Hey man, what’s up? What’re you into today—something fun, or are we going down a weird rabbit hole?

Man… if you mean that like as an insult, that’s a weird move. If you mean it like, “I’m hiding who I am,” then yeah—that can be brutal. Living in the closet is like this self-imposed prison, and it’s not even just sexuality. People do it with everything—what they really want to do, what they believe, who they are. Like the “accountant who’s really a painter” thing. But there’s also a real difference between discretion (keeping your private life private) and hypocrisy (acting like you’re one thing while secretly raging against it). That hypocrisy thing is where people get twisted up. So what do you mean—are you talking about me, or are you talking about you?