The Time Will Harris Lived with a Sex Addict in Malaysia | Joe Rogan

And I did that for like three years, like chasing it, going to tryouts, things like that, sending tapes to agents and things like that. And it just didn't pan out. Nothing stuck. You know, I had opportunities. I just wasn't the same player. And I can admit that. And I'm comfortable with that because I know I had a successful basketball career. Just didn't go to the level where I made millions of dollars. But after that, man, I was literally stuck after traveling around the world. I ended up in Malaysia. I was in Australia trying to proceed. Malaysia. You don't want to know how I ended up over there. I do want to know. Man, this is funny. Only a few people know this story. So when you're at your bottom, you try to find something for comfort. I've never done weed or anything in my life, but I was addicted to online dating back then. Really? I was like trying to meet girls, like just to try to find some situation. I felt like, oh, I feel incomplete. So let me like online date or whatever. And I met this girl, like one of my friends in Phoenix played basketball in Kuala Lumpur. So obviously you need a visa to go over there. So I'm thinking to myself, like, what's the the way I could get over there to Kuala Lumpur and try to play basketball? So I was like online dating. I don't even remember what website it was. Well, honestly, you're a good looking guy. I know. How are you not getting girls in America? I do. But I'm just saying I was just listening. My whole point. My point was I literally met this girl in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. She is from Canada. She was a singer over there singing in a little military bars or whatever. It was a little hot blind or whatever she was. And I remember talking to her for about a month and I convinced her that I wanted to come visit her. But my whole intention was let me get over there, try to find out what this team is and see if I can like try out for some crazy shit. You don't do that today. I did it back then. So I went over there to I'm laughing because I know people that know me is dying listening to this right now. This is a true 100 percent story. I get over there to Malaysia with no money. I may have four hundred dollars. I got people to pay for ticket. I'm going to Malaysia to play basketball. This is lying to people. Right. So I get over there. This girl, I don't want to say her name. She might sue me. But she picked me up at the airport. She looked exactly like her pictures. Beautiful from Canada. Everything. So she take me to her apartment. She got this nice apartment. It's like in a jungle. Joe, like I'm talking about the balcony. I seen like little monkeys on the balcony. Whoa. Yes, it was crazy. And then it's like a rainforest. Right. And then in Malaysia, if you ever been in Malaysia, I don't know if it's like that now. The doors are high off the ground, like two inches. So it's like anything can crawl under the doors or whatever. So that's the first thing I noticed when I got to Malaysia. I was like, this is some crazy shit. Right. We're in a jungle and the door like what about snakes or bugs? I remember asking these little kids when I first got to Malaysia. I was like, have you ever seen a snake like in this area? And it was like, yeah, I seen a cobra and all this stuff. And I was like, holy shit. But back to her, she turned out to be a sex addict. Yes. Congratulations. Man, listen, you know, this is crazy, like because this is way before I ever decided to do film for a living. Right. I was over there the first day I got there. Like I had a good time with her. Then I ended up having relations with the lady and she turned out to be a sex addict. So, you know, as a man, I just flew all the way across the world to see this girl, you sleep with her. And then all of a sudden she wanted to do it again and again and again. And then when you like slow down, like, you know, I just got here. Bro, she started crying and going nuts. And I'm in Malaysia. I'm like, I don't know who this girl is. Oh, no. Listen, she's crying because you won't fuck her again. Yes. How many times you fuck her? About two times. And she wanted to. Yeah. Two long times. It's crazy. So I am. Listen, I am in Malaysia. I'm not in America. I'm in Malaysia. So the crazy thing is probably after a week, she started to go crazy and complain about I'm not sleeping with her. I'm in my I'm in my prime, my sexual peak and you don't want to sleep with me. And I'm just thinking of myself like, I don't know what the fuck am I doing over here in Malaysia? Like with this lady. So I ended up meeting this black guy that she introduced me to. There was like a hustler in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. And I started hanging out with him just to get out of the house. And you're like living with any money to go home. Oh, my God. So I'm just stuck in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia with this beautiful girl that you have to fuck all the time. First world problems, right? Serious first world problems. And then she started getting even better like, I hate Americans. You Americans are so ungrateful. And I'm just thinking like, damn. Wow, you're representing America. Yeah, it was crazy. I was like, damn, I must have just didn't do it good enough. I thought girls be lined in tonight. Right? Well, maybe she's just extraordinary. She was like in her late 30s and I was in my early 20s. So some girls in the late 30s, they hit this itchy peak. And it's just like all the time. She ended up kicked me out of her house in Malaysia. Wow. Like I went out with Bobby one night, this dude, his name was Bobby, too. And I came home and she said, your stuff is outside. Like she texts me. I had a little international phone. She's like, your stuff is outside. I'm thinking like she was like, yeah, this is not working out. So think about that. Imagine being in another country and this is not working out. No money. No money. Zero. Not a dime. And the guy that I was with, I told him what happened. He was like, I'm gonna take you over there, get your stuff. You can stay with me until you figure it out. I get there and all my stuff is outside. Everything. She's not there. She's done left or whatever. And I had some brand new timberlands. Remember the boots, timberlands? I am poor. Shit, I need them timberlands. They in the house. I have more brand new. So I kicked the door down. Boom. Oh, no. Yes. Like I was trying to get in the door. I just kicked it and it broke like the little handle broke. I got in, got my timberlands left. I remember she texted me. She was like, Hey, did you break my door? I was like, no, I don't know what you're talking about. I just left. So from there I was, I stayed with Bible for like three weeks in Malaysia. I was hanging out with him every day going to parties and I'm like, bro, I got to get home to America. So I contacted my, one of my mentors growing up in Australia. He was playing professional basketball in Melbourne. Name was Shah Tucker. Shout out to him. And I convinced him to get me a ticket to come over to Melbourne because I was like, bro, I need some money to go home. And he was like, no, man, I just get you a ticket to come to Melbourne. I was like, bro, literally like I'm trying to go back to America. I don't know what to. But then when he, he sold me on, I was like, damn, I really ain't going back to nothing. So let me go. He was like, man, you can come over here and try out for the team. You can try out practice with us. And I was like, oh, that may be my opportunity to play professional basketball. He's one of the top players in Australia. So I ended up in Melbourne. And I was in Melbourne for three months, not doing shit, but going out, practicing with the team. This, it was mid season. So I couldn't like make a team because they was already, you know, they think. And then I ended up getting stranded over there too. Because he left me because he cheated on his girlfriend and he had to go make up with her. So he left me talking about I'm going to be back. And then I was just stuck in Australia like, yo, bro, I need to get back to America. No job. No job. No money. Nothing. Oh my God. He was like, I'm glad I was young when I did all this stuff. He was like, hey, man, tell her, tell one of them girls a sob story. They get you a sob story. I'm like a sob story, bro. You have money. Buy me a ticket to go home. Man, I can't do it right now. I'm like, man. So I had to tell this girl a sob story. Her name was Deanna. Deanna Casar. I'm giving her a shout out because she saved my life. She bought me a ticket home. She went in her savings and bought me a ticket back from Melbourne to Honolulu to Las Vegas. And I didn't know why I chose Las Vegas, but I just chose to go to Las Vegas. So you literally has zero money. Zero money. How are you eating? Shit. Her. People that I was around, right? They just fed you. Yeah. Man, sometimes you have angels in your life. And I guess these people were angels too. Because that's what I was just telling Jamie, like I just seen a documentary on homelessness. It was like four out of five people in LA County paycheck to paycheck. I think it was like eight or four out of five people are like one $400 emergency from being broke or it was like 80% of people live paycheck to paycheck. So I always tell people like when I'm inspiring people now, I'm like, bro, I was homeless once because that's essentially homelessness. Yeah. If you ain't got an address, you can't pay bills. You're homeless. Yeah. No matter if you got a roof over your head. And I feel like people. You see all these beautiful moments that I do now or what anybody does does and they don't see the story that ultimately led you like what what ultimately turn to you doing what you're doing now. So after Australia, I went to Vegas. I was living with two strippers. Yes, I live with two strippers. Congratulations. Yeah, I lived in Vegas with two strippers that worked at the Rhino, the spearmint Rhino. I met him on Craigslist for rooms to rent. Jesus. Christ. And I had enough money, like $600 to move into a room. So I literally moved in with these girls. And one day, have you ever been in the Vegas casinos? Because this is like the climax. You ever seen like the mega bucks slots? Sure. So one day it was Floyd Mayweather versus Oscar de la hoya. So that was the year I was in the the mirage and I seen these two hot black girls. And I had like some money in my pocket, honey, to something. So I wanted to sit down next to him. So I went over there and sat next to him and was just, you know, trying to shoot the shit. And I put a $20 in them slots because, you know, you can get free drinks if you put in a slot. So I just hitting it talking to him. Where are you out for him? You're going into the fight, blah, blah, blah. And then one of the girls was like, hey, you won. I was like, okay, you know, you think he ain't winning those slots. Guess how much I want. How much? $9,000. Whoa. Swear to God. $9,000 to somebody broke. Wow. Yes. $9,000. So when they give you that, do you pay taxes on it later? Yeah, I gave him the wrong social security number. You gave him the wrong. Yeah, I gave him the wrong. Yeah, because they just actually your name, your social security number. Oh, okay. Maybe you shouldn't have just told everybody that. They can't prove that I want anything. They can't. That was like 12 years ago. They didn't have records back then. I don't think so. I hope not. Me too. Ain't nobody gonna watch this. Nobody's watching this right now. No, no, no. This is, nobody's gonna watch this. Nothing. So after that, I literally lived off that nine grand for about the rest of the summer. And I ended up moving to San Diego after that. Like I'm skipping some stuff, but I moved to San Diego. And that's when my life changed. Because I lived in San Diego and was just partying. What brought you to San Diego? I met a guy in Vegas during the night of the Floyd Mayweather fight and just party with him that night. And I just got his phone number one time. And then I was just, you know, staying in touch with him, whatever. And then he was like, I live in San Diego. He's in the Navy, Dr. Bill. And I literally said, let me come out there one weekend. I was like, let me just come out there and kick it with you or whatever. Because he was telling me how great San Diego was. And I went out there and I didn't leave for four years. San Diego is pretty awesome. Yeah, I love San Diego. But I essentially was doing the same thing I was doing for the past couple years. Lost. Because you got to understand, like, athletes go through this now. Like I just did, I just released the episode with Ron Bader on my channel. And I talked to him about that. Like when when your sports career is done, a lot of people go to something else, they lost and things like that. And I was for about four or five years. And it wasn't until I lived in San Diego that I figured I was like, man, I got to really do something with my life. I'm literally a failure. I got to have a college degree. I graduated from college. So it wasn't like I just didn't want that responsibility of having to do a nine to five or and things like that. So it wasn't until I lived in San Diego that I literally talked to the guy that I was living with him was like, bro, I don't know what I'm gonna do in my life, bro. But I got a figure or something out. I was like nearing 30. And I ended up moving to Minneapolis, back to Minneapolis. And I got a job as a teacher, like a teacher's assistant, they call it behavior assistant, I was like working with kindergarten kids. Jesus, literally crazy life, right? What a crazy life to end up where I'm at now to be on Joe Rogan, right? So it was March 3, 2011. It was like negative 20 degrees outside, I was living with my guy, my best friend. And I went to work that day, and it was freezing outside. And they literally still went to recess that day. I'll never forget that. They was like, Oh, put your coats and gloves on kids, it's time to go to to recess. And I was like, What do you mean? We're going to the gym or outside is like we're going outside. I was like, man, these people in Minnesota. Crazy. Hard. Those are hard people, bro. That was the last day I ever worked in my life. You said fuck this. I can't do it, man. I was like, it was just the fact that I was like, What am I doing with my life? I'm working with Ken, the great rewarding job. I'm like, What? It's nothing wrong with me. Right. I'm physically able to do anything. I'm intelligent enough to do anything. I'm qualified enough to do anything. You're a victim of circumstance. Just kept happening. Things kept happening. And a lot of it is my fault. Like, because you're just lazy, right? So March 3, 2011, is the day I said I'm quitting my job. I went back to my apartment with my roommate. He was pissed. He was like, Bro, you always quitting jobs. And he was like, Bro, what you gonna do? I was like, Bro, I'm I'm finna figure something out. I'm finna buy a camera or do something. He was like, Yeah, whatever. And we literally was sitting in the kitchen in this little kitchen on the floor talking about life. Because I was just telling I literally mentally broke. I was like, Bro, I'm just jacked. Like, I gotta figure something out. I had pale Grant was coming up. I was getting my tax returns back. And I had enough to buy a camera. And the first camera I ever bought was a Canon T2i. It was like $800. And I bought a lens. And that was it. That was it. It changed my life. And I literally spent like the next year shooting videos in garages like cars coming up, filming the wheels. And I was just really literally honing myself. Because back then, when I had a camera in college, digital cameras weren't even out until 2008, like these little new style cameras. So I had to relearn everything. And I relearned a lot from YouTube and Vimeo. And I was watching the I had a creative eye and mindset. So I was just like, I got to get the skill set. So I started doing rap videos for $50 $100 free. You know, I tell all these kids that message me now like, Bro, I spent two years doing videos for free. Just trying to learn how to do this stuff. Everybody want to get paid for something. And I'm like, you probably don't deserve to get paid yet. So I, I have friends, shout out to Mac, mr. organic. Like I was shooting a videos for free. And I was just getting better. I was getting better and better and better and better and then like three years into it. I shot a music video called Saks Fifth Avenue. And so you're editing these as well. I'm adding them doing them all. What are you editing on? At the time, I was editing on Sony Vegas. Old program now. Yeah, it's it's it's it's popular now. It's pretty easy to use. And it was cheap to buy like 90 bucks. So I was able to use that. Like the movie studio version, it was you don't get all the little tools, but you got enough. And I had this cheap laptop that this girl bought me. She lied and told me she was gonna buy me a camera to end up buying me a laptop. I was pissed off. And I was like, she was like, Listen, like, the most popular camera camera back in like 2011 was like a Canon 5d Mark II. It was like $2,000. I couldn't afford that. So I met this girl online. Literally from Denver, Colorado, from Denver, Colorado. You know, you start your little love affair, whatever you talking, you promising and I want to see you. So one day she was like, I'm gonna come see you in Minnesota. This is around the time I started. And she told me she was gonna buy me that camera because I was telling that's like my dream camera, my dream camera. And I remember my roommate, like I running his room like, Look, bro, look at his short film. Never shot with this camera. I'm feeling had his camera, bro. We finna do all types of things. So she like kept telling me she had the camera kept telling me had the camera. So like the day she came, I picked her up. I had this little used 1992 Ford Taurus. It was blue. And I picked her up the airport. I remember I was like, Where the camera at? Soon as soon as soon as soon as she picked me up, where the camera she was like, Don't worry, don't worry, don't worry. And I'm like driving thinking like, man, she ain't got this camera. She lied to me. She just want to see me. Right? So we get to my apartment. And my boy he anticipating it too. He like, man, he finna get this camera. We finna shoot all the music videos, right? Because if you get this camera at this time, you Oh, you shooting with a 5d. So I remember she like, she's like, Here's a gift. It's like she put out the gift. And I'm like, This ain't no camera box. It was a brand new laptop. And I'm sitting there complaining. I'm complaining about a laptop and I already have a camera. But she like, give me this laptop. And I was just like, All right, cool. So she gave me the laptop. And I get the Sony Vegas program. And then I started editing with that. And I had that camera for about two years. I was like, Girl, I don't know. Just a lot of that in my life. And I don't blame them girls. Listen, man. Yeah, I used to be one of those guys. You know, them girls, this materialistic and they all about nice things. And they like to travel or you ever dated a girl, and you like see her previous boyfriend, and they'd be like, Damn, they don't want to like Napa Valley and Vegas for her birthday or New York pressure. And you're like, Damn, I can't even take you to the movies. I'm like, Damn. So for me, if a girl get tired of you, now they call it ghosting, right? They call it ghosting. But back then ghosting. That's what ghosting was. It's like, Oh, this guy ain't worth nothing. Let me get rid of them. So she left. She left. I had a summer job. My last ever official job was at 43 hoops in Minnesota was a basketball academy where I was there with a lot of pro basketball players. Or semi pro or guys that had college experience. And we just taught kids all the time. And I was getting paid, you know, $20 an hour, $25 an hour per session to teach kids. And I kind of made a ruckus there to complaining about just, bro, we teaching 20 kids and I'm only getting $20. How much are y'all getting for all these kids, right? But I mean, that's just work, right? I shouldn't complain about a job. But that whole summer, I was just telling everybody in there. I'm going to do film. I'm moving back to California. I'm about to do film. I'm about to do film because I had enough. Like I was doing videos at that point, but now I have a part time job and I'm able to do videos. And I never forget one day I was telling a group of guys in there. I'm quitting his job. And I'm finna go do film. And I just remember to look on their face like, you know, like the boy that cry wolf. Whatever, man, you ain't gonna do anything. But that drove me insane, Joe. Doubt. Doubt drove people down. People doubted me. That's what I needed. I needed that fuel where people could tell me I couldn't do anything. He needed haters. I needed haters. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. 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