:55

we just would stop having them because life is terrible and life is hard and it's

50:01

suffering and

50:01

bringing children in the world is a terrible thing especially she said the most

50:05

this is a famous quote

50:06

of hers the most uh kind thing a large family can do to one of its young

50:11

members is to kill it

50:12

and her whole her whole shtick was sold on lies she told lies about her mother

50:20

she said that her mother

50:21

died from over breeding that she had so many children it just it just destroyed

50:26

her body and she died not

50:27

true her mom had tuberculosis and died from tuberculosis like half of everyone

50:33

back then so she

50:34

lied about that she told a fake story about a woman named sadie sacks who didn't

50:38

know how she kept

50:39

getting pregnant and the doctor refused to tell her because the bad male

50:43

doctors just wanted the women

50:45

to just keep having babies so they refused to tell them how that worked which i

50:49

went and asked my grandma

50:50

i'm like grandma you were around like in this exact time period did you and

50:53

your mom like not know how

50:55

babies were made she was like what are you talking about of course we knew that

50:58

in fact she said after

50:59

my sister was born her her younger sister was the fourth kid in the family the

51:03

doctor told my parents

51:04

like you guys need to be careful like time things and like try it because it's

51:09

you know she had some

51:11

health problems he's like another baby might be risky so if you want to avoid

51:14

that here's how you

51:15

avoid that she's like of course we knew this idea have known that since the

51:20

beginning of time of course

51:22

they have but she wrote a whole book that purported to have thousands of

51:27

letters from women around the

51:29

world writing to margaret sanger saying i'm only 23 and i'm on my 14th baby i'm

51:35

not kidding she would

51:37

she the numbers were insane she was alleging that there were 23 year olds who

51:40

were on like their 11th

51:42

pregnancy and dying from uh over birth and that they just didn't know how to

51:48

stop it and so she was like

51:49

this is why we need abortion clinics is for this reason now i looked into this

51:55

because there's

51:56

something called the margaret sanger papers project they have everything she's

51:59

ever done if she wiped

52:01

her mouth on a napkin they've got that in the archives they have everything do

52:05

you think out of

52:07

the thousands of letters she said that she got from women saying i just can't

52:11

stop having all these

52:12

babies and it's killing me and i'm miserable how many do you think are

52:15

preserved in the margaret sanger

52:16

papers project how many zero three three three out of thousands and i emailed

52:23

them directly and i asked

52:26

seems weird you guys have like literally letters that she wrote to her friends

52:30

you have like all this

52:32

documentation on everything she ever did certainly if she was getting thousands

52:35

of letters you've got

52:36

more than three and they said well we think it was mostly lost to time or she

52:42

sent them to abortion

52:43

doctors to encourage them to keep going because you know people didn't like

52:47

abortion doctors so we think

52:49

she sent it to a lot of abortion doctors to like you know give them a pep talk

52:53

and uh yeah we just don't

52:55

really know it's just lost to time so you think she made a lot of oh yes yes

52:59

especially because if you

53:01

read the book nobody reads this crap you know except me i'm crazy nobody else

53:05

wants to read all of their

53:07

horrible writing but in the book if you're reading these letters they sound

53:10

literally like they're all

53:12

written by the same person so it's extremely dubious at best i would love if

53:18

hey if the margaret sanger

53:20

papers project folks want to come and tell me like where all these are if there's

53:24

any proof of this i

53:25

would love to see it because i looked for two and a half years and couldn't

53:29

find anything in fact

53:30

the most popular uh sanger biographer in the world who like knows everything

53:35

about her admits that she

53:37

lied about tons of stuff she's like oh she lied about the sadie sacks story she

53:40

lied about why her mother

53:41

really died and she probably lied about you know those other stories and

53:46

letters too but she believed it was

53:48

for a noble cause she thought what she was doing was good and the other big

53:52

secret is she was getting

53:54

a lot of money she was getting paid by the rockefeller foundation and promoted

53:58

by people like hg wells

54:00

who she was also having an affair with they're all a bunch of creepers joe i'm

54:04

telling you she was

54:05

it sounded like she sounded like an insane person in the book yeah she was

54:10

married and had three kids she

54:12

left her kids in like hippie bohemian communities one of them died from neglect

54:18

in one of these

54:19

communities didn't care about her kids at all in fact one of her sons grew up

54:23

and said

54:23

my sister would not be dead if my mother gave any shits about us whatsoever but

54:28

she didn't she was

54:29

anywhere except where we were any excuse to leave she let her ex-husband take

54:34

the rap for her distributing

54:36

illegal um illegal stuff about like abortion and birth control that the comstock

54:41

laws didn't allow that back

54:43

then so she was wanted in court and was going to be put in jail for

54:46

distributing that stuff she let

54:48

her husband take the fall for it while she went to england and had affairs with

54:51

people like hg wells

54:53

and havelock ellis and they were all bisexual and they were all occultists and

54:57

doing all this crazy stuff

55:00

but people hg walls called her the most incredible woman ever to live and said

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55:06

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slash rogan meet your match on zip recruiter why do you think he thought that

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because he was a

56:28

eugenicist who loved the idea of millions of abortions a year hg wells the war

56:33

of the worlds guy was a

56:35

eugenicist yep you should have jay dyer on to tell you about hg wells i brought

56:39

you this book i don't

56:40

want to know i love the war of the worlds he he wrote some great fiction but he

56:46

was a die-hard malthusian

56:48

these people really believed it was actually a very popular thing that we're

56:51

talking like right after

56:53

darwinism we're talking about just before the nazis we're talking about the kaiser

56:58

wilhelm

56:58

foundation it was a very popular position to be a in favor of social hygiene as

57:04

they called it which was

57:06

you know anybody with birth defects shouldn't be able to reproduce anybody of

57:09

the lower races or inferior

57:12

mentally um any of those kind of people shouldn't reproduce because we want you

57:16

know a cleaner better

57:17

human race going forward yeah so feminism was instrumental in that that's

57:23

actually where the

57:24

birth control pill came from as well margaret sanger the rockefeller foundation

57:29

the kaiser wilhelm

57:30

foundation and a lot of nazi scientists are the ones who started synthesizing

57:34

human hormones to make

57:36

birth control pills and they're the way they sold that was they said look i we

57:40

know abortion is very

57:41

unpopular people don't like it it's a very terrible thing that we have to do we

57:45

have to do it because

57:46

we don't want all these babies yeah but you know if you let us have the birth

57:50

control pill and you make

57:52

it like widely available and socially acceptable abortion will be a thing of

57:57

the past nobody will need one

57:59

ever again that's how it was marketed and sold to the world and it sounds right

58:03

it sounds reasonable

58:04

maybe it's better maybe it's better just to prevent all the pregnancies and

58:08

then we don't have to worry

58:09

about abortions but here we are in 2026 you can get abortion or um you can get

58:14

birth control pills for

58:16

four dollars at walmart you can go down to your local health department in your

58:21

county and get them for

58:22

free if you're under a certain income status and we still have well at least

58:27

before they overturned roe

58:28

v wade we still had about a million abortions a year in this country even with

58:32

the shot and the pill and

58:34

all these types of birth control and more education than we've ever had that

58:38

was the other thing when

58:39

i was in school right more sex head more sex ed and then no more teen pregnancies

58:43

it hasn't that

58:44

hasn't panned out whatsoever it turns out that if you take all the stigma away

58:48

from sexual activity you

58:50

tell everybody premarital sex is actually good you gotta you gotta get in there

58:53

and figure out how

58:54

things work before you get married you don't want to just get married that's ew

58:57

that's weird uh we

58:59

still have a million abortions a year we still have uh plan b pills and things

59:05

like this uh there's

59:06

been more babies aborted in the last century than all the men that have been

59:11

killed in all the wars

59:13

of the 20th century like far and away yeah it's crazy so um the the glorious dynum

59:23

cia thing is nuts

59:25

yeah that's nuts yeah because with the real tinfoil hat people want to think

59:30

that the cia has been

59:31

involved in every single social aspect including like the rock and roll

59:35

movement of the 1960s and there

59:37

seems to be some evidence yeah and and when you see like how far the tentacles

59:43

actually go

59:44

and then you see it like in feminism you go wait what what was she was what

59:52

yeah so explain so

59:54

gloria steinam was recruited out of smith college in the 50s as all women's

59:59

college

1:00:00

um she already had some pretty like left progressive kind of feminist uh leanings

1:00:06

and this is generally

1:00:07

how this works if you want to know how the left has taken over academia i have

1:00:10

a whole paper about

1:00:11

this on my sub stack how ngos and universities have just swung completely left

1:00:17

and they have just

1:00:19

captured the university systems they do it this way so they recruit her out of

1:00:24

smith college you know

1:00:25

she's writing papers about women's rights and and feminism and stuff like that

1:00:29

and they go she's

1:00:30

pretty good at this so they approach her and they say we're willing to offer

1:00:33

you something called the

1:00:35

chester bowls fellowship and she goes what's that and they're like well it

1:00:38

doesn't really exist we made

1:00:39

it up for you because what we're going to do is we're going to give you this

1:00:42

fellowship we're going to

1:00:43

send you to india we're going to send you to europe we're going to have you

1:00:47

tour the whole united

1:00:48

states do a media tour start a magazine to promote women's rights the things

1:00:52

that you believe in so it's

1:00:54

it's a little more sneaky than everybody sitting in a dark back room and like

1:00:58

plotting some evil plan

1:01:00

to like uh make america into a feminist hellhole it was more like we're trying

1:01:05

to promote liberal

1:01:06

democracy around the world because it's part of the cold war you're really good

1:01:10

at this feminism stuff

1:01:12

um and if we can get a lot of women voting and if we can get them into

1:01:15

universities and mobilize them

1:01:17

as a political uh group just similar to what they did with black people

1:01:22

convince blacks that

1:01:23

you're all oppressed you're all victims um and and radicalize them and make

1:01:27

them permanent democrat

1:01:29

voters same thing that they did with feminism so they sent her to india where

1:01:33

she worked for the

1:01:34

ford foundation again the same people who created gender studies um learned a

1:01:39

lot of interesting things

1:01:41

over there in india not sure what's going on in there i said in my book it's

1:01:44

like a hotbed of like

1:01:45

theosophy and like crazy like the dalai lama and there's a lot of weird stuff

1:01:51

going on in india i

1:01:52

don't know why they send everybody there and then when they leave india they go

1:01:55

and promote

1:01:56

this weird stuff that's what they do so they sent her to like eastern europe to

1:02:02

a youth festival where

1:02:03

she promoted feminism and this is at the time where the eastern block is still

1:02:07

communist and it's hard

1:02:08

to get in there but as a woman this is something uh traditionally they always

1:02:12

do with women it's very

1:02:13

easy to sneak female spies or propagandists in rather than men because they're

1:02:18

less suspicious

1:02:19

you know it's like oh she just wants to promote education for women and they're

1:02:23

like fine

1:02:24

she can come i guess whatever um so she's promoting feminism there then she

1:02:28

comes here

1:02:29

she's undercover at the playboy mansion weirdly undercover yeah she like people

1:02:34

didn't know she

1:02:34

was cia at this point she was like a playboy bunny for a little while what yeah

1:02:39

she was at the

1:02:40

hugh hefner mansion and undercover as a playboy bunny yeah that's hilarious

1:02:45

yeah to promote she was kind

1:02:47

of hot for like back in the day in the 70s this late 60s she was kind of hot

1:02:51

well compared to the

1:02:53

other feminists we had to choose from who else did we have betty for dan i don't

1:02:56

know if you've ever

1:02:58

seen is there any photos of gloria steinam at the mansion yeah there's a

1:03:02

picture of her in the bunny

1:03:03

costume oh we gotta see that yeah maybe jamie can pull it up well yeah i'm

1:03:06

trying to there's video too

1:03:07

i'm trying to see which is better yeah so um and that was to promote the sexual

1:03:12

liberation stuff

1:03:13

right hey women can for the cia yeah that didn't well yeah it didn't say for

1:03:20

the cia here but

1:03:22

yeah undercover playboy bunny it's an hbo original wow there's a documentary on

1:03:29

it

1:03:29

that's career i wonder how they frame it yeah this uh says it's for going about

1:03:34

exploiting women and low

1:03:36

wages see let me see if the photos of her down there where below where it says

1:03:41

images click on one of

1:03:43

those where it's her yeah she's pretty yeah good enough yeah that's on her

1:03:48

christie ellie yeah oh

1:03:50

is that christie ellie playing her must be oh yeah she played her glory and

1:03:54

that was in for what year

1:03:56

was that 85 wow that's crazy she did come out in her memoirs and talk about it

1:04:03

interesting and she also

1:04:05

talked about did she talk about that she was working for the cia yes so she

1:04:08

started ms magazine with cia funding

1:04:11

she was working with like clay felker and a couple of other is that her no that's

1:04:15

not her either

1:04:17

she was okay i mean it was nothing thrilling but it was it was good enough to

1:04:21

to get her in there and

1:04:22

like i said her and betty friedan had like this rivalry this vicious rivalry in

1:04:26

the press because

1:04:27

friedan was a marxist it's all there's always been this battle between like the

1:04:31

the liberal capitalist

1:04:33

type of feminist and the marxist type of feminist and betty friedan was not

1:04:37

attractive she was very

1:04:38

frumpy she was older um and the press loved steinem because she was like

1:04:42

stylish and cool she had like

1:04:44

highlights in her hair and she was kind of a hippie um so she got all the press

1:04:48

and she started ms

1:04:49

magazine um which there's a whole bunch on that in my book as well but yeah it

1:04:54

was like it was part of the

1:04:56

cold war it was part of pushing like the liberal democracy stuff to contrast it

1:05:02

against like the

1:05:04

communist eastern bloc at the time and it was very useful there's extensive

1:05:10

writing from so many people

1:05:12

in this movement about how hey if you can get women young women into

1:05:16

universities they're very easy to

1:05:19

propagandize they're very easy to program with whatever worldview you want to

1:05:23

give them and if

1:05:25

you want to make them into revolutionaries they make excellent revolutionaries

1:05:28

this is why right now

1:05:30

you see women in minnesota and portland and la going up to ice agents and

1:05:35

getting in their face and

1:05:38

calling them names and you know you got a small dick little man you think you're

1:05:42

tough if you're

1:05:43

wondering why why is it women why are women trying to like fight ice agents in

1:05:47

the streets it's because

1:05:49

we send them all to college they get indoctrinated with this marxist feminist

1:05:53

worldview that masculinity

1:05:55

is toxic and bad that men are inherently violent and oppressive and women are

1:06:00

inherently like

1:06:01

mother nature earth types who bring goodness and and fairness into the world

1:06:06

make sure everyone has

1:06:08

enough to eat this is the like false dialectic that everyone gets taught so

1:06:12

they see what what these

1:06:14

women see when they see ice arresting even if it's a sex criminal who has warrants

1:06:19

they don't care they

1:06:21

see him as a sweet innocent victim of the evil white patriarchy that these are

1:06:26

fascist nazis coming to

1:06:28

arrest the beautiful baby immigrants who are helpless and need protection from

1:06:31

mommy so they weaponize that

1:06:33

you see there's a video of this guy um going up to people to try to get um

1:06:39

people that ice has deported

1:06:41

brought back into the country have you seen this video no let me send it to you

1:06:44

jam because it's it's quite

1:06:46

funny because uh he's explaining how one of them uh the one he wants to get

1:06:50

back in the country has

1:06:51

committed five murders but he thinks he needs a second chance and they're 100

1:06:56

agreeing with him

1:06:58

it's like it's one of the funniest things it's like you you just you see how kooky

1:07:04

people are with this

1:07:05

stuff that it it's not like oh wow he's a bad person it's like no in their

1:07:11

little tiny blinders

1:07:13

sided ideological bubble anybody that gets to gets deported should be brought

1:07:18

in ice is bad immigrants

1:07:19

are good yeah and without any regard whatsoever the consequences of bringing

1:07:23

over murderers and rapists

1:07:25

and drug dealers and gang members put your headphones on real quick because

1:07:29

this is kooky bring back

1:07:32

illegal immigrants who were deported by ice we're with the bring the back

1:07:35

campaign can we get your

1:07:36

signature for our petition just need your name and email address specifically

1:07:39

we're trying to bring

1:07:40

back edwin hernandez from el salvador yeah we do have to disclose to you though

1:07:46

that he is an admitted

1:07:47

member of ms13 and he did kill five people back in el salvador but we think he

1:07:52

deserves a second

1:07:54

chance and we want to get him back that's him right there what do you guys

1:07:58

think about what's going on

1:08:00

with ice in this country oh it's um appalling i guess is maybe not even a

1:08:05

strong enough word so yeah

1:08:08

we're from maine um there's been a lot of ice activity in maine up in portland

1:08:12

right yeah up in

1:08:13

portland yeah that's where we live yeah so um i'm a teacher and um we there

1:08:19

were lots of students

1:08:20

that were afraid to come to school thank you so much yes hopefully we can get

1:08:23

uh edwin hernandez back

1:08:25

yeah so he doesn't have to be criminally convicted in el salvador right yes all

1:08:29

right thank you so much

1:08:30

thank you good work good work good work bring that murderer back eloise ms-13

1:08:37

gang members killed five

1:08:38

people yeah bring them back she's the perfect she's the perfect example she's a

1:08:42

school teacher

1:08:43

what school teacher do you know who's not liberal very few very few and most of

1:08:49

k through 12 is female

1:08:51

teachers by the time you get to high school there's a few more but i think it's

1:08:53

like 80 90 percent of

1:08:55

school teachers are women so they go to university they go for education and

1:08:59

they almost inevitably end

1:09:01

up getting some kind of women's studies course thrown in there and so they're

1:09:05

taught this worldview

1:09:06

that white men are evil and oppressive to women to minorities to poor people so

1:09:12

they see ed edwin

1:09:14

hernandez whatever his name is well sure he murdered five people but he wouldn't

1:09:18

have done that if he

1:09:19

wasn't poor and oppressed by the evil white patriarchy it's not fair and so she

1:09:24

wants to protect him and

1:09:26

she said there's kids who are afraid to come to school you know the kids are

1:09:30

afraid it's just like

1:09:31

the democrats last night with their little um reply to trump's state of the

1:09:35

union where they said the

1:09:36

same thing oh if you've been trying to protect your neighbors from the gestapo

1:09:40

who's coming to arrest

1:09:41

them we understand how stressful that is they just create this completely false

1:09:46

narrative that's not how the

1:09:48

world really works ask the average like white man out there who he's oppressing

1:09:52

because most of them

1:09:53

are just working hard as you know amazon delivery drivers or plumbers or right

1:09:58

sewage workers or

1:10:00

something like that the average white man has never had like this incredible

1:10:04

amount of power it's all

1:10:05

framing the minute you take away and destroy the framing that everyone accepts

1:10:10

this all falls apart

1:10:12

which is why i wrote the book because i'm like if women knew especially

1:10:15

specifically women like me

1:10:18

this is supposed to be for us this whole movement was supposed to be for me and

1:10:22

my daughters to uh

1:10:24

liberate us and i was like okay from what from the people who have the best

1:10:30

interest in protecting me

1:10:32

my father my husband my brother the men around me in order to believe the

1:10:37

feminist narrative that

1:10:38

men have systemically just always wanted to keep women down and oppress them

1:10:42

you'd have to believe

1:10:43

that they didn't care about their mothers their daughters their sisters their

1:10:48

grandmothers their

1:10:49

neighbor lady just just all the men wanted to just systemically oppress the

1:10:54

women so that they could

1:10:55

have free maids and uh you know sex bought women at home there was a ton of

1:11:00

propaganda in the 70s

1:11:02

as well about this remember the stepford wives movie where it was revealed in

1:11:07

the movie plot that like

1:11:08

all the evil men in this nice suburban neighborhood full of white people they

1:11:12

all had sex bot wives

1:11:14

they didn't want their real wives they wanted a mindless sex bot that cleaned

1:11:18

the house and baked

1:11:19

casseroles and this was supposed to imply that this is why men are oppressing

1:11:24

you they don't want you to

1:11:26

have a brain they don't want you to have input they don't want to hear your

1:11:29

thoughts on things or have

1:11:30

you be a real person they just want you to serve them you know what i mean that's

1:11:36

not how life is

1:11:37

life's a lot more complicated than that but when you fill the university

1:11:42

systems with this and then you

1:11:44

fill the workplace with it we've got hr we've got me too we've got all these

1:11:50

systems in place now that

1:11:52

actually promote feminism it's far and away the dominant social aspect of the

1:11:57

culture look at

1:11:58

every female celebrity every single one of them think of the top ones like kylie

1:12:03

jenner taylor swift

1:12:05

beyonce katy perry any of the really uh popular female pop culture they're all

1:12:13

girl boss sexual liberation

1:12:16

shitting on your ex-boyfriend men ain't i'm gonna dominate him with my you know

1:12:21

sexy physique and my

1:12:23

sexual prowess and it turns out that a lot of the ancient goddess worship which

1:12:28

was really popular

1:12:29

with feminists in the 70s there was a huge revival of that a lot of the goddess

1:12:35

archetypes that they

1:12:36

brought back had those same themes like the goddess khali who's a hindu goddess

1:12:41

with eight arms and blue skin

1:12:43

and a tongue hanging out of her mouth and all of her depictions in hinduism

1:12:47

they the feminists chose

1:12:50

that and put it on the cover of the first issue of ms magazine in 1973 that

1:12:55

seems like a weird choice

1:12:56

if you're trying to get suburban moms in 1973 to buy your magazine to put this

1:13:02

blue-skinned terrifying hindu

1:13:04

goddess on the cover so why did they do that well because they had her holding

1:13:08

an iron and a baby and like

1:13:10

all these domestic things right and the goddess khali symbolizes at least two

1:13:14

feminists vengeance against

1:13:16

men taking back power from men and having your revenge on them because that

1:13:20

goddess only accepts

1:13:22

male sacrifice male human sacrifice especially on the battlefield she like

1:13:26

drinks the blood of

1:13:27

deceased male warriors yeah very and she's intentionally terrifying and she's

1:13:32

supposed to like symbolize this

1:13:35

and let me see what she looks like jamie yeah if you pull up that the god just

1:13:39

put up the ms magazine

1:13:40

goddess khali there it is

1:13:42

women tell the truth about their abortions

1:13:47

wow i'm raising kids without what year was this 1973. wow yeah on the housewife's

1:13:55

moment of truth

1:13:56

this was the huge propaganda campaign to convince women that staying home and

1:14:01

raising your own kids is

1:14:02

actually horrific oppression and it's abuse and you're enslaved you want to be

1:14:08

at work working for

1:14:09

your boss you want to be paying those taxes you want to don't submit to your

1:14:14

husband submit your boss

1:14:15

though right that's fine but or become the boss yeah or become the boss which

1:14:21

again we've had 50 years

1:14:24

of trying to push women to be the boss and guess what they really don't want to

1:14:27

and this is what i always

1:14:28

say some of them do though some of them do that's true and not a lot of fun

1:14:33

they're not i would say

1:14:34

there's always been like five percent of women who are genuine outliers who are

1:14:38

really not cut out for

1:14:39

motherhood who can go out there and crush it who are going to do something else

1:14:42

historically usually it

1:14:44

was like maybe you would uh become a monastic like a nun or something maybe you

1:14:48

would run a boarding

1:14:49

school or a tavern like women have owned businesses and done other things in

1:14:53

almost every culture but

1:14:55

you should be free to do that the the issue is like are we indoctrinating

1:14:59

people into a very specific

1:15:01

ideology in schools and universities yes and is that why they're going into

1:15:06

something that really maybe

1:15:08

they're not that outlier and they wouldn't really be interested in it you know

1:15:12

uh i was talking the

1:15:13

other day about this video that i saw on instagram um a while back where there

1:15:17

was this woman she was

1:15:18

talking about how when she was in college she was dating this guy who was a

1:15:22

christian and he wanted a

1:15:24

traditional family and he's like i'll take care of you and i'll raise our kids

1:15:27

and she goes i didn't

1:15:28

want that i wanted to go out there in the world so i got my education and i got

1:15:33

the job and i'm doing the

1:15:35

the thing that i want to do and i don't want it she goes i don't and she was

1:15:39

crying she's like i don't

1:15:41

want it she goes like this is not what i want i'm not happy and i fucked up

1:15:46

yeah and it's just

1:15:48

crazy terrible you're like how many people silently feel like that yeah well

1:15:53

the the truth is that since

1:15:55

this book came out a few years ago i've paid a pretty high personal cost for

1:15:59

putting this information

1:16:00

out there and in the first chapter i say look i'm just going to present to you

1:16:04

the actual

1:16:05

facts about the history and what really happened because i think it's for you

1:16:09

women to decide this

1:16:10

is supposed to be for you i want you guys to look at what really happened and

1:16:16

the results of that and

1:16:17

the whole last chapter is like a ton of statistics about where are we now after

1:16:21

50 years of this being

1:16:23

the super dominant thing it's not great it's not great but i was like i want

1:16:28

women to have the ability

1:16:30

to look at it truthfully for themselves and decide what they think and i have

1:16:34

been slandered i have

1:16:36

been the things that have been said about me the lies and the gossip that have

1:16:39

been spread like online

1:16:41

calling me everything under the sun just wild crazy rumors about my personal

1:16:45

life that are

1:16:46

not true um because that's going to happen yes it is it is going to happen it

1:16:51

says anything controversial

1:16:52

kind of seen as somebody betraying the sisterhood right because we're so

1:16:56

programmed that it's like

1:16:58

the knee-jerk reaction from women oftentimes but i get hundreds now emails dms

1:17:04

letters in the mail even

1:17:06

um from to our p.o box from women like one was a lady who was like i'm 60 years

1:17:11

old i'm sitting here

1:17:13

reading your book and it's covered with tears because i fell for this now i'm

1:17:18

60 years old i have

1:17:19

no husband i have no kids i have a shitty job that i hate i'm gonna die alone

1:17:24

and i can't go back and

1:17:25

change any of it what do i do do you know who's upset about it too the lady who

1:17:30

created sex in the city

1:17:32

oh yeah did you see that she's a gem yes there's like a little a video about

1:17:36

that isn't there where

1:17:38

um she said that she regrets having ever made that yeah isn't that crazy

1:17:44

because how many women

1:17:45

saw that and like i'm gonna be that boss girl yeah i'm gonna be that what was

1:17:48

the one lady that

1:17:49

everybody the hot blonde lady uh jamie you're a giant aren't you a giant fan of

1:17:55

sex in the city no

1:17:56

but that's the character's name about character actor both samantha's character

1:18:02

yeah that uh lady

1:18:04

she was in all the like eighties crawl that's it yes super hot yeah yeah and it

1:18:08

was like i'm gonna be

1:18:09

like her i'm gonna be a samantha yeah i know yeah well i mean it was pushed on

1:18:14

me really hard and i was

1:18:15

told i was told you're like a loser i'll never forget this it was like maybe 12

1:18:20

years ago somebody

1:18:22

um from the rnc that i was arguing with online about this she told me you

1:18:27

should be ashamed of

1:18:28

yourself you are not a proper conservative woman and you are not contributing

1:18:31

to the movement

1:18:32

by staying home with your kids i said really how's that she goes what about the

1:18:36

gdp

1:18:41

she's like if you were a real republican you'd be out there working and

1:18:45

contributing to the gdp

1:18:46

and i was like right you're right raising five children and trying to make them

1:18:51

the best human

1:18:52

beings i can i can help them be who wants to do that i should get out there and

1:18:58

work for a corporation

1:18:59

that's gdp was her argument yeah and that's crazy i debate feminists all the

1:19:04

time yeah online i'm

1:19:06

pretty undefeated if anybody wants a piece well here's the thing about liberals

1:19:10

online i was just

1:19:11

talking to andrew about this she said that was incorrect the take on her the

1:19:15

opposite is true

1:19:15

i've never regretted not having children i feel compelled to have a career

1:19:20

since i was a child

1:19:21

but who's judging not me read all about it my new book but i thought so why

1:19:26

does it say here

1:19:27

sex in the city writer candace bushnell 60 admits she regrets choosing a career

1:19:31

or having children as

1:19:32

she's now truly alone i don't know and then there's a link i would imagine she

1:19:35

was selling a book and

1:19:36

they're taking something out to get some headlines um this is the daily mail

1:19:40

though the daily mail is a

1:19:42

little sus right it's pretty click on that highlight that and click on that

1:19:45

article that daily mail

1:19:47

article like do they quote her even if so just the even if it's not candies

1:19:52

there's there's definitely

1:19:53

plenty of other women who push this 100 but i wonder like how are they able to

1:19:58

say that she regrets

1:19:59

this if she doesn't if there's no quote attached to it so what does it say here

1:20:05

then when i got

1:20:05

divorced i was in my 50s started to see the impact of not having children and

1:20:09

being truly alone okay i do

1:20:11

see that people with children have an anchor in a way that people who have no

1:20:14

kids don't okay and what

1:20:17

does it say below that anymore does she elaborate she explained that she didn't

1:20:21

feel like dating in her

1:20:22

2000 after a 2012 divorce ballet dancer she married a ballet dancer red fly

1:20:29

sorry male ballet dancers i'm just kidding um it's not that long to get to my

1:20:37

age i know women who

1:20:38

have gone longer uh that was it that was the entire quote yeah i was looking

1:20:44

her up well i can see why

1:20:45

they took it that way then but that seems like maybe she's saying overall she

1:20:48

still thinks it was better

1:20:50

to go after or maybe she's just gaslighting everybody to sell a book you know

1:20:54

maybe she's

1:20:54

like you want to sell that book you better be like on the go-go boss girl i

1:21:00

suppose so but like you

1:21:02

asked you asked me like is do women really want to be in the workplace or are

1:21:07

they only kind of really

1:21:08

choosing that's a giant generalization anyway right of course it is obviously

1:21:12

some women do and some

1:21:13

women don't and there's a lot of women who naturally maternally want to have

1:21:17

children want to have

1:21:18

family well and then it's also finding a guy that you can trust that you care

1:21:22

about and you think

1:21:23

it's going to stick with you and he's really going to be invested in this whole

1:21:26

thing and someone who's

1:21:27

like a solid man who's not going to become an alcoholic and lose his job and

1:21:31

fall apart that you're

1:21:32

fucked and yeah that's what happened to me that can happen to anybody but that

1:21:37

aside for just a moment

1:21:39

uh simone de bouvois the arguably the biggest feminist of second wave the

1:21:43

french intellectual

1:21:44

who was uh buddies with john paul sartre and they got in trouble for grooming

1:21:49

underage kids and seducing

1:21:51

them and all kinds of crazy stuff but she's respected as the greatest feminist

1:21:55

intellectual of the 20th

1:21:56

century and she was super influential and in a 1970s interview with betty friedan

1:22:02

she said

1:22:03

i don't believe that society should give women the opportunity or the choice to

1:22:07

stay home and be

1:22:08

mothers because if we do they're all going to pick that and i don't think it

1:22:12

should be an option so

1:22:13

it was the view of the feminists that yeah they and susan b anthony and elizabeth

1:22:19

katie stanton said

1:22:21

that they said uh we would have never passed suffrage had it not been for men

1:22:26

if it was ever left

1:22:27

up to women alone we would have never passed suffrage they would have never

1:22:30

gone for it they

1:22:31

don't want liberation now of course from their view they're like well it's

1:22:34

because they're oppressed

1:22:35

and they don't know that they hate their solid their slavery yet they just

1:22:39

haven't realized how

1:22:41

oppressed they are and if they could see it you know for what it is they wouldn't

1:22:45

like it but

1:22:46

we couldn't convince them for a hundred years we had to convince the men that

1:22:50

it would don't you want

1:22:51

your daughters to like have their own money and this and that um so the feminists

1:22:56

themselves say women

1:22:58

didn't want it if we ever left it up to women they wouldn't have ever chosen it

1:23:01

like at least not as

1:23:02

a whole sure there would always have been a minority but i would argue that the

1:23:06

minority of women who

1:23:07

fought for that were the ones that the status quo historically of get yourself

1:23:13

a good man have a

1:23:14

family um stay home it doesn't work for them so like a lot of them there's a

1:23:20

book about this um edward

1:23:24

dutton wrote a book about witches feminism in the fall of the west where he

1:23:26

says traditionally like

1:23:28

women the archetype of the witch being ugly and haggard and living on the

1:23:31

outside of town

1:23:32

it's kind of historically accurate most of the feminists like have you ever

1:23:36

seen a picture of susan b anthony

1:23:38

for no for example i have not she is uh aesthetically challenged we'll say that

1:23:44

so is betty friedan so are

1:23:46

a lot of these women uh not all but a lot of them are and i think we're not

1:23:49

really interested in them

1:23:51

i think they look at the system and they go well this isn't fair to me you know

1:23:54

i'm smart i can do

1:23:55

other things i'm just a baby factory the amount of women who have called me a

1:24:00

baby factory it's pretty

1:24:01

insane because i have five kids well they're not fun women no they're not fun

1:24:05

women but they're like i

1:24:06

i don't want to be you you're just a baby factory it's like the same kind of

1:24:09

men that call me toxic

1:24:11

male oh yeah you know it's just how dare you be a successful masculine archetype

1:24:18

of a man you're

1:24:19

not very threatening right it's very threatening to people well in some ways i'm

1:24:23

the weirdest person to

1:24:24

be here talking about this because i grew up a tomboy uh and i have a lot of

1:24:29

like people use this

1:24:30

against me they're like oh you're actually really masculine for a woman you may

1:24:33

not always look super

1:24:34

masculine you're really in a firearms i'm really i'm a firearms instructor i

1:24:38

love weightlifting i'm

1:24:39

like an og meathead i love bodybuilding i did power lifting for years i grew up

1:24:44

on farms playing in the

1:24:46

mud with the other boys in the neighborhood that's what i liked to do but i

1:24:50

think that when you grow up

1:24:52

like that as a woman you realize like i'm really strong for a woman i can deadlift

1:24:57

250 pounds for sets of

1:24:59

five but the guy next to me who has never trained in his life can do that too

1:25:03

and you give him six

1:25:05

months in the gym and he's going to blow past me you know you just you have a

1:25:09

more realistic

1:25:10

understanding of how that works and i think that in the modern era all the

1:25:15

feminist side debate

1:25:16

they live in this world that we're sitting in the studio right now and all this

1:25:20

wonderful stuff

1:25:21

that allows me to be here talking to you and talking to all the folks that are

1:25:25

watching the microphone the

1:25:27

technology everything was built by men you'll hear the hedy lamar thing that

1:25:31

she came up with wi-fi

1:25:33

no it's not true really no it's not true she she worked with a man on a precursor

1:25:40

to it but it wasn't

1:25:42

her it wasn't like she by her i think so i think they actually were i think it

1:25:46

was one of her

1:25:49

boyfriends i could be wrong on that but no if you like even if you just ask grok

1:25:53

is that really true

1:25:54

and it's like ah well a little bit but not really and that but far and away men

1:25:59

are the builders and

1:26:00

maintainers of infrastructure and technology and they always will be because

1:26:04

the truth is women have had

1:26:06

a hundred years to get into that stuff and they just don't really want to they'd

1:26:09

rather be interior

1:26:10

designers or psychologists or things that are um you know about people and

1:26:15

social dynamics and

1:26:17

you know aesthetics and stuff like that i'm that way too i have like a really

1:26:21

strong intellectual

1:26:22

logical side i love debating and all that kind of stuff but i also love

1:26:26

smelling babies heads and

1:26:28

dressing them in cute little outfits and you know i love glitter and sparkly

1:26:32

things so it is what it is

1:26:34

women don't want to go be men right that's what we're finding out after 100

1:26:38

years of this is that

1:26:39

when you make women be men they hate it like that lady that um tried to be a

1:26:44

man have you heard of

1:26:46

that story where the woman tried to pose as a man for like a year and she ended

1:26:49

up deleting herself i

1:26:51

think because it was so horrible like it was so awful she was like life as a

1:26:57

man is awful it's tough

1:26:59

it's hard nobody cares about your feelings nobody's coming to rescue you and i

1:27:03

think women

1:27:04

growing up in this era they don't think about when they turn on the light

1:27:07

switch in the morning how

1:27:09

that happens when they get in their car and drive to work they don't think

1:27:12

about who built the road

1:27:13

they're driving on who built the cars or designed them or who changes their oil

1:27:16

as all men that when

1:27:18

they flush the toilet they don't think about hey if that toilet backs up or the

1:27:22

sewage you know the sewer

1:27:23

treatment plant has a problem it's going to be men that go in and fix it if

1:27:27

there's a hurricane or an ice

1:27:28

storm who's going to be back out in the dangerous weather trying to rescue

1:27:32

people and get the power

1:27:34

going to be men i'm waiting for the feminists to come and rescue all the people

1:27:37

from the flood waters

1:27:39

and to put the power lines back up after the tornadoes come through so far they

1:27:44

have not

1:27:45

appeared they haven't shown up to do the dirty dangerous and difficult jobs

1:27:50

that men do and i'll

1:27:51

believe them that what they want is equality when they start signing up for

1:27:55

those jobs well it's just

1:27:57

such a bizarre perspective to think that it's not a huge task to raise children

1:28:04

yeah and to care for

1:28:06

them and communicate with them and see to their emotional needs and and help

1:28:10

them solve things

1:28:11

and figure things out and help them with their school work and just normal

1:28:16

stuff that is so crucial

1:28:18

to the development of a child yeah and we've somehow because there's no

1:28:22

monetary you can't like put a

1:28:26

number on that like what how valuable it is it's not valuable if it's not

1:28:29

bringing in money if it's not

1:28:31

contributing to the gdp yes yeah that that whole the like myth of women's unpaid

1:28:37

labor um i'm glad

1:28:39

you brought that up i just finished a huge project that i'm working on with uh

1:28:43

andrew my my excellent

1:28:44

has a handsome husband and uh stephen crowder dr david patrick harry and rob

1:28:49

norr who's a uh champion

1:28:51

debater we put together a feminist debate course that's coming out really soon

1:28:55

i think this week i think

1:28:56

it drops this week and we go over all these myths and debunk them and we tell

1:29:00

we show people and

1:29:01

demonstrate like how to debate this feminism thing because it's a leviathan it's

1:29:06

a beast if you take

1:29:07

it on like one of the reasons i'm out here doing it is because when men try to

1:29:11

argue against feminism

1:29:12

or feminists they immediately get slapped with you're a misogynist you hate

1:29:16

women you're an incel all the

1:29:18

tropes you have a small dick what are you gay like just all the insults right

1:29:23

well when i sit in front of

1:29:24

them and make those arguments you can't really just get away with that you have

1:29:28

to contend with them

1:29:29

because i'm a woman right i mean you could try to insult me but it's not going

1:29:32

to land the same as

1:29:33

when you do that to a man so we put together this course to try to help people

1:29:38

deconstruct the framing

1:29:40

that's been built question all the founding axioms that feminism was this good

1:29:45

necessary grassroots thing

1:29:47

that it's good for women that if it ever went away all the women would be chained

1:29:51

to the stove in

1:29:52

servitude not not allowed to learn how to read or drive a car when you hear

1:29:57

about like women's

1:29:58

oppression in the middle east that's a result of islam in christendom that was

1:30:02

never a thing like

1:30:04

even in like ancient christianity was one of the first places that women were

1:30:08

really seen as full human

1:30:09

beings and a lot of it's because of the theotokos the mother of god the virgin

1:30:14

mary being the ark of

1:30:16

the new covenant that brought christ into the world for man's salvation she was

1:30:20

even asked by an angel

1:30:22

and she said let it be so which is so bizarre that modern feminist women

1:30:27

support islam yes they do and

1:30:29

they hate christianity and they hate the virgin mary they don't like her being

1:30:34

an archetype of virginity

1:30:36

and motherhood you know and strength and men's salvation they don't like that

1:30:41

but they'll support

1:30:42

islam all day long that's fine it's so strange it's it's so strange that it

1:30:49

worked it's it's so strange

1:30:51

that something that goes against actual human nature somehow or another became

1:30:56

the prevailing ideology

1:30:58

amongst liberal women yeah um the occult aspect of it was very shocking yes it

1:31:05

was very it was very

1:31:06

shocking to me you didn't know when i started researching to put together the

1:31:11

book i thought it

1:31:12

was going to be mostly about the funding of the feminist movement the jekyll

1:31:17

island club being the

1:31:18

same guys that like went to the jekyll island in secret and put together the

1:31:22

income tax and the federal

1:31:24

reserve and then compulsory education system i thought it would be mostly about

1:31:27

that and the fact

1:31:28

that women never wanted it that women weren't the ones that just came together

1:31:32

and demanded it and

1:31:34

then i started researching all the like popular figureheads and really reading

1:31:37

their stuff because

1:31:38

i was like this is a very unpopular it's i'm making pretty intense claims here

1:31:44

so i really have to be

1:31:46

able to back it up and i better make sure i'm correct and i better make sure i'm

1:31:49

accurate

1:31:50

because whenever you're challenging a narrative this big everyone's going to go

1:31:54

through with a fine-toothed

1:31:54

comb and try to see where i'm wrong or see if i'm lying or see if i'm twisting

1:31:59

things so i did two and a

1:32:00

half years of just reading feminist literature it was rough but i got through

1:32:06

it and what i found was

1:32:08

holy moly most of these women almost all but certainly most were into spiritualism

1:32:18

which was like a big 1800s

1:32:20

movement of like trying to do seances and contact the dead and things like that

1:32:24

theosophy which combines

1:32:27

like eastern occult practices with like other western traditions ancient

1:32:33

goddess worship new age stuff

1:32:37

and even satanism and luciferianism in fact in my book i cite a book that's a

1:32:43

phd thesis by a professor

1:32:44

from norway his name's per faxnel i don't know if that's the way you pronounce

1:32:48

it but that's how it's

1:32:49

spelled p-e-r it's called satanic feminism his book and now he himself is a satanist

1:32:56

he's a luciferian

1:32:57

himself so he sees it as a good thing that the women of the 19th century openly

1:33:03

declared lucifer as their

1:33:05

liberator and the mascot of their movement now you would look back and think

1:33:09

these were christian women

1:33:11

because they were in like new england and stuff in in the united states puritan

1:33:15

communities and

1:33:16

things like this but they weren't in fact elizabeth katie stanton and a bunch

1:33:20

of her friends wrote

1:33:21

something called the woman's bible in 1895 where they rewrote the bible from a

1:33:27

feminist perspective

1:33:29

and took out the things that they thought uh were oppressive and patriarchal

1:33:34

and in the intro stanton

1:33:36

herself says i think her husband was a preacher maybe or something really

1:33:41

involved with the church at the

1:33:43

time but she said i don't believe that any man has ever heard anything from god

1:33:48

i don't believe the

1:33:49

bible is divinely inspired i think all of christianity was made up specifically

1:33:54

by men to oppress women

1:33:55

that's my personal belief she was more of like a proto new ager she believed in

1:33:59

like this monism stuff

1:34:01

and she said if i could monism yeah monism is like the kind of a lot of the new

1:34:06

age or even some of

1:34:07

the dmt bros will kind of come to this conclusion that there's like a one that

1:34:10

we have to return to

1:34:11

like we're all one and we're all god and we forgot that we need to return to

1:34:16

one yeah we're all we're

1:34:18

all god i've heard that one before yeah and we got to return to the one and

1:34:22

they were writing about

1:34:24

this stuff in like the early 1800s is like transgenderism gender abolition

1:34:29

gender as a

1:34:30

spectrum was being written about by margaret fuller in the 1840s in america and

1:34:35

she said we're never

1:34:36

going to return to the one as long as we have this gender division so in the

1:34:41

future i'm envisioning a

1:34:43

future with no gender there's no men and women anymore and she said nobody's

1:34:47

really born a man or a woman

1:34:49

you're either you're on this spectrum and some people are more on the male side

1:34:53

and some people

1:34:53

are more on the female but nobody is like fully one or the other it's i had

1:34:58

that argument once where

1:34:59

the guy was a professor it was one of the dumbest conversations i've ever had

1:35:02

on this podcast and i

1:35:04

eventually had to say to him if you go buy a puppy and it's a boy puppy but you

1:35:09

wanted a girl puppy

1:35:11

do you say that there is no gender what do you do right like what do you do

1:35:16

like what are we talking

1:35:17

about here you're saying that some men don't exist that men aren't real that

1:35:21

women aren't real that

1:35:23

no one is a man and no one is a woman like that's crazy how did you get here

1:35:27

you got here because

1:35:29

someone with an xy chromosome had sex with someone with an xx chromosome and

1:35:33

that's how it works it's

1:35:35

like a biological definition based on objective reality yes like we all know

1:35:41

that but there's

1:35:41

this weird fucking dance and that dance if you keep just asking questions like

1:35:47

why is that dance what

1:35:48

are you doing like why are you saying that like what does that mean well what

1:35:51

about this and what about

1:35:52

that it just falls apart but yet they have this weird resistance to facts yes

1:35:57

very strange well this

1:35:58

is why the occult was so appealing to these people and why so like feminists

1:36:02

are drawn to the occult and

1:36:03

occultists are drawn to feminism because in most occult traditions there is

1:36:08

this idea of gender bending

1:36:09

and gender fluidity and um transcending gender yeah in order to uh transcend to

1:36:17

something higher to become

1:36:19

the stars again or to become part of the one monad or so i i'm reading all

1:36:24

their backgrounds and

1:36:26

they're all writing about this stuff many of them claimed to be automatic

1:36:29

writers so they would write

1:36:31

a book about feminism say it's not coming from me it's coming from this entity

1:36:35

that is speaking through

1:36:37

me yes yeah like that kind of stuff so they would do that um they would like uh

1:36:41

victoria woodhull would

1:36:43

claim to be able to contact the dead or they would just say this christianity

1:36:47

stuff is only here to

1:36:49

oppress women lucifer was the good guy kind of the promethean myth of like

1:36:53

actually he was the good one

1:36:54

because he enlightened us and gave us you know free will and luciferianism is

1:36:59

very strange because

1:37:00

you look at the definition of luciferianism you think oh they're going to say

1:37:04

someone who believes

1:37:05

that the devil yes is god but it's not quite that like please pull up uh pull

1:37:10

up perplexity our

1:37:12

wonderful ai sponsor and ask it what is the definition of luciferianism because

1:37:18

i when i went down this

1:37:20

rabbit hole with your book i looked this up so it's very strange diverse belief

1:37:24

system by the way

1:37:25

that's a weird way to say a diverse belief system uh-huh that reveres lucifer

1:37:31

not as a christian

1:37:32

devil but as a symbol or deity of enlightenment knowledge and human potential

1:37:38

yes lucifer yes

1:37:39

fucking satan uh-huh the guy who rules hell yeah everybody burns for eternity

1:37:44

luciferianism uh luciferians

1:37:47

emphasize self-improvement free will and intellectual pursuit over traditional

1:37:51

religious religious dogma

1:37:53

they view lucifer as a light bringer or liberator often drawing from pre-christian

1:37:58

figures like prometheus

1:38:00

practices may include ceremonial magic but the focus is typically on personal

1:38:05

empowerment rather than the

1:38:07

worship of evil but that's a trap door ain't it yes it is that's what it seems

1:38:12

exactly what it is it

1:38:13

seems like a trap door just the way they describe it you're like oh well that's

1:38:17

me man i'm into

1:38:17

self-improvement and that's why it's we're all god i'm god and that's where you

1:38:23

get moral relativism

1:38:25

secular humanism comes from luciferianism by the way and in the 20th century

1:38:29

almost all the feminists signed

1:38:30

like the humanist manifestos and things like that the secular humanism stuff

1:38:34

where it's like

1:38:35

morality is subjective you know what's right for you at the time is what's

1:38:40

right and what's right or wrong

1:38:42

for me at the time and there is no objective moral facts yeah by the way the

1:38:46

reason they get away with

1:38:47

rewriting the history on feminism is because they use something called

1:38:52

standpoint theory and this is a

1:38:54

an epistemological framework that asserts that there is no such thing as

1:38:58

objective historical truth or facts

1:39:00

there's no objective timeline of history there are no historical facts and to

1:39:05

the extent that these

1:39:06

historical facts exist they were created by white patriarchal oppressors to

1:39:12

perpetuate their patriarchal oppression

1:39:14

oh boy we can't know the real history unless it's told from the perspective of

1:39:19

the most oppressed woman

1:39:21

and so that is how they rewrote everything and the stuff you're getting from

1:39:25

their textbooks the things

1:39:27

you're being taught in in university is this stuff it's not anything having to

1:39:32

do with objective

1:39:33

historical timelines so lucifer appears explicitly only once in the bible in isaiah

1:39:38

14 12 king james

1:39:40

version how art thou fallen from heaven o lucifer son of the morning how art

1:39:45

thou cut down to the ground

1:39:47

which didst weaken the nations and also this uh original context uh uh lucifer

1:39:59

translates from the hebrew term

1:40:03

meaning shining one bright one or light bear often linked to the morning star

1:40:09

yeah there's a there's a i think the later link in the later history is the

1:40:15

hell and say scroll back

1:40:17

down again with that stop right there it says uh oh not originally a proper

1:40:23

name or reference to satan

1:40:26

so but that is satan though right so it's who became satan yeah right so it's

1:40:31

like lucifer before he

1:40:32

went bad the old days like the beatles the early albums yeah i think so no well

1:40:36

it's so lucifer's not satan

1:40:38

what well the orthodox tradition is that he is and there's multiple names for

1:40:43

him so sometimes he's

1:40:44

called the adversary sometimes he's called different things the the modern

1:40:48

protestant interpretations of

1:40:49

things because they use sola scriptura there's a ton of like word concept fallacies

1:40:54

where they think

1:40:55

this word always refers to this one thing and they're not correct about that so

1:40:59

like our church tradition

1:41:01

says yes he is satan um he is the adversary he's you know the evil one he's got

1:41:08

lots of names um i think

1:41:10

lucifer is like his name is an angel but but so he was a fallen angel become

1:41:15

satan yeah so what

1:41:16

but obviously if someone it's not just a fallen age it becomes like the worst

1:41:23

being in the world or in the universe like how could you ignore that and only

1:41:28

concentrate on

1:41:30

the self-improvement part could you name that after somebody else yeah there

1:41:33

are a lot of other

1:41:33

self-improving people in the bible well that's the thing it just seems tricky

1:41:38

what this really comes

1:41:39

down to like the the name of the book is occult feminism it has two meanings

1:41:43

the first meaning is

1:41:44

a lot of these women were really into the occult right that's the most obvious

1:41:48

one but the second

1:41:49

one is occult the term itself just means hidden and there's a whole history

1:41:53

here that's been completely

1:41:55

intentionally hidden from both women and men but specifically from women that

1:42:00

if they knew it

1:42:00

i think they'd have a whole different view of this movement and they would

1:42:04

question a lot of its

1:42:05

foundational grounding axioms and and all the presuppositions we have that it

1:42:10

was to protect women

1:42:11

so if if we look at that if we look at the promises of feminism the promises we

1:42:17

were told

1:42:17

it's going to protect you from abusive men from unhappy abusive marriages it's

1:42:23

going to give you more

1:42:25

freedom and more choice in your life those were the the selling points and the

1:42:30

things we were promised

1:42:31

but if you actually like look at the statistics you look at the outcomes of

1:42:35

what's happened since

1:42:36

feminism became dominant and we pushed women into the workforce we discouraged

1:42:40

them from i mean

1:42:42

antinatalism is so rampant i mean you hear people refer to children as like icky

1:42:46

they call them

1:42:47

crotch goblins they call them you know sex trophies all these like uh derogatory

1:42:53

terms for children

1:42:54

and parents and you see the dual income no kids people the dinks making all

1:42:59

their like tick tocks

1:43:00

about like a day in our life is dinks we went to the taylor swift concert last

1:43:04

night and then we slept

1:43:05

in extra late and then we had brunch and smoked a joint like you know chelsea

1:43:08

handler look we have no

1:43:09

responsibility we live purely for ourselves we do whatever we want it's so

1:43:14

great so it's like always

1:43:16

been this dialectic of do you want to be self-sacrificial and give of yourself

1:43:22

for something

1:43:23

greater that goes into the future long after you're gone this greater purpose

1:43:28

that's going that you might

1:43:29

never even see fully the fruits of in your lifetime or do you want to party and

1:43:36

have fun and go after

1:43:38

what you want now and be kind of hedonistic kind of selfish and that's the that's

1:43:42

the luciferian paradigm

1:43:43

like even um the satanic temple guys anton lave and all those guys they said

1:43:48

look we're not even like

1:43:49

deistic satanists we just think i'm my own god i decide what's right for me i

1:43:54

do what i want in my

1:43:56

life for my own fulfillment and nobody is entitled to anything from me i decide

1:44:01

if and

1:44:02

when i want to give anything to anyone this life is for me those are kind of

1:44:06

the two sides you kind

1:44:08

of end up on and so when i when i say a cult i kind of mean that too i kind of

1:44:13

mean like yeah raising

1:44:15

five kids was really hard i did i didn't buy fancy new clothes i didn't get

1:44:19

beauty treatments i didn't

1:44:20

do much of anything for myself i went like 20 years with no sleep uh it was you

1:44:25

know it's it is hard

1:44:26

work but my children and hopefully their children who is who i wrote this book

1:44:32

for when i wrote it i

1:44:33

thought it was going to be like i didn't know i was going to be here talking

1:44:35

about it i thought it was

1:44:36

going to be for like my grandkids and my great grandkids and things like that

1:44:39

because i wanted them to

1:44:42

know this stuff um that's hard it's hard work and on the front end of that the

1:44:48

first 20 years

1:44:49

that you're raising kids it feels kind of thankless sometimes it feels tough

1:44:54

and you go what am i doing

1:44:55

all this for it so my friends are out at the concert they're partying every job

1:45:00

feels like that yes so

1:45:02

when you put in all that hard work and sacrifice on the front now i'm in my mid-40s

1:45:06

my kids are all grown

1:45:07

i have children that are like in their mid-20s adults my youngest is in high

1:45:10

school i have more

1:45:12

time to do other things that's why i said we give women backwards advice we

1:45:16

tell them spend all your

1:45:18

fertile years building an education and a career and then later if there's time

1:45:23

for a family maybe you

1:45:25

can do that if you want to be weird what we should tell women i think is you

1:45:30

can do a lot of things i'm

1:45:32

not saying you only have children and you never do anything else and that was

1:45:36

never the case historically

1:45:37

it was never the case i had my first child at 20 i had my last one at 32. i got

1:45:43

a lot of living god

1:45:44

willing you know that i'll be able to do other things i'm doing this now um

1:45:49

once i have grandkids

1:45:50

you'll probably never see me again because hopefully i'll be doing a lot with

1:45:54

that um i'll have time to

1:45:55

do things for my church for my community i could do anything i want i can

1:46:00

garden i can write books

1:46:02

there's a million things you could do and that was always the case this idea

1:46:05

that women didn't have

1:46:06

choices before feminism is nuts they were writing novels they were supporting

1:46:11

themselves you know

1:46:12

doing all kinds of other things and what's happened after feminism is now i

1:46:17

think you don't have many

1:46:18

choices because like my daughters my my uh second oldest is like i would love

1:46:23

to just get married

1:46:24

right now and have kids but like how do we pay for it what do i what do i do

1:46:28

until i find a husband

1:46:29

like between 18 say i don't find a guy till i'm 23 what do i do for those five

1:46:33

years just stay at home

1:46:34

and total my thumbs like what do i do do i get a job she feels like she doesn't

1:46:39

have choices she would

1:46:41

love to stay home and have kids um most of the women who write to me are like i

1:46:45

had one lady write

1:46:46

to me and say i ever since i got together with my boyfriend and started going

1:46:50

to church with him

1:46:52

all i can think about day in and day out is getting married and having kids i

1:46:56

daydream during the day

1:46:58

about my future children and i dream about them in my dreams at night that's

1:47:01

all everything in me wants

1:47:02

to do that but i'm in my last year of dental school and i have all this debt

1:47:07

and my parents fully

1:47:08

expect me to graduate and start a dental practice and if i told them i'm not

1:47:12

going to do that i'm just

1:47:13

going to stay home and have kids they would lose it they would probably disown

1:47:17

me they would think

1:47:18

i'd lost my mind they would say are you kidding you can't do that and i talk to

1:47:22

women all the time

1:47:23

who feel like they're trapped that way and the truth is feminism didn't make

1:47:28

anything safer for women

1:47:30

it did the opposite if you look at we have so much data on this cohabitative

1:47:34

relationships where you

1:47:35

just live with your boyfriend have a 35 higher domestic violence rate than

1:47:40

married couples if

1:47:42

you look at child abuse there's something called the national incident study i

1:47:46

have a whole breakdown

1:47:47

of this on my substack too it's gone over the last 45 years of all the data we

1:47:52

have from every reporting

1:47:53

agency in the country it's the most comprehensive one for the last 45 years um

1:47:59

children who live with

1:48:01

married biological parents are 12 times safer by on every metric whether it's

1:48:06

sexual abuse physical

1:48:08

abuse emotional abuse neglect by a factor of 12 times safer than any other

1:48:14

living situation

1:48:15

and kids that come from disrupted family living situations like mine where you

1:48:20

got divorced parents

1:48:21

and like dad's got a girlfriend mom's got a new husband those sort of things

1:48:25

those are all far far far

1:48:28

unsafer for children on every level that we look at and then if you look at

1:48:32

kids from fatherless homes

1:48:33

the risk for everything uh addiction learning disabilities mental health

1:48:39

problems uh ending up in a juvenile

1:48:42

facility being homeless it's like between 70 to 85 percent of kids in those

1:48:47

situations come from fatherless homes

1:48:50

so what we've done over the last 50 years is take dads and husbands out of the

1:48:56

home and replace them with the government

1:49:00

and it has made women and children more vulnerable to abuse to abandonment to

1:49:05

ending up on welfare to ending

1:49:07

up in any number of bad situations that you can think of it didn't protect us

1:49:11

and i think if more

1:49:12

women knew that they would at least you know give it a second thought and be

1:49:16

like hmm maybe the whole

1:49:19

getting married and having kids thing isn't so terrifying we don't fear monger

1:49:22

women about what can

1:49:23

go wrong if you dedicate your whole life to a career you know we don't tell

1:49:27

them well what if this happens

1:49:29

what what if you try to be a brain surgeon and then you get parkinson's and you

1:49:33

can never work again

1:49:35

but like what percentage of people in this country families in this country

1:49:38

require both parents to

1:49:39

work in order to get by most most so what's the solution to that well i think

1:49:45

it's not going to be

1:49:46

quick it's going to be a multi-generational project but i think if you give

1:49:50

women the choice i

1:49:51

believe simone de bouvois when she said that if you give women the choice more

1:49:55

and more will choose

1:49:57

to be moms and stay home at least more if they can't if in this situation we're

1:50:01

specifically talking

1:50:02

about where they require two incomes in order to pay the bills so that was me

1:50:06

so when andrew and i got

1:50:07

together um and we had two kids of our own we've now got a house full of kids

1:50:12

he's um you know starting

1:50:14

his career he's making okay money but nothing crazy and we had to like move out

1:50:18

to the country where it's

1:50:20

cheaper we had chickens we had a garden i had i learned how to be a firearms

1:50:24

instructor because

1:50:25

i could teach a class on a saturday only be gone for one day of the week and

1:50:29

make like 2 000 bucks

1:50:31

so i could make like a week's worth of money only working one day a week on the

1:50:35

day that he's home

1:50:36

so like my advice to people i'm not super huge on giving advice because it

1:50:40

depends there's a lot going

1:50:42

on that i don't know your situation but you have to get creative try to find

1:50:46

things you can do on the side

1:50:50

well it's one of the benefits to covid is now something like 30 of work is

1:50:54

remote from homework

1:50:55

if you can do that and kind of structure your day more around the kids and work

1:51:00

at night maybe when

1:51:01

dad's home things like that that's kind of an ideal situation in an ideal

1:51:05

situation yeah um i wanted to

1:51:07

talk about jack parsons oh yeah and uh all the craziness because we we had um

1:51:14

gone over the fact

1:51:15

that this guy was uh working for nasa he was involved in rocketry yes and yet

1:51:22

he was an avowed satanist

1:51:24

yes and he got involved in the whole feminist movement yeah through through his

1:51:29

girlfriend

1:51:30

marjorie cameron who was like an archetype of the scarlet woman so parsons was

1:51:35

kind of like he created

1:51:36

like a kind of an occult cult that was a break off from aleister crowley and

1:51:42

had a lot of crowleyan

1:51:43

beliefs and when he met marjorie cameron she was like this rebellious redhead

1:51:49

who smoked and drank and

1:51:51

slept around and like all the hollywood dudes in his circle kind of liked her a

1:51:55

lot of his friends

1:51:56

slept with her too um and she was very into the occult and she was really into

1:52:02

like witchcraft and

1:52:03

ritual magic and so was he and so when they met it was like instant chemistry

1:52:07

and the rumor the legend

1:52:09

is that they spent like i don't know multiple many days even like up to a

1:52:14

couple of weeks non-stop

1:52:16

doing sex magic together like that's all they did for a couple weeks with sex

1:52:20

magic so

1:52:22

according to like crowley and a lot of these kind of like more openly satanist

1:52:26

left-hand path type of

1:52:28

occultism the sexual experience and the orgasm is super powerful because it can

1:52:34

channel your emotions

1:52:35

in a way that nothing else can you get like this big surge of energy and

1:52:39

emotion that will make whatever

1:52:40

spell or ritual you're doing more powerful so crowley's favorite thing to do

1:52:46

was sodomize fellas in order to

1:52:50

worship demons or invoke demons yeah he had he had pets he had dudes that were

1:52:58

his little boy his bottoms

1:53:00

for his i i need to go uh was crowley gay or bisexual he was bi he had a lot of

1:53:06

women he would do this

1:53:07

stuff with too but he thought that the homosexual stuff basically the more

1:53:10

degenerate right it is

1:53:13

the more intense it's going to make the spell so oh boy so cast spells wise but

1:53:17

yeah whoa whoa and then

1:53:21

you add a little bit of hallucinogenic drugs in there too and and so that's

1:53:25

where you really get

1:53:26

the good stuff what impact did all these people have on feminism so i mean parsons

1:53:32

was also friends

1:53:34

with the guy who uh came up with scientology um hubbard yep and they actually

1:53:39

fought over marjorie

1:53:41

cameron for a while and when parsons died because he blew himself up you know

1:53:45

at home working on a

1:53:46

rocket he blew himself up cameron didn't handle it well she freaked out she

1:53:51

moved out into the desert

1:53:52

and was and started her own community cult of like moon children so nuts it's

1:53:58

so nuts she specifically

1:53:59

recruited like all different races of people like she focused on finding dudes

1:54:05

to impregnate her

1:54:06

supposedly to make moon children who were gonna like bring the antichrist and

1:54:11

they'd go out into the

1:54:12

desert and live on this ranch together and do a bunch of peyote and she made

1:54:15

like art i have some

1:54:16

of her art in the books this crazy weird looking crazy art um one of her

1:54:22

paintings is called peyote vision

1:54:24

it's wild but she was doing all the sex magic stuff to try to like reincarnate

1:54:29

him to try to bring about

1:54:30

the antichrist she thought she was the scarlet woman that was going to be like

1:54:34

the antichrist

1:54:35

version of mary where the antichrist is born through this scarlet woman and it's

1:54:39

references to babylon

1:54:41

and and the end times in the bible and all this stuff which crowley did all

1:54:45

that stuff too

1:54:45

and she was a feminist icon because this stuff goes along with being rebellious

1:54:51

it's it's there's a

1:54:52

reason there's like an archetype of feminists like a stereotype that they're

1:54:56

all they have daddy issues

1:54:58

they're man haters with daddy issues because they kind of are it's usually like

1:55:02

they're very against

1:55:03

god they're very against their dad like you can't tell me what to do you're not

1:55:06

the boss of me

1:55:07

i'm a strong independent woman i'm going to get what i want even if i have to

1:55:09

use my sexuality to do

1:55:11

with it it's like a very recurring theme of using sexuality because women don't

1:55:16

have the monopoly on

1:55:17

force men do so what do women have to get power sexuality and the power of like

1:55:22

determining who

1:55:24

gets to reproduce did you know that twice we all have twice as many female

1:55:29

ancestors as we do male

1:55:30

ancestors no so throughout history genetic studies show that twice as many

1:55:36

women have been able to

1:55:37

reproduce as men because we can't that's where our power is our power is if you're

1:55:43

a fertile female

1:55:44

someone's gonna fertilize you you don't have to be special or do much as a man

1:55:48

you have to compete

1:55:50

you have to have resources you have to out compete the other men who are trying

1:55:53

to get the female

1:55:54

pregnant that sort of thing and a lot of men historically died in battle really

1:55:58

young or

1:55:58

doing dirty or dangerous jobs you know they died younger a lot of times

1:56:02

or in war and then you'd have war brides you know so they'd get impregnated

1:56:07

again by like the enemy who

1:56:08

took them back to their homeland that kind of thing so yeah we we have this

1:56:12

that's where women

1:56:14

feel that their power lies is in sexuality that's why every pop star and every

1:56:19

movie star who's a

1:56:21

famous woman for the most part there's a handful of exceptions but most of them

1:56:25

they'll do anything to stay hot you know they're trying to be sexy at 70 like

1:56:31

um

1:56:32

who was that jane fonda sexy at 70 sexy at 80 you know she's gonna be sexy

1:56:37

forever hearing bones crack

1:56:40

ow my hip yeah yeah it was like uh i mean jennifer lopez is kind of doing that

1:56:45

too she's had how

1:56:46

many husbands and engagements and divorces and she's still out there in the thong

1:56:50

shaking it on vegas

1:56:51

you know her vegas shows and stuff and yeah she looks good she's got endless

1:56:57

money to do endless

1:56:59

things to look good lord knows what they're doing but um that's where women

1:57:03

think their power comes

1:57:04

from so cameron was like big into pushing this into the california like uh

1:57:09

counterculture in the 60s

1:57:12

and at the time this was like well in the 50s and 60s so like even people like

1:57:16

sammy davis jr who's

1:57:17

another guy that said he was a satanist sammy davis jr was a satanist hanging

1:57:22

out with sinatra

1:57:23

yeah that's what he said now you wonder sometimes if they just say that for

1:57:27

shock value i don't know

1:57:28

or maybe they had fun parties oh they definitely had they were they were having

1:57:33

diddy parties before

1:57:34

diddy was around you know what i'm saying so cameron was the it girl in the

1:57:39

counterculture in la and

1:57:40

her art was really popular and stuff and there's a lot that kind of came out of

1:57:45

her popularity that

1:57:46

went into the mainstream later in like these scarlet women archetypes of like

1:57:52

the sexy bad

1:57:52

girl who's rebellious and is undomesticated and unattached you know what i mean

1:57:57

and that's become

1:57:58

the cool girl now for a lot of people and that's why like you'll see

1:58:03

celebrities talking about oh i've

1:58:05

had four abortions yeah so what i do what i want and i'm not going to be held

1:58:09

down by no man or no baby

1:58:11

i'm gonna i'm a strong independent woman out here and i decide you know that's

1:58:16

what that's why you

1:58:17

see women screaming about how abortion is great they go to these rallies and

1:58:20

they're just like

1:58:21

screaming the most horrible things and i think if you convince enough women

1:58:27

that motherhood and

1:58:28

having babies is like this horrific oppressive ball and chain which is what my

1:58:32

mother was convinced of

1:58:33

she was totally convinced she said to me once having children's the worst thing

1:58:37

that ever happened to me

1:58:38

no offense she said no offense but it's the worst thing that ever happened to

1:58:42

me and i asked her

1:58:43

once i was like what do you what is it that you would have gone and done you

1:58:46

know if it weren't

1:58:47

for having kids she had no idea she had no answer she just knows that it would

1:58:52

have been great you know

1:58:53

what i mean so it's like they use a lot of fear of missing out a lot of indoctrinated

1:58:58

yeah yeah and then

1:59:00

that becomes your primary narrative and you believe it no matter what and you

1:59:04

just default to that no matter

1:59:06

what yeah and all your discomfort is because of this thing that you've already

1:59:11

identified this is

1:59:12

the problem patriarchy men i got saddled down with kids that's why i'm

1:59:16

miserable not because

1:59:17

i'm completely unproductive i don't have a good community i'm not healthy right

1:59:21

all the above isn't

1:59:22

it weird have you ever noticed like all the videos women will make about how

1:59:26

they get a divorce

1:59:27

i just went through my divorce and then i had a poor a post-divorce glow up

1:59:31

they lose 40 pounds they get in

1:59:33

shape they get their hair done then maybe get a little plastic surgery a little

1:59:37

botox a little

1:59:38

filler and they're like look at me now and it's like if you had done that while

1:59:42

you were married

1:59:43

you'd probably still be married and having a great time with your husband

1:59:46

perhaps the husband's a

1:59:47

fucking loser sometimes a lot that happens there's a lot of losers out there

1:59:51

there's a lot of guys i

1:59:53

wouldn't want to hitch my wagon to that's true as a woman like count on this

1:59:57

fucking dipshit to figure

1:59:58

things out i think that's the other uh result of the sexual liberation stuff

2:00:03

though is like what

2:00:05

motivation do men have to be like good dependable upstanding providers right

2:00:10

when they can just

2:00:12

sleep around and be boys and losers and that's where the dating apps are so

2:00:18

crazy it's so crazy like

2:00:20

you're on a date someone says one thing you don't like like let me just pick up

2:00:23

my phone and see who

2:00:24

else is around yeah it's crazy that so many people are on those things and you're

2:00:28

just like constantly

2:00:30

inundated by options i've never been on a dating app it's one of my biggest

2:00:34

flexes in life never been

2:00:35

on a dating app i've been with andrew for you know almost two decades now so it's

2:00:40

like i missed that

2:00:41

whole thing i feel like i caught the last chopper out of man i have some

2:00:44

friends that met wonderful

2:00:46

people on dating apps like i have a good buddy of mine who met his girl on a

2:00:50

dating app and he

2:00:51

loves her and they have a great relationship it can happen it's just like just

2:00:55

people that you don't

2:00:56

want to go to a bar you know that's not the type of people you want to meet in

2:00:59

the first place how do

2:01:00

you find them and you know they have like certain dating apps that are like

2:01:03

more selective i guess

2:01:05

yeah you know about like what what are you into try to pair someone up who's

2:01:08

like-minded if you're alone and

2:01:10

you're busy with other stuff and you find it very hard to meet someone i would

2:01:13

match it's really

2:01:14

interesting but then also yeah if you're a young person and you're just trying

2:01:19

to bang it out out

2:01:20

there on the streets and you know you got 14 people hitting your inbox and you

2:01:26

pictures of your abs and

2:01:28

you're flexing or whatever it is you know like that is chaos and i don't think

2:01:34

people are supposed

2:01:34

to have those kind of options no you didn't you never did historically it's

2:01:38

only been like 15 years

2:01:40

it used to be your area where you live right those were the people to choose

2:01:44

from and you'd find the

2:01:45

best person for you right in that like i taught i interviewed my grandma on my

2:01:49

youtube channel when

2:01:50

she was 97 and i asked her like when you and aunt thelma were when thelma and

2:01:56

lois were looking for

2:01:58

you know husbands in the early 40s like what were the things you guys were

2:02:02

looking for what did you

2:02:03

think about when you were like looking for a guy she's like oh well we you know

2:02:06

he had to have a good

2:02:07

reputation he had to come from a nice family you know because you're gonna you

2:02:11

know when you marry

2:02:12

a guy you marry his family so you got to think about that i wanted him to go to

2:02:16

like the same type

2:02:17

of church as me and believe the same things and he had to you know have good

2:02:22

job prospects you know

2:02:23

good future prospects because you know you want to raise a family and and those

2:02:28

sort of things she did

2:02:29

not say six foot six pack or six figures none of that came up it was all like

2:02:35

pretty wholesome and

2:02:37

very like long-term minded do you know what i mean right but she's thinking of

2:02:41

the future i don't feel

2:02:43

like i don't even feel like i did that i feel like when i was young i was

2:02:46

stupid and i was like he's

2:02:47

cute and funny that's good enough for me you know well it's like it's there's

2:02:52

normal preferences that

2:02:53

people have like two big tall guys fit people yeah wealthy people that's the

2:02:59

normal things but it's

2:03:01

like the thing about today and all the options is not just that it's all the

2:03:06

performative stuff that

2:03:08

people do consistently and constantly online so then you're also looking for

2:03:13

positive feedback from

2:03:15

strangers constantly yeah and then you're also reflecting on negative feedback

2:03:20

from strangers

2:03:21

constantly yeah so kids today are just overwhelmed drowning in anxiety yeah

2:03:27

because they're addicted

2:03:28

to this feedback and this this thing where they're always pretending to be

2:03:32

someone they're not online

2:03:34

and they're using filters and cars that they leased and you know yeah it's very

2:03:38

strange yeah i have four

2:03:40

girls and i made a point to always show them like i'll show them before and

2:03:44

afters of the kardashians

2:03:46

i'll show them here's kylie jenner before all but like probably hundreds of

2:03:53

thousands of dollars worth of

2:03:54

work that she's had done in professional stylists and trainers and all the

2:03:58

facial augmentations and all the

2:04:00

different things that they get done here's what she looked like just any normal

2:04:04

girl from your junior

2:04:05

high the only reason she looks like this now and on top of all the work and

2:04:09

everything else

2:04:10

there's filters and there's apps that they edit everything with and i'm like

2:04:15

this isn't real right

2:04:17

because i remember growing up in the 90s i don't ever remember thinking a whole

2:04:21

lot about

2:04:21

what my butt looked like if my nose was too big like all the things that they

2:04:26

hype these girls like

2:04:28

pick themselves apart today yeah it's terrifying it's like heartbreaking i

2:04:32

think boys do the same

2:04:33

thing they're like i'm short it's over for me i might as well self-delete i'll

2:04:37

never be anything

2:04:38

because i'm short and i'm like well what percentage of guys are incels today it's

2:04:42

kind of nuts

2:04:42

it's pretty high it's really high like higher than like there was a percentage

2:04:46

of men that don't have

2:04:47

any sex at all right now and it's nuts but it's that thing it's like 20 of the

2:04:53

men are desirable

2:04:54

to 100 of the women right those 80 of guys are yes yeah i don't i don't know

2:05:03

what we do about that

2:05:04

i don't have a great answer for that um i've tried kind of like talking like i'll

2:05:08

go on the whatever

2:05:09

podcast once in a while and kind of like ask girls probing questions about that

2:05:13

like do you think

2:05:15

it's possible that you could be missing it like if you're 22 and you won't date

2:05:19

a guy because he

2:05:20

only makes 50 grand a year it's like yeah well my husband only made 40 grand a

2:05:24

year when we met but

2:05:25

he makes way more than that now like you used to grow together and and having a

2:05:29

family really

2:05:30

motivates a man to like hustle and grow whatever it is that he's doing and try

2:05:34

to be better but it's

2:05:36

like if you're 22 and you're like i won't even look at you unless you make six

2:05:40

figures you're missing

2:05:41

out on a ton of great guys and it's like what what exactly do you want what are

2:05:45

you looking for and

2:05:46

they don't even know like well they're kind of programmed towards hypergamy

2:05:50

today right it seems

2:05:51

like they're programmed to go after the super successful hyper successful

2:05:56

people and not think oh i'm

2:05:58

developing a relationship with a man and we're going to grow together yeah and

2:06:02

they have it this is true

2:06:04

we know there's problems with men but we talk all the time about problems with

2:06:08

men and i think

2:06:09

what we tell women is you're perfect how you are you are a goddess girl and you

2:06:14

don't have to change

2:06:15

for anybody that's what that's what we tell them but then how many of those

2:06:19

women are now on ozempic

2:06:22

i don't listen crazy all of the body positivity women are all like 120 pounds

2:06:28

now they look like

2:06:28

they're making weight at the ufc yeah all the fat is beautiful influencers are

2:06:32

now just like

2:06:33

skeleton yes it's so strange kind of gave the game like kelly osborne on tv god

2:06:39

bless her soul i don't

2:06:40

know if she's doing that but i know a lot of them they just get megan trainer

2:06:45

megan trainer got popular

2:06:46

on a song about being a little bit chunky and having a big butt and that boys

2:06:49

actually like that better

2:06:51

and the minute she can get a glp one she's like never mind yeah i'll be skinny

2:06:55

now a lot of people

2:06:56

did it a lot of people did it lizzo did it yeah yeah it's uh but it's this

2:07:02

thing i always say to

2:07:03

men you know when they tell me like oh i i don't want to work out i don't want

2:07:06

to do any of those

2:07:07

things why do you do why do you waste all your time doing that i go if i could

2:07:10

give you a pill

2:07:11

that could make you really strong like instantaneously really strong and able

2:07:15

to like

2:07:15

strangle men like you could kill people with your bare hands you wouldn't take

2:07:19

it do you want to be

2:07:21

vulnerable do you like it well there's no pill but if you just work you can

2:07:25

become that you can

2:07:26

become a different type of man yeah like that's possible yeah but you don't

2:07:30

want to do it so you

2:07:31

want to dismiss it as being silly well why would it be silly to have power it's

2:07:36

to have strength to

2:07:38

have a physical body that can like move things around easier that can hold

2:07:42

people down if you

2:07:44

have to if there's something terribly wrong you can defend yourself why would

2:07:47

you not want to have

2:07:48

that well everybody wants that it's just it's an incredibly long path to get

2:07:53

there so they're

2:07:54

fucking scared of it so they dismiss it yeah it's the same thing as raising

2:07:57

kids right it's like

2:07:59

so i lifted weights for uh it's been like 18 years and there were periods where

2:08:04

i was really lean

2:08:05

and i looked fantastic and then there were periods where like i and i lifted

2:08:08

all through my pregnancies

2:08:10

and everything thank god and i highly recommend it because if you don't want to

2:08:14

have like a lot of

2:08:16

the complications you can have post-pregnancy like pelvic floor issues birthing

2:08:20

issues get really strong

2:08:22

and squat heavy be able to do some heavy deadlifts and stuff all that stays

2:08:27

really strong and it really

2:08:28

helps with your health i had a doctor that told me i wasn't going to walk again

2:08:32

after my fourth baby

2:08:33

because my pelvic bone separated when i birthed her you're not going to be able

2:08:37

to walk yeah she was

2:08:38

like you should just get a walker oh my god you're not going to be able to that

2:08:41

lady was so i know i

2:08:43

was like that's so crazy there's no rehab there's nothing you could do by that

2:08:47

time i knew that most

2:08:48

doctors give you advice based on liability they don't want to get sued she

2:08:52

doesn't want to tell me to go

2:08:53

squat because what if i hurt myself and then it's her fault it's so funny so i

2:08:57

just went right back to i'm

2:08:58

just gonna start with like literally lifting my legs in bed and then i progress

2:09:03

and now i've got

2:09:04

nothing wrong with me i'm super strong as i'm fine but it's the best thing to

2:09:08

do and through all those

2:09:09

years of lifting even when i was a little too chunky like after my son passed

2:09:13

away i gained a lot of weight

2:09:14

i could not care about myself for a couple of years i just couldn't bring

2:09:19

myself to do it but i still

2:09:21

went to the gym because it kept me sane it did more for me mentally than

2:09:26

therapy or anything else

2:09:27

other than prayer i would say prayer would be the number one thing gym a close

2:09:30

second it was a really

2:09:32

great way to battle out all of the really strong crazy emotions that i had just

2:09:37

one more rep you know

2:09:38

until you're so tired that it's like a lot of the bad feelings and stuff you

2:09:42

have you have some clarity

2:09:44

and you can kind of figure it out you know what i mean yeah that's one thing

2:09:48

that i think

2:09:49

would be a good way to develop more men is to encourage them into doing

2:09:53

difficult things yes

2:09:55

and difficult hard work and specifically physical things because i think your

2:10:00

body has a certain

2:10:01

amount of requirements in order to maintain like a stable level of anxiety and

2:10:06

mental health i think

2:10:08

i think it's a giant fact i know it's a giant factor because when i take a few

2:10:11

days off there's

2:10:12

something wrong if i get hurt or something like that i start getting batty i'm

2:10:15

like oh this is like

2:10:16

most people most of the time like that's yeah a terrible way to live your life

2:10:20

yeah andrew knows

2:10:22

if i'm if i'm out of sorts like that he's like the gym you haven't been to the

2:10:26

gym and like we just

2:10:27

moved across the country and it was like it's there's so much that goes into

2:10:31

doing that especially when

2:10:32

he has a business and everything and there's kids and so it was like the

2:10:35

longest i've taken off

2:10:37

ever i want to say like even with kids and surgeries i didn't have to take off

2:10:42

that long

2:10:43

and we finally got the home gym put in he's like oh you're normal again great

2:10:46

you're you're mentally

2:10:48

balanced again it's great for women too if you're a woman that struggles with

2:10:51

depression and anxiety

2:10:52

try pushing yourself really hard in the gym and you'll find out what you're

2:10:55

made of it doesn't mean

2:10:56

you have to be stronger than dudes it doesn't you're not going to get huge

2:11:00

muscles because you

2:11:00

don't have enough testosterone to do that unless you're taking gear or

2:11:03

something but get in there

2:11:05

and work out and then you have the added benefit of it's going to help you

2:11:08

through childbirth and

2:11:09

pregnancy as you get older you're not going to be fragile and need your kids to

2:11:13

take care of you

2:11:15

all the time you know what i mean like my parents both have terrible health and

2:11:19

i want to avoid that

2:11:20

so i'm trying to be like really proactive about keeping myself healthy avoiding

2:11:23

heart disease

2:11:24

diabetes all these things so that my kids don't have to have a power of

2:11:28

attorney and take care of

2:11:29

me right you know right um is there anything else you want to cover in the book

2:11:34

because uh it's or it's

2:11:35

a really i didn't read it i listened to it the guy who's reading it was um a

2:11:42

very odd voice it's very

2:11:44

odd i really wish you read it i want my husband to narrate it i've asked

2:11:49

multiple other people to

2:11:50

narrate it and i can't get anybody to do it i would love to do a reproduction

2:11:54

he actually did that for

2:11:56

free because he thought it was he was like this book is so important i'm happy

2:12:00

to do it he just sounds

2:12:01

like he has a bit of a sinus infection yeah he's got an odd voice yeah which is

2:12:05

fine but it's just like

2:12:06

it's the the information is very fascinating but i just i always wish people

2:12:11

read their own book

2:12:13

and audio yeah i you know why i didn't because i think i sound like lois griffin

2:12:19

and sarah palin

2:12:20

had a baby and i don't know that anybody wants to listen to hours of my voice i'm

2:12:26

sure they do they're

2:12:27

listening to it right now you have a normal voice maybe i'll do it it's all in

2:12:30

your own head i have

2:12:31

well i have this upper midwest like old guy you know that's fine that's you're

2:12:35

from the upper

2:12:36

midwest doesn't matter but the point is it's like it's interesting because this

2:12:41

is your work it's

2:12:42

your perspective you know yeah um and it's it's really good there's a lot i'd

2:12:49

say if i gotta say

2:12:49

anything else about it um i did not write this book nor do i talk about these

2:12:55

things or debate feminists

2:12:56

because i hate women i do not hate women i love women i'm a woman i have

2:13:02

daughters i have women in

2:13:03

my life that i love and that's a crazy narrative yeah well and people think

2:13:08

they'll say like why

2:13:09

do women act so crazy nowadays why are they all so crazy and it's like what do

2:13:13

you think would happen

2:13:14

if you took any group of humans and you said you are perfect the way you are

2:13:18

you are a goddess you are

2:13:19

strong independent whatever you are you don't need to change there's nothing to

2:13:23

be improved upon and if

2:13:25

if you do something wrong it's only because a man somewhere hurt you or did

2:13:29

something bad and that's

2:13:31

the only reason that you would do like we've removed accountability we've given

2:13:35

women more power than

2:13:38

the balance i think there was a balance already before feminism because you had

2:13:42

women with the power

2:13:43

over reproduction and mate selection and sexuality and motherhood um and all

2:13:49

the influence they have

2:13:50

over men through those things and then you had men with the monopoly on

2:13:55

physical force and probably

2:13:57

like political force and things like that so there was kind of a balance and

2:14:00

what we did with feminism

2:14:02

was we just completely threw it off and now we're like no men you you stay down

2:14:06

you be quiet you're toxic

2:14:08

you're bad you like schools public schools are terrible for boys sit down be

2:14:13

quiet be like susie

2:14:14

uh just use the highlighter and organize things by color and be quiet and still

2:14:19

and soft and nice and

2:14:21

you know we hr manage boys to death now and so we've thrown the balance off and

2:14:27

what we've done is

2:14:28

give women all this power but taking away all the accountability and it's like

2:14:31

why would you not

2:14:32

expect them to act a little crazy why would it not kind of spoil them and i i

2:14:37

don't think women are

2:14:39

inherently bad i think what feminism has done has made them a worse version of

2:14:44

who they would be

2:14:46

otherwise i think we need accountability and responsibility we need to have

2:14:50

some self-sacrifice

2:14:51

in life we need to have the same inherent human struggle that men have and that

2:14:57

all all people have had

2:14:58

and we we did before so every time you look in history this is a key thing if

2:15:02

you are arguing

2:15:03

with feminists if you're looking at history and they say look at this horrible

2:15:06

thing women couldn't

2:15:07

have this or women didn't do that or there was stigma around this ask yourself

2:15:12

was that also true

2:15:13

for men because it always is it always is men didn't have this glorious carefree

2:15:19

existence free

2:15:20

of responsibility where they had all the power and control but none of the

2:15:23

accountability that's a lie

2:15:25

that's a myth but we've convinced women of that so now we're trying to flip it

2:15:29

the other way and yeah

2:15:30

women are acting crazy we have bonnie blue and we have like all these crazy

2:15:34

only fans girls and like

2:15:36

the only women online besides me and a handful of others are boss babes and

2:15:41

only fans chicks and

2:15:42

instagram models and blue-haired screeching feminists that's what we've ended

2:15:47

up with so it's like

2:15:48

i wrote it because i think feminism is bad for women and i think it would help

2:15:54

i think it's bad for

2:15:54

everyone and kids i am no longer willing to sacrifice the welfare of children

2:16:00

on the altar of feminism

2:16:02

ever again i won't do it and if you want me to throw kids under the bus so that

2:16:07

women can do blah i

2:16:09

don't care what it is i'm not going to do it i want to see kids growing up in

2:16:14

loving families with both

2:16:15

their parents i want to see community again i want to see families again all

2:16:20

the great stuff that we all

2:16:22

lost from that the loneliness epidemic all the depression and the anxiety women

2:16:27

have higher rates

2:16:28

of substance abuse than ever in recorded history right now 26 don't men also

2:16:33

have higher rates no it's

2:16:35

actually stayed pretty static with men in fact like gen z boys hardly ever

2:16:40

drink like the marijuana but

2:16:42

what about opioid addiction the opioid epidemic uh is pretty pretty much both

2:16:49

because i think it's

2:16:49

kind of medically based a lot of people get something you know surgery or

2:16:52

whatever and then they get hooked

2:16:54

yeah and they get hooked on it and then they got to go looking for it elsewhere

2:16:58

um but women we've never

2:16:59

seen as high a rate of fetal alcohol syndrome in babies as we're seeing now and

2:17:04

alcoholism is much

2:17:05

worse for women our bodies are smaller our livers don't handle toxic amounts of

2:17:09

alcohol even as

2:17:10

well as a man's bad for men it's even worse for women uh 26 percent of american

2:17:16

women are on at

2:17:17

least one psychiatric prescription drug yeah that's nuts that's nuts and they

2:17:22

did something there in my

2:17:24

book i covered uh the a big study called um the paradox of female happiness and

2:17:29

this came out in 2008 i

2:17:31

think it made huge waves where they did this giant survey of women uh they had

2:17:37

done one in the 70s and

2:17:38

they were repeating it you know 40 something years later to see like okay we've

2:17:43

had a lot of feminism

2:17:44

are women doing better and on every metric they measured women reported being

2:17:49

less fulfilled less

2:17:50

happy and less content than they did in the 70s before they were like fully

2:17:55

liberated um and they give a lot of

2:17:57

reasons as to why you know the the burden of having to juggle work and home and

2:18:02

the expectations of

2:18:04

versus reality of what feminism sold them and things like that and then they

2:18:08

did a repeat study several

2:18:10

years later that was even more comprehensive where they went to other countries

2:18:14

and other societies and

2:18:15

different types of places and did another survey about women's happiness

2:18:19

because now feminism is pretty global

2:18:21

there's only a few places in the world where it hasn't really taken hold yet so

2:18:25

they they were

2:18:26

like we should check other places and the authors of the study opened with

2:18:30

something that i thought was

2:18:32

kind of funny they said regardless of where you look culture economic status

2:18:37

religion it doesn't seem to

2:18:39

matter women everywhere and always are less happy than men and they they said

2:18:44

the reasons for that are

2:18:45

somewhat biological we have like hormonal fluctuations that men don't deal with

2:18:49

you know things like

2:18:50

periods and menopause and all that sort of stuff and we're just less

2:18:54

emotionally stable women experience

2:18:56

three times the mental illness than men do

2:18:58

and and it could be for many reasons we could like try to tear all that apart

2:19:05

but

2:19:05

feminism hasn't made women happier it hasn't been made them safer i don't think

2:19:10

it's really given them

2:19:11

more choices it's just given them kind of different choices um and children are

2:19:17

suffering the most

2:19:18

and when you tear apart the family unit which is what the marxist feminists

2:19:22

said was their explicit

2:19:24

purpose because property rights are passed down through men men uh you know

2:19:28

build businesses and own

2:19:30

properties the most and pass it down to their kids so they're like we got to

2:19:33

get rid of this fatherhood

2:19:35

stuff the patriarchy we got to get rid of the family unit especially like the

2:19:39

leninist ones were like

2:19:41

lenin should be the daddy the government should be the daddy um because yeah

2:19:46

and you see that with a

2:19:47

lot of socialist leaning cities where they want the state to be in charge of

2:19:52

things like decisions

2:19:54

whether a child can medically transition yes that kind of shit yes all that

2:19:59

stuff it it's all there for

2:20:02

reasons which are all detailed in the book but it's basically a scam and i feel

2:20:06

like women have been

2:20:07

grossly misled and horribly propagandized to believe a whole bunch of that's

2:20:12

not even true

2:20:12

and if they read my book and if they look into it themselves they double check

2:20:17

all my sources they go

2:20:18

back and read everything themselves and they still believe it's better for them

2:20:21

that's fine but i at

2:20:23

least want them to know the truth and be able to make an informed decision

2:20:26

about

2:20:26

why they're living their life the way they are and if they believe this sort of

2:20:31

stuff and if they really

2:20:32

accept this feminist framework or not well it's a really really well written

2:20:37

book and it's very

2:20:38

fascinating and i really enjoyed this conversation well thanks i'm so glad that

2:20:41

you loved the book i was

2:20:42

really shocked that you liked it so much that no i really did it was it was

2:20:46

very it was eye-opening

2:20:47

like that how many of these people were full-on kooks like they just abandoned

2:20:53

their kids and these are the

2:20:55

people that everybody's looking to like oh she was a boss lady like she was a

2:20:59

monster she's a horrible

2:21:00

person that didn't think anyone should have children like there's so much of

2:21:05

that in the book it's

2:21:06

really really great it's crazy so here it is um occult feminism the secret

2:21:10

history of women's liberation

2:21:12

rachel wilson go get it thank you thanks so much it was fun bye everybody